The Difference Between Naughty And Nice
I trained my tiny Yorkie Lucy that barking is not allowed (she will bark if there's danger, but otherwise, she gets in trouble). I'm close to neighbors here, and my feeling is that your life shouldn't be disturbed because I choose to have a pet.
If she's stuck outside and wants to be brought in (she's old and can't climb the steps well), she'll sometimes do this little swallowed noise -- a sort of bark-ish kind of thing -- and I'll run out and carry her in.
As with the way to discipline kids, I'm always quick and always consistent in punishing her if she's naughty. Gregg, however, who is otherwise Detroit-ornery, except to me, is quick and consistent in being the total pushover of this tiny dog. He pretty much finds it unbearable when he's over and Lucy has to go to "doggie jail" -- ie, be placed in the bathtub as punishment for five minutes (a place she is miserable).
Well, Gregg was at my place when I was still out writing on Saturday at my fave cafe, and was I ever shocked by the video he showed me Monday night on his phone: My little dog, who doesn't bark at all when I am home -- who wouldn't dare bark -- was barking up a storm to make him pick her up. And he did. And couldn't get his work done (on my computer) very well because he was holding her in one hand.
It's kind of amazing how a generally very, very well-behaved little dog, who immediately sits, lies down, and comes trotting over on my command, will turn into a tiny brat depending on whose leniency she's experiencing. (She once even pooped in Gregg's suitcase, proving, I guess, that you only shit on those who enable you.)







Lucy's a user. LW should dump her!
Radwaste at March 13, 2012 3:26 AM
I love the last line. Perfect.
wojo at March 13, 2012 5:35 AM
Well, of course she pooped in his suitcase! Suitcase = going away.
Nancy at March 13, 2012 5:54 AM
TINY BRAT?????
Wrong! She is an exceptionally smart dog that knows how to get what she wants when she can.
She has 'trained' Greg to respond to commands.
And as Nancy noted, Greg needed to be punished because he was going away.
GURL POWER RULES!
Bob in Texas at March 13, 2012 6:25 AM
"She once even pooped in Gregg's suitcase, proving, I guess, that you only shit on those who enable you."
Awesome line.
Mike Hunter at March 13, 2012 6:33 AM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/03/the-difference-17.html#comment-3065915">comment from Mike HunterThanks, Mike Hunter!
Amy Alkon
at March 13, 2012 6:45 AM
DD has decided she wants a yorkie. She'll be waiting a long time. Until she's 18, probably, as I don't care to take on housetraining, plus I'd be afraid we'd lose it in the piles of toys around here. She's awful cute though. Not as cute as our 100 lber, but cute.
momof4 at March 13, 2012 7:18 AM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/03/the-difference-17.html#comment-3066041">comment from momof4Not as cute as our 100 lber, but cute.
I think of those as real dogs and mine as a pretend one.
I love her terrier spirit, but I took a month out to housetrain her -- covered my Persian rug with plastic and taught her to...yes...use a litterbox...her bathroom when I'm not home and she really needs to go.
Amy Alkon
at March 13, 2012 7:28 AM
"I think of those as real dogs and mine as a pretend one."
I think of M4's beast as a Dog. I think of Lucy as a Doggie!
Old RPM Daddy at March 13, 2012 8:26 AM
Funny how they can spot a pushover a mile away, isn't it? My husband spoils our dogs horribly, making me have to be the 'mean mommy' and do all of the training/discipline. 'S ok tho, when we finally settle down (he's millitary, we move a lot) I'm getting a cat. I miss having a purring furrball.
Kat at March 13, 2012 8:30 AM
My daughter is always amazed at how differently our dog behaves for me vs. her. She coddles him constantly and doesn't like to discipline him. With 95 pounds of dog, it's up to me to be firm, strict and the enforcer of rules otherwise I would have a destructive, out of control dog. He knows I'm the boss and he will get tons of love and attention...on my terms, not his. He knows my daughter is a pushover and if he whines long enough, he gets what he wants. They really are very smart creatures!
sara at March 13, 2012 9:58 AM
OOoooohhh that picture! Lucy's eyes melt my heart. I would not be able to resist her charms!
It blows me away sometimes how smart dogs are. When I left home, my parents' dogs got fed in the morning and again at 5 pm. Now, they get fed in the morning...and at 3 pm. Why? They've learned that, if they start whining and pestering my mom early in the afternoon, she'll eventually throw up her hands and feed them. They've successfully managed to push their feeding time up by two hours, minute by minute, over the past several years.
Also, one of the dogs barks constantly, so my parents got her a shock collar. She's figured out, however, that if she yowls at a super high pitch, the collar can't detect it. So, if anything, she's become more annoying. Luckily, they live in the middle of nowhere and have a lot of land (so the "neighbors" are barely within shouting/barking distance).
sofar at March 13, 2012 10:17 AM
Animals know.
prawn toe at March 13, 2012 10:19 AM
My mom is exactly like Gregg when it comes to dogs. Here are some of the highlights:
Pekingese-If my mom was on the couch/bed eating something the pekingese would go right up to her face/hands and yank the food away from her and eat it.
Mutt-We would be eating at the table and he would jump on her lap and stick his tongue in the food and jump down.
Pug- Had a 9 o'clock bedtime where he demanded (and bit her until she obliged) to go to bed. He would obstruct her from doing anything else, with his body, and his bites. He also demanded to be with her in the shower, where she would carry him like a baby and he would fall asleep and snore.
I have none of those issues with the dogs.
Purplepen at March 13, 2012 1:35 PM
Actually EXACTLY the same thing happens with kids.
I used to work in a setting where I regularly saw kids from troubled homes. I held them to high standards, and 95% of them quickly adjusted and never acted out in my presence again. Their parents were always shocked~ "How come he listens to you and is crazy at home?" Hmm. Because I don't allow it?
Now I just have to figure out why my little one only cries around me. I am a softie for the babies.
Minneapolis Mom at March 13, 2012 1:39 PM
I have an insane calico cat (okay insane and calico are probably redundant).
Point of fact: she's a cat. Cat's don't listen to anyone, most of the time.
This one, however, has learned that she will SIT to get her nightly allotment of wet cat food (although she cries pitifully the entire time, because I'm starving her, yanno) but she WILL sit. And when she tries that half-assed "half-sit" thing, I call her on it. She actually almost rolls her eyes like a belligerent teenager, but she will sit. Because I have food.
I'm under no illusion who runs the house here. :D
She does seem to know I'm the boss (or, as a cat, she's letting me think that, who can say? She has no opposable thumbs and therefore cannot open the can of cat food) but she tests me at every turn.
My boyfriend is her bitch. Totally.
He walks in the door and she flops down to be petted. Not only does he pet her, he gets down on the floor with her. He is so pwned. She has him wrapped around her little toe, and don't think she doesn't know it for a second.
Daghain at March 13, 2012 8:36 PM
1.) It's only that dogs love humans so much that I try to tolerate humans as much as possible.
2.) I've never cried after any human I have known has been dead for more than a few days, but 7 years, 10 years, 15 years I still tear up when I think of my passed on pooches. Heaven for me would be a giant forested lake with me and all my old dogs for eternity.
3.) My first dog was a daschund my Dear Old Dad found in a parking lot that had been severely burned with acid. My Dad was not a warm and fuzzy but he nursed that dog back to health and he lived for 7 or 8 more years happy as can be. (Actually my Dad and Oscar the dog died at about the same time.) I think that was my greatest lesson of compassion growing up.
Eric at March 13, 2012 10:16 PM
"Their parents were always shocked~ "How come he listens to you and is crazy at home?" Hmm. Because I don't allow it?"
Kids listen to others the same reason people listen to their bosses without backtalk, but not their spouses. It's a completely different relationship type.
Actually kids save their best acting out for parents because parents love them and they feel secure enough to. DOesn't have a thing to do with allowing it. It's a sign of a child secure in their relationship. Enabling it and not setting limits leads to a host of problems, true, but limits doesn't end the acting out.
My dog does not act out. At that size, he would hurt or kill someone if he did. Lots of traning and reinforcement, and limits. He's a spectacular dog.
momof4 at March 14, 2012 5:49 AM
I've heard the same thing about my big Standardbred horse-- in fact ALL the horses behave differently when I'm around. We're buddies!
jefe at March 14, 2012 10:37 AM
Daghain - yes. You never really train a cat, it's an ongoing negotiation for life. You *have* to stay boss, or they'll run rings round you.
Amy, a lot of people with small dogs let them get away with too much - as a couple of people have noted, you can't do that with big dogs because it's too dangerous. I'm glad you're not one of them. A bit of pampering from Gregg won't hurt much though.
Ltw at March 15, 2012 5:24 AM
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