Zero Dark Flirty
A female "friend" of my boyfriend's is always leaving flirty comments on his Facebook page, and it's making me upset and worried. He doesn't really respond, but because he's a guy with a girlfriend, it seems that the considerate thing for him to do would be to tell her to cool it. How can I bring this up to him in a sane way?
--Disturbed
Guys also say "Hello, beautiful!" to the 200-year-old grocery store cashier, and probably not because they're angling for her to send a selfie of how she looks without her compression hose. What keeps a guy from being all "Let's blow this timeline item and go to a motel" is whether he's ethical and into the relationship he has. If that doesn't describe your boyfriend, why are you still with him? If it does, instead of saying, "Hey! People are socializing with you on a website designed for socializing!" let on that you're feeling a little worried, like by gently remarking, "That friend of yours sure is flirty" (or whatever it takes to get your worry across). Rather than trying to control him, which leads a person to rebel, you're asking for reassurance, which should lead him to put his arms around you and explain why you have nothing to worry about. This, in turn, should get the two of you back to using Facebook as it was intended -- as a place to bring people together to view videos of cats and police brutality.
If that doesn't describe your boyfriend, why are you still with him?
Possibly because she doesn't know for sure if it describes him or not. If he hasn't cheated before, it may be because he's ethical or because he hasn't been presented with a strong enough temptation.
One piece of information missing here is how long the Facebook flirting has been going on. If it's been a regular thing for quite awhile, then it's just how they relate; if they were going to hook up it would have happened by now.
Rex Little at November 25, 2014 11:31 PM
Some people are just plain flirty.
I've had clients like this, friends too. I'm not gonna tell them:
STOP FLIRTING WITH ME I HAVE A BOYFRIEND!!!!!
I'm just not gonna fuck 'em. Plus dont men rarely get flirtywomen, let 'em ignore it but at least have the ego boost.
Ppen at November 27, 2014 6:17 AM
Yup, what Ppen said.
Lobster at November 29, 2014 10:08 PM
An ex-girlfriend of mine has left a couple of comments on my YouTube videos. They weren't flirty, but when I saw them, I deleted them right away. I then told my wife that this happened and she didn't have a problem with it, knowing that I had deleted them. It's easy to delete comments.
Fayd at December 1, 2014 10:52 AM
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