Good Review For My Book, "Good Manners For Nice People Who Sometimes Say F*ck," In The Wall Street Journal!
Thank you, Moira Hodgson! She writes:
It may not be good manners to say such a thing, especially in this newspaper, but the title of this book s*cks. Once I started reading, though, I was drawn in. I couldn't help agreeing with much of what Amy Alkon has to say about etiquette today, even though I'm of the generation of people over 40 who, she notes ruefully, wince when someone says "no problem." I have a problem with "no problem" and also with "Have a great day!" and "Enjoy!"...Now, it seems, people consider the spontaneous phone call rude. Ms. Alkon labels it promiscuous phoning--ringing someone because the urge to know right now happens to strike you. Instead, she says, "you can text, tweet, e-mail or Facebook FB +0.33% -message." No problem--if you belong to the generation that knew how to work the remote before learning to walk.
Ms. Alkon writes that in our transient society we no longer have the constraints that existed when we lived in smaller groups and those who misbehaved were ostracized. Today you can be as rude as you like and get away with it because you'll probably never see your victims again. This observation won't come as a surprise if you've ever endured a train journey next to a person who yakked nonstop on a cellphone or had a concert or play interrupted by jangling mambo tones. When a woman next to me one night finally retrieved her cellphone, she shouted into it: "I told you not to call me when I was in the theater!"
But technology can also act as a weapon against rude behavior. "Webslapping is typically the best solution when someone is egregiously rude . . . ," Ms. Alkon writes; "there's a new sheriff out there, and it's the YouTube video gone viral."
Ms. Alkon delivers sound advice on navigating social-networking sites (she calls them "giant parasites targeting your personal information like tapeworms waiting for a move-in special on your large intestine."), on observing email etiquette and on texting at the dinner table: "If you're going to invite somebody to dinner and ignore them, at least have the decency to get married first and build up years of bitterness and resentment."
P.S. I actually don't blame technology for rudeness in the book; it's the people using it who are to blame. But she gets all the rest right!








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