Dogging Instead Of Blogging
Blogging was a bit light today because I spent two and a half hours talking with a breeder today. I think I found the right doggie for me, and the breeders just want to be sure I would give their dog a good home, and the right home.
This kind of breeder, by the way, is the only kind I'm interested in. If a breeder isn't very concerned about who you are, what kind of environment you'd provide, and the level of responsibility you feel, well, they're just merchants, and they might as well be selling screwdrivers.
The woman and I really hit it off -- we would be friends, I think, if she lived closer, and I just need to talk to her husband. I love that they don't give their dogs to just anyone and also, they are registered with the registries for genetic diseases, showing that they have tested their dogs and thus don't breed two dogs that are carriers for any diseases the breed is susceptible to.
My life is missing a substantial chunk of joy that Lucy brought to it, and I'm hoping to have another tiny doggie in my life soon. Hoping this works out!








What kind of dog, Amy? Have you picked out a particular dog, or just spoken to the breeder? Getting a puppy?
When my sweet little old pug lady sails to the Grey Havens, I don't think I'll be without a dog for long, either.
Best of luck - I hope things work out well!
Pirate Jo at July 25, 2013 12:45 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3819962">comment from Pirate JoI have, Pirate Jo -- I don't really want to say just yet, but I will soon! I hope this works out. This dog sounds exactly right for me, and these are extremely careful breeders.
Amy Alkon
at July 25, 2013 1:07 PM
Can't wait to see your new master!
DaveG at July 25, 2013 1:22 PM
Congrats!
And speaking of good breeders, you're right -- getting an animal shouldn't be a piece of cake, and so many people don't "get" that.
I had a friend who wanted a Golden Retriever, and she called me up angry that the breeder wanted to meet with her, asked "nosy" questions about her home and work schedule, and wanted a reference from her vet. I told her that those were all signs that the breeder is an excellent one -- and signs that SHE wasn't ready for a dog!
I hope pictures will be posted so that we may all squee accordingly.
sofar at July 25, 2013 2:35 PM
Awww, good luck! It'll be a lucky doggy to find you.
momof4 at July 25, 2013 3:03 PM
Amy, there is to be no bigoted terminology on this blog! How dare you refer to this heterosexual couple as "breeders"? Shame on you!
Seriously, I can wait to see the new pictures. It'll be just like seeing baby pictures.
Patrick at July 25, 2013 3:28 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3820048">comment from momof4Aw, thanks, momof4 and everybody. I will rise to the occasion and give a doggie a great little life.
I can't stop looking at pictures of her. She is elegant and beautiful and has earnest little black eyes.
Amy Alkon
at July 25, 2013 3:34 PM
"It'll be just like seeing baby pictures."
But better!
Ppen at July 25, 2013 3:48 PM
If it is the kind of Dog I am guessing it is, you are in for a treat. Of course I could have guessed wrong. Whatever it is, it will have a great home with you.
thomas at July 25, 2013 3:53 PM
Although you think you have decided, consider a Coton de Tulear. World's cutest and best-behaved dogs.
rb.sr at July 25, 2013 5:25 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3820152">comment from rb.srThanks, rb.sr, and very lovable looking, but not the dog for me.
I have fallen in love and am just hoping everything works out.
This dog is a tiny and elegant little creature -- I think we could give each other a wonderful life! And Gregg will be dog putty, as he always is. But I train him along with the dog. He would no more have given Lucy people food -- not permitted! -- than he would have tried to feed her a chair.
Of course, because she knew he was a gigantic pushover, she took advantage of this. Let's just say there were 3 a.m. demands to be walked whenever he took care of her! Gregg may be considered ornery by anyone trying to take advantage of Elmore or me, but three pounds of dog? Forget about it!
Amy Alkon
at July 25, 2013 5:57 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3820158">comment from Amy AlkonPS The bad thing about being me is that I can get a tad obsessive -- a good thing when I'm trying to figure out a solution to a problem. A bad thing when I can't stop looking at pictures of this doggie and her mom, who is gorgeous.
And seriously, if you are looking for a dog, I suggest only going with a breeder who does genetic testing to make sure that they are not breeding dogs who are both positive for a disease or problem.
I cannot bear doggie suffering, and the notion of saving money by going to somebody who just mushes two cute dogs together is a huge risk, both in possible suffering for the doggie and for you in being part of that, in addition to the expense of vet bills. There are no guarantees, of course, but at least you know that the breeder has done their best to see that a dog is not unhealthy and will not suffer.
Amy Alkon
at July 25, 2013 6:01 PM
the breeders just want to be sure I would give their dog a good home, and the right home. . . . Hoping this works out!
I hope so too. I wonder what the breeders need to know to be assured of the good/right home with you.
JD at July 25, 2013 6:44 PM
My first pug died of "Pug dog encephalitis" it's a rare genetic disease that mostly affects fawn colored pugs. He came from a puppy mill. My stepdads bichon is epileptic with tons of allergies and is also from a puppy mill. And if you know bichons they are a healthy lively breed.
In the pugs case it was a TERRIBLE experience watching him suffer from a painful disease that has no cure and is 100% fatal.
I'm with Amy I can't bear doggie suffering.
Ppen at July 25, 2013 7:04 PM
Congratulations Amy!
A cautionary tale re the breeders however.
Some breeders like the one you describe can become militant and stalkerish if you pick the wrong one.
The breeder I chose seemed exactly how you describe.
However, shortly after I had paid for the dog, I began receiving phone calls and FB posts; the breeder in question wanted to be sure I had purchased the right food, was going to the vet SHE had recommended, was supervising the puppy with my children, providing him physical activity for at least three hours daily, had had him neutered, etc etc etc etc.
When I finally changed my phone number and blocked her from FB, she showed up to "visit" with my dog.
I realize that she was one in a million, and had serious mental issues apparently, but I will be screening my breeders even more carefully than I did her if ever I get another!
wtf at July 25, 2013 7:12 PM
I'm sure that there will not be another Lucy; but, may this new doggie bring you joy and happiness!
Charles at July 25, 2013 7:22 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3820208">comment from wtfI talked to this woman for two and a half hours this morning and I am a good judge of character. These people are extraordinary. Gregg and I are having a Skype video chat with the husband tomorrow morning and then I will talk to the husband at greater length on Wednesday. She told me I could talk to some of the people with their puppies but I don't need to. I feel very, very comfortable about them and need them to know me to make sure I am the right person for this dog and vice versa. Because I will care for her in the way I did for Lucy, I hope to have my next dog with me for 15 to maybe even 18 years and the fit needs to be right.
And frankly, I want to be schooled in how to care for my dog -- how to brush her teeth, what food to feed her, how much exercise she needs.
I think your experience, wtf, is not about "breeders" but a specific person you dealt with. I have talked to a number of breeders just in the past few days and I found them through the AKC and breed clubs and they were all caring and helped instruct me, even when they found that their dog or dogs weren't quite right for me.
When I got Lucy, I found the breeder through other breeders and then called around to breeders to ask about her.
Amy Alkon
at July 25, 2013 7:26 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3820209">comment from CharlesThank you so much, Charles. And just looking at her pictures brings me joy! (Doggie porn, I've been calling it!)
Amy Alkon
at July 25, 2013 7:27 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3820211">comment from PpenPPen, I am so sorry to hear what you went through. After losing Lucy so recently, I can't watch a dog with a thorn its paw, let alone anything worse, and I certainly don't want to do anything but give a dog a great, happy, healthy little life with me.
Amy Alkon
at July 25, 2013 7:30 PM
Fingers crossed, Amy!
I got my Shiba Inu from a rescue that buys them out of puppy mills and adopts them out. A adore her. She is the best dog EVER. She is also a poster child for why you should not buy puppies from pet stores. She spent the first 8 years of her life in a crate punching out puppies.
That dog can do whatever the hell she wants now, as far as I'm concerned. The rest of her life is going to be treats, walks, toys, and love.
Daghain at July 25, 2013 7:30 PM
If at any point in the process of adopting a pet you start thinking it would be easier to adopt a Chinese orphan, then the odds are you've found a good breeder.
Elle at July 25, 2013 8:46 PM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3820347">comment from ElleHah, Elle -- yes, that's about the story of it, and I truly appreciate them for it.
Amy Alkon
at July 25, 2013 11:04 PM
Told you. When you've had one great dog, you can't go long without another one. I've no doubt it will be a happy dog & happy owner.
(But - to illustrate the dangers of a 'common' language, suggest you might want to Google the British meaning of the word 'dogging'. I read the headline while drinking my morning tea, and blew it all over my keyboard. I'm pretty sure that's not what you meant ;-))
llater,
llamas
llamas at July 26, 2013 3:04 AM
I hope it works out for you, Amy. I can't wait to see what little puppy is lucky enough to get you!
Katie at July 26, 2013 4:17 AM
Best of luck to you and your new little best bud, Amy! I hope it all works out for you!
Flynne at July 26, 2013 5:08 AM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3820796">comment from llamasGoogle the British meaning of the word 'dogging'.
In Britain, "fanny" means vagina. I am not in Britain.
Amy Alkon
at July 26, 2013 6:04 AM
An echo, but I have to say it anyway: I'm sure looking forward to Puppy Alkon's debut!
Debut. Do they have doggie cotillions?
Old RPM Daddy (OldRPMDaddy at GMail dot com) at July 26, 2013 7:46 AM
I agree a breeder needs to care, they are placing their babies and good ones don't want to contribute to the shelter dog problem. But I take serious issue with rescue organizations that are this rigid. What's better for the dog: being fed grocery store food and spending a lot of time in a fenced yard as opposed to inside, or living its life in a cage or being put down? It's this train of thought that everything must be "perfect" that has gotten PETA to where it is-they'd rather every animal die than live in a way they deem less than ideal.
Perfect is the enemy of good, and good is just fine for a dog otherwise facing family-less.
Our newest 4 legged member came to us from a rescue here in Austin about 6 months ago. He's a doxie mixed with who knows what, although he looks pure doxie. His owner's dog gave birth to him and 2 others. Evidently they were never socialized with at all, or fed after the mom weaned them. She took them to the pound when they were 6 months old-emaciated almost to the point of death. I read the shelter intake form they gave to the rescue: dogs showed extreme aggression and fear, biting, growling, etc. That's why the rescue took them, the shelter would have euthanized. He is now great with people he has met, but he will bite upon first meeting if I am not careful. He's come a long way. But a lot of rescues would not have given him to me, because I don't revolve my entire life around him, and I don't buy expensive food. Insane.
momof4 at July 26, 2013 8:57 AM
M4;
I agree. The shelter in my city was similarly militant. I had wanted to adopt an older dog, one that didn't have much of a shot. Their stance: Since you have young children you are not a good home for a rescue dog. (The dog I had my eye on looked like it walked through life in a coma, it was so low energy. He was a beauty too. Half Husky, half Shepherd.)
That is why I went with a breeder, although if you read my above post, I will be screening my breeders alot more carefully in future.
The thing is, she came recommended by the shelter.
I plan on avoiding shelters altogether in the future. Which is sad, because there are many many great dogs in shelters who need a home. The shelters are forcing themselves to euthanize, only due to their attitude.
wtf at July 26, 2013 10:15 AM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2013/07/dogging-instead.html#comment-3821332">comment from Old RPM Daddy (OldRPMDaddy at GMail dot com)I LOVE THESE BREEDERS! The husband had a Skype video convo with Gregg and me this morning. They look to see that you are not just a good, kind, responsible person but that you provide the right environment for a dog's personality. Gregg pulled some screen shots for me. This dog is so amazing, and so loving, and they socialize and train them in really important ways -- to be used to having their tails and legs pulled, etc., so they are not reticent around people or skittish about being handled.
Amy Alkon
at July 26, 2013 5:36 PM
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