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And Now, To The Videotape
Casual sex with a woman you don't know can be a dangerous thing -- unless you catch the whole thing on videotape. Yet another group of men is cleared of "rape" charges -- this group in Orange County, Florida -- thanks to video evidence that the sex was consensual. The police now say the woman made up the story about being raped by several international workers at Florida's Disney World:

The woman, Elizabeth Sunde, 26, is being charged with making a false police report, WESH NewsChannel 2 reported.

On Feb. 26, police responded to a report of an alleged sexual battery involving multiple suspects.

Sunde told investigators that she was approached by five or six "French men" in her apartment complex at approximately 4 a.m., and said the men physically carried her to the Gables Commons Apartments, where she was held down and sexually battered by at least four men.

Sunde stated she returned to her apartment some time after 5 a.m. after the alleged assaults and ultimately went to work. She did not report the incident to the Sheriff's Office until about 5 p.m., when she returned to her apartment after her work day.

...The suspects in the alleged attacks were cooperative with the investigation from its onset to the point of providing a video tape of the incident, which helped corroborate their account of the incident.

She's charged merely with making a false police report. It's, well, criminal, that there isn't a stronger charge when her allegations could have ruined the lives of these men. How many women had second thoughts, or were just vengeful for some reason, and went to the cops where there was no videotape to back up the men?

(Thanks, Crid, for the link)

Posted by aalkon at March 4, 2006 7:42 AM

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We need a short, punchy name for this exciting new field of case law. Paging Mr Treacher...

Posted by: Crid at March 4, 2006 9:19 AM

I always try to have a video camera on hand every time I'm gang-raped.

Posted by: Lena at March 4, 2006 10:04 AM

>>We need a short, punchy name for this

How about "consentematography"?

Posted by: Gary at March 4, 2006 4:10 PM

[quote]How many women had second thoughts, or were just vengeful for some reason, and went to the cops where there was no videotape to back up the men?[/quote]

my brother knows one
and her daddy was a lawyer too

Posted by: g*mart at March 4, 2006 5:53 PM

Exoneratography

Posted by: Crid at March 4, 2006 6:27 PM

"How many women [...] went to the cops where there was no videotape to back up the men?"

My mind can get a little loose with the analogies sometimes: Amy's comment reminds me of how some supporters of the death penalty claim that the wonders of DNA testing will help eliminate wrongful executions. But sometimes there's simply no blue dress to send to the lab.

Posted by: Lena Lewinsky at March 4, 2006 7:29 PM

Happened to a friend of mine. His ex gf was ticked off when he stopped giving her money after their kid got taken away. She seduced him with the promise of a threesome with her girlfriend, who was supposed to show up 'later' (didn't say my friend was bright). She went right to the hospital and cried rape.

Luckily the DA looked at her history of drug abuse (meth) and interviewed both of them. In the end they didn't press charges. Helped that she'd threatened to pull the same thing with another ex if he didn't pay her off, and he came forward.

My friend is bipolar, has ADHD, and won't take drugs for either, except the pot he uses to self-medicate. How effective would his defense have been? Most likely he'd have spent ten years in prison because he was stupid enough to have sex with his ex.

Women who pull this should face severe penalties. So many women who ARE raped won't come forward because their stories are doubted, thanks to females who pull this crap.

Sorry, sore subject. Had to vent.

Posted by: Kimberly at March 5, 2006 6:35 AM

These are easy stories to make fun of, but this is sad and ironic beyond the legal machinations. What we got here is a bunch of women who for whatever reason come to regret their sexual activity... and these are not mild, forgettable encounters.

It's not just that these bevaviors (group sex, video) are far beyond what our grandparents would have thought of as loving, decent, and nourishing. (I'm almost kinda OK with that part.) Reckless sex is dangerous, and it'd be a shame if 'using protection' came to mean a spare battery for the Sony Handicam.

Posted by: Crid at March 5, 2006 10:58 AM

I've actually recommended (verbally to a sports star and/or on my blog) that guys either not have casual sex with women whose ethics they're not very sure about, or that they have a woman present a driver's license and sign a statement that sex is consensual. Witnessed by, I dunno, a homeless guy on the street below her building, or maybe it could be a service Pink Dot could provide. Notaries, anytime of day or night, at your door in a pink car with a giant plastic hat on top!

Posted by: Amy Alkon at March 5, 2006 11:11 AM

Someone once lied to me about his (tender young) age, and I've been checking IDs ever since. I don't want to go to jail (even if the sex there is hot).

Posted by: Lena at March 5, 2006 3:23 PM

>>I've recommended that guys either not have casual sex with women whose ethics they're not very sure about, or that they have a woman present a driver's license and sign a statement that sex is consensual.

That's smart, but how on earth can you do this gracefully? "Hey honey, I know we just met at the Starlight Lounge 45 minutes ago, but I'd like you to provide two forms of ID and sign this notarized statement that sex is consensual..." I think most women would be creeped out by that.

Put another way: the concepts of "casual sex" and "ethics you're sure about" seem contradictory.

Posted by: Gary at March 9, 2006 8:43 PM

Well, by "casual sex" combined with "ethics you're sure about" I mean, booty calls with somebody you know. Anything else is pretttttty risky.

Posted by: Amy Alkon at March 10, 2006 7:44 AM

lena is right on this story lol

Posted by: rob at March 16, 2006 11:05 AM

lena is right on this story lol

Posted by: rob at March 16, 2006 11:11 AM

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