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Gotta love those anono-weenie commenters who wouldn't say "Where's the asparagus?" to you in the supermarket, but say the rudest things to or about you on the Internet. For example, this recent tweet I got from a guy who didn't like a post I wrote about bikers taking up all lanes of the street:

@Deprogrammer9 @amyalkon eat a dick hag. 8:15 AM Aug 29th via web

Tell me your experiences with rudeness on the Internet.

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What's a dick hag? Is that like a fag hag?


Oh, yeah...

Posted by: MonicaP at September 1, 2010 9:11 PM

They weeniest ones are not only short on manners, but punctuation.

Posted by: Amy Alkon at September 1, 2010 9:36 PM

I like the ones who post their particular brand of stupid on a message board, and then, when they get called out on it, create a sockpuppet to stick up for and agree with themselves, and THEN try to deny it, in spite of the fact that the mods tell everyone it's coming from the same IP addy.

Posted by: Ann at September 1, 2010 10:23 PM

What I hate is going to a completely non-political website and finding political crap in the comments. I am, actually, a politics junkie--but sometimes I don't want to think about it. Evidently, there are an awful lot of people out there who refuse to ever not think about it.

Posted by: Karen at September 4, 2010 4:38 AM

Sorry, I just have to rant a little bit more!

It seems to me that the commenter making inappropriate political comments usually thinks he's being clever. But it is incredibly rude because it means you either think everyone else there has the same politics as you, or, even worse, that your "right" to snark far outweighs any duty to public decency towards people who, obviously, are too stupid to hold the correct political opinion.

Posted by: Karen at September 4, 2010 4:49 AM

Also, anyone using the terms Rethuglican, Demoncrat, Tea Bagger, or Obummer. Not only are you being rude to any of your readers who might be one of the above, but you've also just removed yourself from the list of comments and commenters to be taken seriously.

Posted by: Karen at September 4, 2010 4:55 AM

How about people who take your quotes out of context and use them to futher their own bizzare agenda?

Back when you could still post on Glen Sacks site I was asking a woman who claimed to have her son circumcised to spare him the .04% increaded risk of penile cancer in his 80's wheather or not she would have her soon to be born daughters breast buds removed to prevent the 12% chance that her daugter would devolp breast cancer BEFORE the age of 50.


Some nut job parsed my quotes very carfully and made the argument that I wanted womens breasts removed to prevent them from breast feeding in order to break the maternal bond formed durring breast feeding.

Then the psycho banned my response to her hatchet job once I discoved it.

The funny thing? for months while misquoting me she kept challanging me to respond and defend my words(all with out ever informing me of the challange) and when I did she sent me an email saying that she was banning me from ever posting on her site and that my attempts to 'backtrack' wouldnt be taken seriously

I refuse to read blogs where EVERY SINGLE comment has to modereated and approved by the blogger anymore

Posted by: lujlp at September 7, 2010 1:55 AM

I HATE it when I'm into a debate with someone and make a small typo. All of a sudden they no longer care about their stance on the issue, only that I misspelled something or made a small grammar error. I get annoyed when people show NO understanding of the English language, too. However, it's always the ones who basically have no valid argument on whatever we're debating that seem to go nuts over these things. I tend to type on blogs and message boards how I talk. Sometimes that means my punctuation isn't perfect, or I type so fast that I use the wrong word or misspell. It doesn't make me stupid. At worst, it makes me too lazy to use spell check. The worst is when you address their "concerns" about your education and try to get back on topic but they KEEP bringing it up. It irks me.

Posted by: Kimmy at September 8, 2010 7:26 PM

I recently ran across an article by, apparently, a generally sane an reasonable writer. Unfortunately, said article tacitly contributed to the rude, judgemental and generally unacceptable behaviour directed by society at large the world over towards those who don't conform to white, Western beauty standards. How did it do this? Why, by suggesting that those standards are right, natural and unchangeable, of course. How can we be expected to refrain from pointing and sniggering at fatties if we're evolutionarily wired to scorn them, after all?

Look at the cause, not just the symptom.

Posted by: A Girl Named T at December 21, 2010 10:11 PM

It's not "rude" to publish evidence-based science that does not conform to or parrot feminist talking points.

Standards of beauty fluctuate slightly but are remarkably same across borders and cultures. (These are not standards created by the media, as feminist ideologues will have you believe, but the product of millions of years of evolution. As Dr. Donald Symons wrote in "The Evolution of Human Sexuality," "Beauty is in the adaptations of the beholder." He also notes that adaptations take hundreds or thousands of GENERATIONS to take hold.)

Across cultures and borders, to name just one example, men prefer a woman of average weight with an hourglass figure -- an indicator of fertility. Whether men prefer fat women or thin women relates to the availability of food in a culture. In cultures where food is plentiful, thin women are in. In cultures where it is scarce, fat women are. In Mauritius, they fatten women up until they are enormous. Thin women are considered homely.

Being fat is unhealthy, and tends to compromise one's success with men, save for a few who prefer fat women (they are few, unfortunately). Many women are only fat, however, because they have been sold a bill of goods by the medical establishment. To lose weight relatively effortlessly, and without exercising like mad, read Why We Get Fat, by Gary Taubes. Link here: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0307272702?ie=UTF8&tag=advicegoddess-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0307272702

Also, you should probably disabuse yourself of the notion that it is rude to speak the truth. It can be if you are telling somebody's grandma that you are an atheist, and you'll lead her to stay up night's worried that you'll burn in hell. Telling women that beauty matters, that doing the best they can with what they have will increase their opportunities in love and in life, and telling them that they can either accept that or accept the opportunity costs of going ungroomed is not rude -- even if you happen to be a woman who prefers to avoid losing weight to increase her selection of men. You've read your choices and you're free to make them, but they're informed choices.

Likewise, I choose not to be in advertising, which means I make a lot less money and worry that I'll be dining on Friskies casserole at 80 (or 50). Choices usually come with a price -- either pay the price or choose otherwise.

Posted by: Amy Alkon Author Profile Page at December 22, 2010 12:17 AM

I say that if you are going to comment, please do not hide behind anonymous. There are some people who know exactly who you are. And when somebody calls you on your behavior, please do not continue to do said behavior.
Rude behavior on the Internet will get you nowhere. I think it's mean, unjust, and just plain rude.
I would never say some of the nasty things to people that some have said to me. Instead, I prefer not to engage them, but I prefer to rise above thier stupidity.
People can be jerks when it comes to the Internet, it baffles my mind.

Posted by: Eva at September 26, 2011 9:46 PM

I find it plain hilarious when someone uses the capslock key when being serious.

For example.

"I find it PLAIN HILARIOUS when someone uses the capslock key WHEN BEING SERIOUS."

Also when someone doesn't use proper grammer. I get it when you're chatting or texting and it's a spur of the moment conversation, but on forums and message boards where you have time to type out and proofread your posts.

What else...oh yeah, when in communities you don't find a particularly popular guy to be hot stuff because they're douchebags and his friends whine at you for "attacking" them when you just say the douchebag in question wasn't worth your time. The douchebag in question didn't care about what I said about him, so I felt free to say what I wanted about him on my blog.
Or when people decide to avoid an ignore to harass you more via sockpuppets.

Posted by: DieselBlue at October 18, 2011 6:33 PM

I belong to a certain knitting social networking site. I logged on Saturday, and I found a message from nobody I knew, but apparently they had some sort of issue with me. Yes, I have problems, who doesn't? I recently got fired from my job at a store that I was considered outside contractor, and right now, I'm more worried about my finances. I also have other problems that are realated to depression, and I'm working hard to solve those problems with the little means and resources that I have right now.
Anyhoo, whatever it was, they would keep messaging me. It was as if they kept pushing the issue, and whatever problem they had with me. I ignoredc them twice, hoping they would take the hint, but apparently, it wasn't working. I finally told the person to leave me alone, and that I was only going to say that once. THey have never messaged me again.
I had a feeling that they were on another forum that I used to be on, but I wasn't 100% sure. I also wasn't 100% sure if they were stalking me or bullying me. But I haven't heard from them since!

Posted by: Eva at October 24, 2012 9:14 PM

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