Excellent! I used to remove their access for not doing their chores, this just motivates them in a different way. Love it.

Because I was raising intelligent children, and I had to stay 3 steps ahead of them at all times, and I'm not at all a fair fighter, I used every trick known to mankind to psych them into thinking I had ESP and Eyes in the back of my Head. I also told them that there was nothing new under the sun, and Age and Treachery would overcome Youth and Speed every time. It worked for the most part, until they hit the teen years, then we went to fun stuff like grounding each other.(because, if she's grounded, so am I, because if I'm not home she won't be either)

I could also tell when they were lying, so much so that they called my ability "Momdar" and finally gave up trying.

I think this is brilliant. My son is has autism and is too small for this but I may try it when he's bigger. I also saw another picture where a mom took the stuff that was left out and put it in a box and the kids had to do a chore to earn their things back.

This seems to be the new thing, posting some rule along with a consequence and then asking if its good or bad parenting. Generally two groups line up. One says, "oh wonderful, nobody says no to their kids anymore." The other group says, "terrible parenting. I'd never humiliate my kids like that." Then everyone goes back to their lives and not doing everything perfectly or having all the answers. But boy did that site make us feel good after we vented.

If you need to post that sign for your kids then maybe you didn't train them right. No, my kids are not perfect but when I want them to do something I ask nicely and 9 out of 10 times they say, "sure mom."

When my girls were little, it was "clean up your room or no tv". As they got older, it was "clean up your room or lose computer privileges'. Other chores (dishes, laundry, etc) they were given no quarter, if it wasn't done, they didn't leave the house until it was, except for school. When they got home from school the chore was still there waiting for them. It didn't work every time, but it did most times. I'm fairly lucky, because for the most part, my girls are good kids. We've had our moments, to be sure, but we're all on good terms, so I'm grateful for that, anyway.

Grownups generally have to do something for WiFi priviledges (be a coffee shop customer, pay for a hotel room) so why not kids? My kids have no wireless devices and won't for many years yet, but I'll file this in the teen years ideas.

I saw this yesterday and loved it. I almost wish I had younger kids at home so I could post it on the fridge.

It's how blog comments work.

I should have been clearer. I wasn't talking about posting it here. I see this sort of thing on social media sites several times a day with different variations of what will be taken away. It seems to be an attempt to go viral but really do I need to share this on FB or Twitter to get my kids to clean their room? Two out of my three kids do it voluntarily or at least willingly. My third is a charmer but usually if I ask nicely he'll do it too. I tend to assume my kids are going to do as asked and worry about consequences should that not happen. I've been pretty happy with the results.

Kristen, my daughters were always happy to go to their rooms and "clean" it up. However, 2 of the 3 have drastically different definitions of clean than I have. At 24 and 18 I hate when they come to visit because I feel like all I do is nag them to pick up and clean up after themselves. Hmmmm, maybe I can still use this when they're visiting. On the other hand, I have one daughter who still lives with me and we share the same definition of clean, and thankfully, no nagging required.

When my girls were younger (14, 18, 20) they had a bad habit of getting into text message wars - even though all three were in three different locations. They would then forward the offending text messages to me, asking me to intervene. I learned a long time ago to stay out of their conflicts because I only made it worse and then became public enemy #1. One the battle became so heated and I had reached my breaking point, so I went online into my cell phone account and suspended everyone's cell service. It was wonderful! They never did that again. I'm sure the battles continued, but they left me out of them.

Sara, two of my kids got an organization gene that I lack, so maybe that's why we have peace in my house.Maybe its that they're more organized than me, lol. I agree with you about letting them fight it out. I always tell them that I'm not the UN but if I have to step in they most likely will not like my solution. I only had to suspend service once. My son thought he was too cool to answer my calls when he was out with friends. After he lost service he realized the value of taking my calls.

"This seems to be the new thing, posting some rule along with a consequence and then asking if its good or bad parenting."

FWIW, I have only learned two important things about parenting lately. One was from a comment on this blog.

But man do I hate it when people re-post this kind of shit to facebook, mainly because I'm always the fool who thinks it's my friend's post and clicks to comment only to find a hundred and forty four thousand other comments.

Nothing new under the sun. In the 70's my dad cut the cord to the TV and made a male-male pig tail for it so he could take it to work with him and make sure we did our homework before the TV came on.

He did not, however, take my Texas Instruments learning computer out back and blow it away with the .38 and film the whole thing on super 8.

When chores DON'T get done, I think it's fine to impose a draconian punishment (such as grounding for a day or more, depending on the kid's age) - that is, the type that will almost guarantee that it will never have to be repeated. I mean, what sense is there in putting out the same WIMPY punishments over and over, since general disobedience can cause huge stress to the family - and even be a fatal strain on the marriage, often? Why not just nip the problem in the bud and get it over with? Even if the kids cry buckets for hours, at least there's a very good chance they'll never do "that" again!

Seems like a good idea to me. Not stressful at all for a parent to implement but very motivating for kids who love their wifi. It's the equivalent of, "You can't go outside with your friends until your homework's done."

Parenting nothing. I've had a few roommates I wish I'd thought of something like this for.

Want the internet back? Get all the dishes out of your room and fucking wash them asshole.

I love this idea because it's simple, logical, and reinforces the whole point of doing chores as a simple part of your daily routine, as opposed to framing chores a way to earn allowance or avoid punishment.

The restaurant that I work at operates a similar way: you can't cash out and collect your tips been signed out by a closing server, and you won't get signed out until you've done your side work. I really like this system because it means that I can do the sidework on my own timetable without anyone looking out of over my shoulder, but I also don't have to worry about walking out and accidentally forgetting to do something. And the closing server doesn't have to track down everyone else to make sure they've done their sidework--they come to you to get signed out. It works really well for getting everything done efficiently with a minimum of fuss and effort.

I love this idea because it's simple, logical, and reinforces the whole point of doing chores as a simple part of your daily routine, as opposed to framing chores a way to earn allowance or avoid punishment.
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That's all very well if you don't believe in restricting "screen time" as much as you restrict candy or deep-fried food. (And, let's face it, when you're sitting still for hours every day, the effect is much the same.) I.e., just as SOME parents allow only one candy bar a week, it's often recommended that small kids, especially, not be allowed to have ANY screen time on weekdays. (That's what author Jim Trelease did regarding the TV in the 1970s - and it worked miracles with his school-age kids - but only after they cried for several months of TV-only-on-weekends, believe it or not. It was seriously necessary, though - the kids had been fighting with their parents over EVERYTHING before that, since read-aloud time, games, chores, and homework were all "taking too much time away from the TV.")