"...Though A Woman Can Listen To Her Vagina Being Described Aloud Without Feeling Judged"
I'll have you know that my vagina is particularly sensitive to criticism on Monday mornings.
The quote is from a Jodie Gummow Alternet piece that was posted on Salon, "The sexy new fad for mindful living: Orgasmic meditation. Devoted followers of "OM" believe the path to enlightenment lies between a woman's legs."
An excerpt:
Looking for a sexual awakening? For those open to trying the latest new-age craze, orgasmic meditation may be just for you. OM, as it's called among its followers, is a holistic practice between two people where a woman has her clitoris gently stroked for 15 minutes in a non-sexual way by a partner with a goal to building connections and prolonging therapeutic orgasms.
In prior new-age sex fad news, some -- "karezza" practitioners -- claim it's more "spiritual" and even more satisfying to go without orgasms altogether. My column, Coitus Frustratus, on the silliness that is karezza is here. An excerpt:
Alice Stockham, the 19th century Quaker doctor who came up with karezza (named for the Italian word "carezza," meaning "caress"), argued in her 1896 book about it that orgasms "without cause" (such as the desire to make a baby) are "degrading." Stockham called for a more "ennobling" sort of sex, "a quiet affair" that is "devoid of lustful thoughts, that is, the mere gratification of physical sensations" -- or, to put it in more modern terms, "50 Shades Of Reading Next To Each Other In Matching Snuggies."








Devoted followers of "OM" believe the path to enlightenment lies between a woman's legs.
Straight men and lesbians have known this for years.
Wut?
I R A Darth Aggie at March 31, 2014 9:25 AM
we've been chasing enlightenment for as long as we knew there was a world outside of us... and in all the strangest ways possible.
This new thing is interesting, but ultimately...
cynical old me sees yet another complicated method to gettin' in her pants.
"gently stroked for 15 minutes in a non-sexual way"
Riiiight. :shrug: whatever works.
OTOH the karezza thing, sounds like it was thought up by someone frigid, maybe... certainly with issues.
You know it's a fancy new philosophy by how much it seeks to complicate basic human interaction.
SwissArmyD at March 31, 2014 9:35 AM
"...where a woman has her clitoris gently stroked for 15 minutes in a non-sexual way..."
Hmm. Okayyy...
I have this idea about fighting crime: Shoot the bad guy fulla holes, in a non-violent way!
Radwaste at March 31, 2014 11:18 AM
I think you should take this seriously.
I advertise that, as well as non-sexual penetration and therapeutic restraint as services for women that I print on cards I leave at fitness centers, yoga studios, hotel bars, and airport rental counters.
jerry at March 31, 2014 3:29 PM
Of course writing dialog for video games makes your ideas valid.
Jim P. at March 31, 2014 5:14 PM
The OM folks are getting a lot of attention. I got an email invite to visit their website (OneTaste) a few days ago. Then I saw a story on "The Young Turks" about them. Now today I see several writers including Amy mentioning them.
I've watched the videos. I've read quite a bit. I think I get it. Most of it. Sounds like it could indeed bring a couple closer together. However, in some scenarios, the role of the 'giver' seems to be portrayed as unusually casual.
I watched the same woman in multiple videos, being stroked by different guys. Sometimes in front of other people. I had to chuckle, thinking to myself... these horny single women have found a loophole in the system. They don't need any particular man, or a relationship. Just somebody with fingers, who is willing to spend 15 minutes with them. There's no money involved so it's not prostitution. All they need are volunteers. And that should not be a problem. Heh.
Tim at April 1, 2014 2:13 AM
Jerry said -- "I advertise that, as well as non-sexual penetration and therapeutic restraint as services for women..."
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Can I ask what is a non-sexual penetration service for women?
I've seen that term before but it was describing surgery, piercing, etc.
Tim at April 1, 2014 2:34 AM
And feminists are mystified that their sex is often dismissed as fundamentally silly.
Robert at April 1, 2014 5:18 AM
In one of the OM videos the guy puts on a pair of latex gloves before getting started. Nothing says romance better than your partner putting on latex gloves.
Seriously though, it's logical to say this is done to prevent Sexually Transmitted Diseases. You could also say it gives OM the vibe of a medical procedure instead of a sex act, which helps support the non-sexual claim.
However, all you have to do is highlight "Sexually" in STD to disprove any claim of this being non-sexual.
If you are fingering a woman for 15 minutes to make her orgasm, it's sexual.
You might be helping her relax, release, grow, improve, all those wonderful things... but it's still sexual.
I suppose there are medical/clinical reasons where a person might need some type of special therapy for an unusual disorder, but that's the exception not the rule.
Imagine if this was men, asking females to gently stroke our bare exposed penis for 15 minutes in a "non-sexual" way. To describe our penis as they stroke it. Talk about it as they stroke it for 15 minutes and make eye contact with us, and after we orgasm, we will say thank you it was non sexual.
Yeah. I can see that.
Tim at April 1, 2014 6:21 AM
If you're having an orgasm how is it non-sexual?
NicoleK at April 1, 2014 9:53 AM
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