The Relationship Heroics That Mean The Most Are Often The Least Dramatic
Women tend to long for something fairy-tale or chick flick-esque, with the guy who realizes he loves them at the last minute, runs through the airport, and maybe even jumps on the nose of the plane.
The truth is, the heroics in a relationship are usually much less dramatic -- and sometimes aren't as appreciated or aren't as appreciated as they should be.
Lisa-Jo Baker writes at HuffPo:
He drove us all home 18 hours over two days.Three kids and hundreds of miles and potty breaks and princess pull-ups, the car covered in the markers I'd bought for window art. Turns out the soft beige ceiling of a mini van makes a perfect canvas. Rainbow swirls color the door panels and there are goldfish crackers crushed so deep into the seats that they will likely be there come next summer and this same road trip all the way to Northern Michigan and the lake that his family have been coming to for decades.
He's never run through an airport for me.
Three times he's held my hands, my shaking legs, my head, my heart as I've bared down and groaned a baby into being. He has run for ice chips and doctors and night shifts and laid himself low to help me hold on through the hard rock and roll and push and pull of labor and I've never drowned holding onto his hand.
If a guy is your hero, tell him. Coincidentally, I emailed Gregg that about a half hour before I saw this story. He was today, which is pretty much "business as usual" for him, and I truly appreciate that and try to be worthy of that and take good care of him.
it's sweet [and a little bitter] to see a relationship that actually works...
but these things seem really easy, so why does it appear so difficult for so many? maybe they're just no listening.
SwissArmyD at August 1, 2013 2:50 PM
Such wise words! If people were thankful for the everyday things, the lack of large gestures wouldn't matter, period. My husband has also never run through an airport just tell me he loves me, but he did spend an hour working on the clip art I wanted for an invitation to an ice cream social and he made it look perfect! I have so many stories like this that I can't even keep track of them all. We ALWAYS say thank you to one another for everything, especially the little stuff.
Sheep mommy at August 1, 2013 3:12 PM
Seems the only way to be in a position to have those big moment is to be aloof and detached. You wouldn't be running through the airport if you hadn't already been a jackass.
Trust at August 1, 2013 4:05 PM
SwissArmyD,
Maybe the others have the problem my husband and I had this morning. I asked if something was fair and he said no. Turns out, he was using the meaning "equitable" and I was using "reasonable" (as in "a fair assessment of the situation"). Both were in the dictionary and we ended up laughing about it - at least we used the same spelling - but I'm sure those things can derail many people.
For the record, our uses were #8 and #9 for "fair." :)
Shannon M. Howell at August 1, 2013 6:50 PM
Just try to tell me this marriage won't be filled with heroics, week in and week out, until death do they part!
It's going to be awesome.
Gog_Magog_Carpet_Reclaimers at August 2, 2013 1:57 PM
The immediate marriage was sweet, but there was no real bang to it. And she didn't have to pull the trigger to get married.
Jim P. at August 2, 2013 7:47 PM
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