Rogained Another Fan!
I was OUTRAGED that you criticized a college guy for online dating, saying it's "for the Rogaine generation." I'm 23 and met my wonderful fiance on the Internet. A man isn't less of a man because he finds a girlfriend online!
--Couldn't Be Happier
Sure, some college students find dates online, but you're OUTRAGED that I advised against it? And, of all the things in the paper you could find to be OUTRAGED about? What happened, seen one oil-soaked dead baby duck, seen 'em all?
Eventually, the pesky human aspect will probably be removed from dating, and a guy'll stay home repiping the sink while his avatar's out trying to unhook some other avatar's bra. For now, the human-to-human element remains, and a guy in college will never again be in a place so swarming with hot, single, dateable women. It's especially wise for this particular guy to take a more analog approach to hitting on girls if I'm right in my suspicion that he online dates because he's too big a wuss to deal with face-to-face rejection. Opportunity (aka the hot girl down the hall) is knocking on his dorm room door, and he should be answering it, not calling out, "Not now! I'm IMing with Im300LbsFatterThanMyPicture999!"
A man isn't less of a man because he finds a girlfriend online!
No, but he might be if he only looks for women online, especially if he's in college at the time. Or, you know, if he's OUTRAGED that someone would tell a college guy to get off his ass and talk to the coeds around him.
He's OUTRAGED, I tell you, OUTRAGED! Looks like boo-boo needs some validation for his personal choices.
NumberSix at July 6, 2010 9:01 PM
Yeah, I met my EX husband online...that worked out great.
Renee at July 7, 2010 4:52 AM
Self confidence is a terrible thing to lack.
I have advice: Toastmasters, or Dale Carnegie. You get good at things by doing them.
Save the outrage for what the folks in Washington are doing to your future and mine.
MarkD at July 7, 2010 6:21 AM
Yeah, it's one thing to disagree with someone, but to get OUTRAGED when you don't like their advice? I wonder if maybe the LW is not feeling too good about his "wonderful fiancee" he found online and wants to lash out at someone else?
WayneB at July 7, 2010 7:21 AM
Outraged, huh? Poor chap. Don't you just love hyperbole? It could be worse -- he could be flummoxed, gobsmacked, driven into a blind rage, beside himself with anger, or (insert your own hyperbole here).
I put him in the same category as the guy a few columns ago who just couldn't tolerate Miss Alkon's point of view on who makes what moves in the dating game.
old rpm daddy at July 7, 2010 7:48 AM
Well, I'm shocked--SHOCKED, that this person is so easily outraged.
Pricklypear at July 7, 2010 10:03 AM
Outraged is a fairly strong term.
There are, as multiples have pointed out, that "outrage" is a bit excessive. Pricklypear put it best I think, "shocked--SHOCKED, that this person is so easily outraged."
That one made me laugh.
I met my wife online, it was back in the early days of web design, I did some work for her, things took off from there. Life is funny that way.
Robert at July 7, 2010 2:20 PM
Next thing we know, LW will be getting the vapors.
A few columns back, Amy criticized guys for "winking" on dating sites. My husband "winked," and he turned out to be wonderful. I'm not exactly outraged at her comment. It's just not that important on the scale of things to be outraged about.
MonicaP at July 8, 2010 7:13 AM
I met my beloved in real, long before our first date. Still can't put my finger on what changed in me to accept an invite from him after several times having "other plans" but glad I did. Maybe I grew up and learned the value of flash and bling is less than zero so I went out with the quiet, hard working guy for once?
The topic of online dating/meeting, his jaw drops when he hears how much time I spent in cyberworld. I did meet a few great people online, like my best guy friend, but overall it is too easy for people to fake online. Even people who would be fine in person seem to want to puff themselves up when they hide behind their computer.
Suki at July 8, 2010 9:26 AM
Am I the only one who assumes the LW is a woman, sticking up for her man?
kf at July 8, 2010 10:14 AM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/ag-column-archives/2010/07/rogained-anothe.html#comment-1730677">comment from kfShe is. "Fiance" is male. "Fiancee" is female.
Amy Alkon at July 8, 2010 10:16 AM
Amy: "She is"
Ahh...that'll explain the OUTRAGE then. And the hyperbole.
Now on to the next Busytown mystery...!
ehtrain at July 8, 2010 10:54 AM
Well, I totally missed the single "e," and I'm pretty good at spotting those things. I guess I assumed (like others here) that it was a man because the LW this LW referenced was a man. Whoops.
Although I'm not sure it changes my original post any. It still sounds as if the LW is really defensive about finding her man online. People who are satisfied with their choices don't get OUTRAGED that someone questions them.
Anyone want to bet me that the LW made all the initial advances in this relationship? And that, although he probably proposed, that she "hinted" her ass off to get him to? And that the fiance was just relieved that he didn't have to do any work at all? That's the conclusion the OUTRAGE at Amy's advice for the referenced LW to get off his ass and ask a woman out brings me to.
NumberSix at July 8, 2010 3:16 PM
She's outraged? Sounds like that college student is too high strung and needs to take a stress pill, enroll in easier courses, drink less coffee and go on a strict low carb high fat diet instead of binging on cheap junk carbs that may be affecting her brain.
Tony at July 8, 2010 6:51 PM
Wowser. I met my fiance online and I couldn't care less if people have a problem with it. Both of us had dated plenty in the real world. He had even done online dating before. We met on a site just by pure luck. It wasn't even really a dating site. Anywho, you don't see me getting my panties all in a bunch! I tend to agree with Amy that online dating is fine, but you need to get out there in the real world and talk to people, too. This is especially true for someone college aged. I mean, is it ever as easy to get laid as it is in college? I don't think so. If you can't get a date without online help there, you're pretty much doomed.
Kimmy at July 9, 2010 9:52 AM
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