Sometimes your friends really act like "friends." They're always late, they walk all over you in other ways. Talk to me about those times.
I suppose this is the best place for this one:
A friend and I both lost some weight. I lost 45lbs and she lost 20. Her 'start weight' was the same as my end weight so she kindly gave me some of her old clothes.
One day she came over and I was wearing a pair of the sweat pants (and really over the moon about being able to fit into them).
She looked me up and down and said 'OMG!! I can't believe I was ever that fat!!'
But now, 6 years later... I am now even 40lbs lighter and she is 60lbs heavier. I should call and ask her if she wants her 'fat clothes' back LOL
Posted by: Margot
at September 1, 2010 5:56 PM
While driving my kids to school, I passed in front of the home of some close friends. Just before I passed their home, their vehicle pulled out and started driving in the same direction. I was behind them.
After about two blocks, we stopped for a red light.
I was suddenly shocked to see the front passenger throw a banana peel out of the window and onto the street. I was sure that it was their teen-aged daughter, and tried to stop beside them at the next stop light. I was going to tell her that her actions were unacceptable.
When we finally came to a stop where I could speak to the passenger, I was again shocked to see not the daughter, but the father!
I was expecting an inconsiderate teenager, but instead I was more surprised by an adult who should know better.
I am still upset about this, years later.
Posted by: EarlW
at September 3, 2010 4:56 AM
A friend of mine used to eat when she was talking on the phone all the time. The sound of someone munching and slurping away over the phone is revolting. She also used to put me on hold to take a call and leave me there for as long as five minutes. One time she completely forgot I was on hold and never came back.
For the eating problem, I would tell her, "You sound busy. Why don't you call me back later when you're done." For the second problem, I decided to give her 1 minute. If she's not back in a minute, I hang up. A minute is more than enough time to either let the other person know you're on a call, or to let me know that you need to take that call.
Posted by: MonicaP
at September 3, 2010 4:17 PM
For one of my birthdays I got some girlfriends together for a wine tasting dinner. It was very nice. They served small dishes of food paired with a great wine and told us what we should be tasting, why it pairs well etc.
The only things was that one of my friends said she would pick me up so I wouldn't have to worry about driving. She shows up on her cell phone, we get in her car and drive all the way to the restaurant and she is still on her cell phone. I get out of the car and wait 5 minutes, she is still on the phone. I go inside and great all the other girls, we sit down, and 10 minutes into our meal/wine...the "friend" finally comes in to join us. Then she proceeds to drink extra wine to the point of not being able to drive. I drove her home in her car and she had to find a way to come get it the next day. What an ass.
Posted by: anonymous
at September 5, 2010 12:43 AM
I hate it when a "friend" starts off a conversation with "you look tired!" Yeah I am sort of deadpan, but this often happens when I'm feeling great, or am quietly listening and not interrupting while others talk, or deep in thought. I think good manners means you never comment on how someone looks, especially in the workplace unless they are on the floor bleeding.
(Lately my return gambit has been, "On the contrary - I look fabulous!)"
Posted by: carol moore
at September 7, 2010 10:56 PM
I can understand and forgive when someone accidentally cuts me off when I'm beginning to say something. But I have friends who will cut me off when I'm halfway through a sentence and talk about something entirely different. It's as though I'm not even there. And some people wonder why I'm such a quiet person.
Posted by: Randy R.
at January 1, 2011 4:58 AM
I have a friend who is really fun, funny, and very hyper. Actually my brother and her are closer friends but anyways she stays the night at our house a lot she's really a great person just I wish she had more 'guestly' manners. :/
Posted by: Lolgirl
at April 8, 2011 8:17 AM
My dad lives on a lake. A group of us had taken the boat to a local watering hole. One of my girlfriends had come out to the lake to join us that weekend. She proceeded to run into some guy she knew from god-knows-where. We were heading back to my dad's for a bonfire. She asked if her "friend" could join us. I thought "the more the merrier" and told her fine.
The two of them had sex in my dad's spare bedroom and left before anyone else woke up in the morning. I was so embarassed that I wasn't sure what to say to my dad. I asked her later when it would be okay for my husband and I to fuck on her mother's couch. She giggled and said "It would be okay whenever, since you guys are married". I was not amused.
Posted by: Renee
at September 27, 2011 6:22 PM
How do I handle my group of friends when they talk about plans that don't include me. What do I say or do? I uderstand that not all plans should include me, but should they talk about plans right in front of me.
Posted by: Ellie
at September 13, 2012 9:03 PM
I have know this person for several years and she has been developing a real bad attitude towards me and a few of my friends. I can understand if she is going through some tough times (which might require counseling); however, she needs to understand that her recent behavior will cost her many friendships. She puts down people's favorite hobbies, places to hang out, etc. and it really hurts me pretty bad.
I do believe in giving second chances, but if she keeps acting up, no more second chances-it'll be adios!!
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at March 21, 2014 10:40 PM
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