Sometimes your friends really act like "friends." They're always late, they walk all over you in other ways. Talk to me about those times.
I suppose this is the best place for this one:
A friend and I both lost some weight. I lost 45lbs and she lost 20. Her 'start weight' was the same as my end weight so she kindly gave me some of her old clothes.
One day she came over and I was wearing a pair of the sweat pants (and really over the moon about being able to fit into them).
She looked me up and down and said 'OMG!! I can't believe I was ever that fat!!'
But now, 6 years later... I am now even 40lbs lighter and she is 60lbs heavier. I should call and ask her if she wants her 'fat clothes' back LOL
Posted by: Margot
at September 1, 2010 5:56 PM
While driving my kids to school, I passed in front of the home of some close friends. Just before I passed their home, their vehicle pulled out and started driving in the same direction. I was behind them.
After about two blocks, we stopped for a red light.
I was suddenly shocked to see the front passenger throw a banana peel out of the window and onto the street. I was sure that it was their teen-aged daughter, and tried to stop beside them at the next stop light. I was going to tell her that her actions were unacceptable.
When we finally came to a stop where I could speak to the passenger, I was again shocked to see not the daughter, but the father!
I was expecting an inconsiderate teenager, but instead I was more surprised by an adult who should know better.
I am still upset about this, years later.
Posted by: EarlW
at September 3, 2010 4:56 AM
A friend of mine used to eat when she was talking on the phone all the time. The sound of someone munching and slurping away over the phone is revolting. She also used to put me on hold to take a call and leave me there for as long as five minutes. One time she completely forgot I was on hold and never came back.
For the eating problem, I would tell her, "You sound busy. Why don't you call me back later when you're done." For the second problem, I decided to give her 1 minute. If she's not back in a minute, I hang up. A minute is more than enough time to either let the other person know you're on a call, or to let me know that you need to take that call.
Posted by: MonicaP
at September 3, 2010 4:17 PM
For one of my birthdays I got some girlfriends together for a wine tasting dinner. It was very nice. They served small dishes of food paired with a great wine and told us what we should be tasting, why it pairs well etc.
The only things was that one of my friends said she would pick me up so I wouldn't have to worry about driving. She shows up on her cell phone, we get in her car and drive all the way to the restaurant and she is still on her cell phone. I get out of the car and wait 5 minutes, she is still on the phone. I go inside and great all the other girls, we sit down, and 10 minutes into our meal/wine...the "friend" finally comes in to join us. Then she proceeds to drink extra wine to the point of not being able to drive. I drove her home in her car and she had to find a way to come get it the next day. What an ass.
Posted by: anonymous
at September 5, 2010 12:43 AM
I hate it when a "friend" starts off a conversation with "you look tired!" Yeah I am sort of deadpan, but this often happens when I'm feeling great, or am quietly listening and not interrupting while others talk, or deep in thought. I think good manners means you never comment on how someone looks, especially in the workplace unless they are on the floor bleeding.
(Lately my return gambit has been, "On the contrary - I look fabulous!)"
Posted by: carol moore
at September 7, 2010 10:56 PM
I can understand and forgive when someone accidentally cuts me off when I'm beginning to say something. But I have friends who will cut me off when I'm halfway through a sentence and talk about something entirely different. It's as though I'm not even there. And some people wonder why I'm such a quiet person.
Posted by: Randy R.
at January 1, 2011 4:58 AM
I have a friend who is really fun, funny, and very hyper. Actually my brother and her are closer friends but anyways she stays the night at our house a lot she's really a great person just I wish she had more 'guestly' manners. :/
Posted by: Lolgirl
at April 8, 2011 8:17 AM
My dad lives on a lake. A group of us had taken the boat to a local watering hole. One of my girlfriends had come out to the lake to join us that weekend. She proceeded to run into some guy she knew from god-knows-where. We were heading back to my dad's for a bonfire. She asked if her "friend" could join us. I thought "the more the merrier" and told her fine.
The two of them had sex in my dad's spare bedroom and left before anyone else woke up in the morning. I was so embarassed that I wasn't sure what to say to my dad. I asked her later when it would be okay for my husband and I to fuck on her mother's couch. She giggled and said "It would be okay whenever, since you guys are married". I was not amused.
Posted by: Renee
at September 27, 2011 6:22 PM
How do I handle my group of friends when they talk about plans that don't include me. What do I say or do? I uderstand that not all plans should include me, but should they talk about plans right in front of me.
Posted by: Ellie
at September 13, 2012 9:03 PM
I have know this person for several years and she has been developing a real bad attitude towards me and a few of my friends. I can understand if she is going through some tough times (which might require counseling); however, she needs to understand that her recent behavior will cost her many friendships. She puts down people's favorite hobbies, places to hang out, etc. and it really hurts me pretty bad.
I do believe in giving second chances, but if she keeps acting up, no more second chances-it'll be adios!!
Posted by: Yes or No?
at March 21, 2014 10:40 PM
I drive out to Wyoming with a group of friends every other summer. We've been doing this for 20 years now. A former friend of ours went on the first few trips and always played little power and control games. The last time he went with us was the breaking point. First, on the way out he insisted every meal be a stop and sit down.. we had agreed to eat in the vehicle whenever possible. He had to stop several times to stretch his legs and smoke. We always ended up in the trucks waiting for him to get in. This nonsense added 4 hours to an already long drive (Wisconsin to Wyoming). There were other petty games, but the ultimate was this. We had gassed up, geared up, and were ready to head up into the mountains. While stopped at the gas station this asshole had a half hour long conversation with some guy while the rest of us sat in the trucks, engines running, staring at the clock waiting for him to get in.. and you could tell by his attitude he was getting a big hardon keeping us waiting. And we were the "rude motherfuckers" when we honked the horn to get him moving!!!! He was not welcome to come with us again and most of us don't talk to him anymore. go figure
Posted by: Steve H
at April 23, 2014 3:10 AM
I've known a guy (we were just friends) in my club for around 4 years and his recent behavior has caused me to stop being friends with him. The problem: he gets into people's personal problems, other people's business, and disrespects some of the female members of the group and he thought he could get away with it. Recently, he was spreading rumors about one of my friends in the club and he was telling one of the female participants to "shut up." Well, excuse me, but if this is the way you're going to act, then goodbye. I do not need a friend who is going to backstab, treat women like garbage, and have an attitude.
Posted by: Q
at June 10, 2014 2:16 PM
A few days ago I was verbally attacked by a lady who I thought was a close friend. She accused me of being a 'story spinner' who likes to make up stories, and said the worst lie of all was my lie about my husband's health condition. Knowing that I had never lied to her, I was hurt and angry because I had been a fool for over a decade who put up with her disagreeable personality. Sometimes we keep friends because we have such a low self-esteem that we don't feel we deserve better. I allowed this crazy bitch to preach to me all these years, so it was actually a good thing that she turned on me.
It gave me the opportunity to tell her she is a 'crazy bitch' and to turn the tables on her, I send her an email telling her that I was tired of being around such a disagreeable person. Letting her know how I felt about the wasted time with her and having the last word made me feel powerful and exhilerated!!!
Posted by: Doris
at October 18, 2014 8:12 PM
My best friend of 25 yrs invited me to join her at her time-share for a weekend. She would also be inviting a co-worker/friend, with whom I am also very friendly. She did say that she felt obligated to invite her son first, and that if he declined the weekend (which she was sure he would), we 3 girls would certainly go. I didn't hear anything for the 2 weeks in between and when the weekend arrived assumed she'd gone with her son. I was very surprised to see pictures of her weekend adventure with the co-worker/friend appear on FB. I cried the entire weekend and even though it's been almost 2 yrs, still cry if I allow myself to think about. I struggle with the 'why' although I realize it's irrelevant. But for those pictures, I never would have known, nor questioned her. The friendship is over.
Posted by: David
at March 27, 2016 4:57 PM
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