A Facebook Friend Inquires About Conversation Starters
This Facebook friend of mine asks:
So if you are at a friend's party with lots of people you don't know, what is the first question you ask when you meet someone new?
My suggestion:
"Are you wearing any panties?"
I was trying to be funny, but actually, as I subsequently wrote:
Seriously -- you'd break the ice right away with that one. Unless they have no sense of humor, in which case, you've pre-vetted them as grim.








Follow-up: "Whose?"
Crid [CridComment at Gmail] at February 2, 2015 10:55 PM
You'll like this story Alkon. I was out to dinner with a date. Anyways the waiter took my order and as I was going to the bathroom I heard the cooks giving him a hard time for not taking my order right and asking the right questions.
Kid was really good looking so they were hammering on him telling him his pretty face wasn't gonna make the customers happy.
He comes with my plate and I tell him "uhh I asked for the breaded chicken with no dressing....". He turned pale as a ghost and I just told him I was just messing with him since I overheard what the cooks where saying.
It made my date and the waiter laugh. Since then the waiter only serves me if he sees me and I think he developed a real fondness for me with my little joke. My date felt the same.
Ppen at February 3, 2015 1:00 AM
While this may be an 'ice breaker' at parties, it's probably not a good opener or reply on a blog comment...
DrCos at February 3, 2015 3:27 AM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2015/02/a-facebook-frie.html#comment-5826059">comment from PpenLove that, Ppen. And I love being teased. Gregg does it all the time. People who can't take it are really missing out.
Amy Alkon
at February 3, 2015 5:10 AM
While this may be an 'ice breaker' at parties, it's probably not a good opener or reply on a blog comment...
Why not?
Make me laugh.
Amy Alkon at February 3, 2015 5:13 AM
Said it to a guy in a kilt Saturday night. Made him laugh. Made his wife laugh.
But younger people wold be horrified and triggered and whatever else they get. Panties in a twist.
KateC at February 3, 2015 6:42 AM
I like: "Prove to me that you're really female. Show me your... driver's license!"
Cousin Dave at February 3, 2015 7:55 AM
Amy Alkon
https://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2015/02/a-facebook-frie.html#comment-5827391">comment from KateCSaid it to a guy in a kilt Saturday night.
Just love that you did, KateC. And I'm not surprised.
Amy Alkon
at February 3, 2015 4:44 PM
i'm conversationally dysfunctional at parties where i know very few people. working on a project i accidentally discovered my go-to ice breaker: what movie do you remember seeing for the first time on the big screen?
this always leads to a fun conversation.
(Most frequent answers: "Wizard of Oz" & "Star Wars").
rosalind at February 3, 2015 5:29 PM
Roz: Probably "Help"... I was young enough to think it was good, even as a Beatles movie. I was too young to recognize Stonehenge in the background. So I must have been pretty young. (When I grew up, I was going to have a John Pit, which seemed like the quintessence of playful elegance… I guess I'd imagined my mother would be around to vacuum the thing. In real life I grew up to fulfill more of the Beatles fantasy than ever seemed possible. Mother does not vacuum, though.)
Crid [CridComment at Gmail] at February 3, 2015 6:10 PM
Either that or some Disney POS.
Crid [CridComment at Gmail] at February 3, 2015 6:11 PM
I'm pretty boring, I like to get people talking about what they like to do for fun. then I sit back and listen. Unless they are horse people, then I can jump in with my own stories.
Kat at February 3, 2015 6:20 PM
"Are you wearing any panties?"
Just don't use that as an ice-breaker at a frat party or anywhere near a college campus - you'll be accused of rape.
charles at February 3, 2015 6:50 PM
Why not?
Make me laugh.
Well, then....are you (wink wink)???
DrCos at February 4, 2015 3:53 PM
As that Kilt Wearer(or at least a representative of the breed) The constant question is "what are you wearing underneath your kilt?" I usually reply "you have to ask my wife". She is very much ill at ease in bigger social gathering, so this causes HER to have to engage. other wise I say give me your hand and we will both find out, or Why do you want to know? Which might be the best rejoinder to "Are you wearing any panties?"
Piper at February 5, 2015 10:56 AM
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