Today, Advice Goddess Radio: Dr. Helen Smith On Men And Men's Issues, 1:30-2:30pm Pacific Time, 4:30-5:30 Eastern
Sunday's show is at a special time - correct time, 1:30-2:30 pm Pacific; 4:30-5:30 Eastern - with a podcast avail afterward at same link:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon/2012/01/01/advice-goddess-radio-amy-alkon
My guest this week is the insightful Dr. Helen Smith, a forensic psychologist who blogs at Dr. Helen. She has always greatly impressed me in the way she looks out for men's rights and routs out ridiculous political correctness that is actually quite damaging -- often to the very people it professes to protect. (She also has the most charming and sexy southern accent, so she's not only very smart and thoughtful, it sounds really great all the while.)
Here are more details, from her Wikipedia bio:
Helen Smith is a forensic psychologist in Knoxville, Tennessee who specializes in violent children and adults. She holds a PhD from the University of Tennessee and masters degrees from The New School for Social Research and the City University of New York. She has written The Scarred Heart: Understanding and Identifying Kids Who Kill (Callisto Publishing, 2000; ISBN 0615112234) and was writer and executive producer of Six,[1] a documentary about the murder of a family in Tennessee by teens from Kentucky. The film highlights the inadequacies of the school, mental health and criminal justice systems in preventive treatment of troubled teens.Dr. Smith hosts a regular program on the website Pajamas Television where she discusses social issues and psychology, with a particular emphasis on the problems and experiences of men. She has written widely on issues relating to violence, mental health, and the criminal justice system.[2] Among her articles is "Violence on Campus: Practical Recommendations for Legal Educators," published in the Oklahoma City Law Review.[3] After the Jonesboro, Arkansas school shootings, she testified to the Arkansas State Legislature regarding responses to school violence.[4]
Since September 2005, she has been writing on her own blog, Dr. Helen.
(Call-in number during the show: 347-326-9761 -- NYC area code. Please call in with comments or to ask advice. Always more interesting with listener participation!)
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Listen to my last show, with happiness researcher Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, author of the terrific book, The How of Happiness, here:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon/2011/12/26/advice-goddess-radio-amy-alkon
You can leave questions in the comments section below for Dr. Helen and me to discuss on the show. They should just be related to men and love, dating, sex, and relationships.
Tonight, Advice Goddess Radio ... 1:30-2:30pm Pacific Time
Just to be picky 1:30-2:30pm doesn't quite seem like tonight. :-D I should be there anyway.
Jim P. at January 1, 2012 7:06 AM
Thanks - a little overwhelmed this week.
Amy Alkon at January 1, 2012 10:04 AM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/01/tonight-advice-1.html#comment-2887484">comment from Amy AlkonManaged to change to "Today" without changing URL.
Amy Alkon
at January 1, 2012 10:06 AM
Another good show.
It's nice to know that you aren't the only voice out there that thinks the man bashing has gone over the top.
Jim P. at January 1, 2012 3:16 PM
Good show.
lsomber at January 1, 2012 4:00 PM
Dr. Helen needs to either set-up another blog or start blocking some of her regular commenters. Because unfortunately her blogspot site is beset by a bunch of misogynistic ranters and they've driven off everyone but the other misogynistic ranters. They turn every thread into the same boring diatribe against women and society. Which isn't her doing. It's the topic matter that attracts them. The same thing happened on Wendy McElroy's site.
FWIW I'm not someone who throws around the term misogynist - take a look at her comments to see what I'm getting at.
mack at January 1, 2012 6:01 PM
> her blogspot site is beset by a bunch of
> misogynistic ranters and they've driven off
> everyone but the other misogynistic ranters.
> They turn every thread into the same boring
> diatribe against women and society
I worry that his happens to Amy, too
Crid [CridComment at gmail] at January 1, 2012 8:20 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/01/tonight-advice-1.html#comment-2888317">comment from Crid [CridComment at gmail]Nah. Handful come around here. They get smacked around by LS, momof4, NicoleK, Number6, and a few others.
Amy Alkon
at January 1, 2012 8:25 PM
Dang. I missed it live, just finished the podcast...
One thing I'm amazed to miss - everywhere, not just here - is more emphasis on the value of a partnership, where he's not a puppet and she's not a beautiful invalid. I know some relationships with strong partners, and they're wonderful to see. You touched on that briefly w/r/t you & Gregg, but it's an example to be pounded: no high-schooler, much less an adult, needs a brainless twit on their arm for any period of time!
Radwaste at January 1, 2012 8:28 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/01/tonight-advice-1.html#comment-2888477">comment from RadwasteAww, thanks! I'm always really amazed at the few times when somebody asks me something that suggests they think I have a man in my life who's some pushover. He's very, very sweet to me, but he's a man, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Interestingly, both Helen and I (and Sonja and I -- the wonderful Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky from last week) have men in our lives who cook for us. I didn't get Helen to tell them story -- no time -- but I love the tale of the first time she made dinner for Glenn: frozen salmon. No, not salmon that was frozen and then cooked...salmon that was frozen inside when served!
My joke about myself: I don't cook; I heat. But for Gregg, there are many days and nights I'd eat frozen hot dogs (when I'm on some writing jag and decide that I'll just do the frozen hot dog thing instead of stopping and going to the grocery store).
Amy Alkon
at January 1, 2012 10:30 PM
>>Nah. Handful come around here...
I haven't noticed the same commenters here, unless they're posting under different names. But I think that I'd recognize them nonetheless because they're pretty hardcore and get very nasty when confronted.
Norm at January 1, 2012 10:48 PM
I'd just like to add, with all due respect to Dr. Helen's obvious intellect and the excellent man to whom she's married, that Dr. Helen is rather a babe to boot.
Thanks for having her on the show.
BlogDog at January 2, 2012 6:23 AM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/01/tonight-advice-1.html#comment-2889621">comment from RadwasteAww, thanks! I'm always really amazed at the few times when somebody asks me something that suggests they think I have a man in my life who's some pushover. He's very, very sweet to me, but he's a man, and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Interestingly, both Helen and I (and Sonja and I -- the wonderful Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky from last week) have men in our lives who cook for us. I didn't get Helen to tell them story -- no time -- but I love the tale of the first time she made dinner for Glenn: frozen salmon. No, not salmon that was frozen and then cooked...salmon that was frozen inside when served!
My joke about myself: I don't cook; I heat. But for Gregg, there are many days and nights I'd eat frozen hot dogs (when I'm on some writing jag and decide that I'll just do the frozen hot dog thing instead of stopping and going to the grocery store).
Amy Alkon
at January 2, 2012 12:56 PM
Dr. Helen has always maintained that her blog is a free-speech zone for men. And because of that, a lot of angry men do turn up there. Some of it is blowing off steam -- the kind of thing we all do now and then. But yeah, some of the regular commenters there are trolls. (Which raises the question of how much they actually believe the anti-women stuff they spout; a lot of trolls will say whatever they think will piss off the host and the other commenters.)
Cousin Dave at January 2, 2012 4:01 PM
I can't believe Crid didn't find this Hemingway tweet. This is what men are all about. Men, being men, doing manly things.
http://twitter.com/#!/hemingwaytweet/status/67931952669396992
Gog_Magog_Carpet_Reclaimers at January 2, 2012 8:41 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/01/tonight-advice-1.html#comment-2890000">comment from Gog_Magog_Carpet_ReclaimersRather like that one!
Amy Alkon
at January 2, 2012 8:58 PM
Masculinity mixdown!
Element 1...
plus
Element 2...
Crid [CridComment at gmail] at January 3, 2012 1:04 AM
...Combine to form this elegant hybrid...
...Which is merely introductory material for this guitar solo.
And ladies & gennilmen, that's how machismo really works.
Crid [CridComment at gmail] at January 3, 2012 1:07 AM
Hey Gog, give me the love... The shallow butch-itude of the postwar men's magazines in consumerist America is the same mentality that's made Hemingway so popular, right?
Crid [CridComment at gmail] at January 4, 2012 12:26 AM
Amy,
Regarding the men who cook: most of the women that I have dated or befriended in NYC have no idea how to cook. I'm talking about intelligent, accomplished women in their 30s and 40s who never mastered anything more complex than a can of soup or MAYBE spaghetti.
Being an old boy scout, former waiter/kitchen hand and long-time bachelor I've acquired some half-decent skills in the kitchen. AND I've found that nothing seals the deal quite like cooking for my date.
A few friends who are natives to the city have confirmed my observations about the lack of cooking ability. The theories in play are as follow: most i.e. Jewish native NYC/Long Island/NJ women were raised by mothers who didn't cook. The norm was takeout or restaurants most nights, if you can believe it.
The other group is transplanted midwestern strivers who never learned to cook because Daddy paid their credit card bills in college and after; they could always order pizza or chinese when a boy wasn't on hand to buy a nice dinner.
Jeffrey at January 23, 2012 5:33 PM
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