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You can only punch someone so long before they punch back.
Famed left-wing philosopher Noam Chomsky warned of the consequences if his fellow lefties engage in this “self-destructive” tactic during the debate over punching Nazis. “When we move to the arena of violence, the most brutal guys win – and that’s not us,” Chomsky said.
Don't even try lecturing me on my carbon footprint.
The billionaire entertainment mogul David Geffen has set sail on his $590 million luxury yacht, Rising Sun, and as usual, he has a ton of boldface names with him, including the Obamas.
You can read uncensored reactions on gendercritical radfem blogs or conservative pundit's outlets. That Dove managed to anger two such diametrically opposed groups is a feat in itself.
My reference, of course, is to Franz Kafka’s “The Trial”, in which the protagonist Josef K. is accused of crimes the nature of which are never actually specified, and enmeshed in a process designed to degrade, humiliate, and destroy him whether or not he has in fact committed any crime at all. The only way out of the trap is for him to acquiesce in his own destruction; indeed, forcing him to that point of acquiescence and the collapse of his will to live as a free human being seems to be the only point of the process, if it has one at all.
...Pedophiles are very good at conning parents. My abuser (her 3rd-grade teacher) convinced my mother — and many other mothers — that he was a nice, trustworthy guy. Believing this, my broke, single mom eagerly accepted his offer to provide free child care. She thought it was safer to have me stay with him than for me to walk home from school alone.
Now that I have a kid, I’ve noticed that most parents think like this. They believe children are safe only when they are in the care of adults, in part because kids have to be protected from would-be pedophiles and abductors. But as a psychologist with an expertise in child abuse, I can tell you this theory is hogwash. It’s exceedingly rare for a child to be taken by a stranger, and in around 90 percent of sexual abuse cases, the perpetrator is someone the kid already knows.
Most often, that someone is either a family member or an acquaintance, such as a coach, counselor, priest or teacher. So ironically, when we put our kids into educational programs and organized sports to keep them safe, we may actually be putting them in more danger than if they were just playing outside with their friends.
What’s more, research on children’s play suggests that when we don’t allow our children to engage in so-called risky situations when they must face challenges and make decisions on their own, we rob them of the opportunity to develop self-confidence and risk management skills. In other words, we turn them into easy targets for the predators we are trying to protect them from.
That’s why I always encouraged my son to do things on his own. When he was 3 months old, I let him cry it out, so he could learn to fall asleep without my help. When he was 7, I started letting him stay home alone for increasing amounts of time. And at 9, when he expressed a desire to walk around town on his own, I let him.
None of this was easy for me. Like every parent, I am petrified by the thought of anything happening to my child. The abuse I suffered probably makes me more anxious than most. I know firsthand just how vicious predators can be.
But I also know that the best way I can protect my son from bad people is to let him practice using his own wits to survive. He can do that only if I’m not hovering....
(snip)
There are over 300 comments. Not as many as you might expect, but as usual, you're bound to find many thoughtful ones. One such comment was from Terri (an NYT top pick).
lenona
at April 18, 2017 2:33 PM
For anyone who still thinks of psychologist John Rosemond as authoritarian and not authoritative...
Q: Our 17-year-old son is an unmotivated student. A junior in high school, he is clearly capable of making straight A's, but typically makes B's and C's. He plays on both the football and tennis teams, but is a standout at neither. He thinks kids who use drugs and play video games are "stupid" and his friends are all good kids, most of whom make better grades. He's polite, well-mannered and respectful. Other adults rave about what an impressive kid he is. Meanwhile, we're pulling our hair out...
(snip)
I ask you, would authoritarian parents approve of JR's advice in this case?
lenona
at April 18, 2017 2:37 PM
@Lenona,
They waited until now to be worried about it? Slacker parents deserve a slacker kid.
Sixclaws
at April 18, 2017 5:40 PM
Where did you get the idea that they WAITED? It's perfectly possible that he was doing fine until the last 6 months and then suddenly went downhill - and the parents did everything they could think of on their own before asking for help. That can take a while.
Rude.
Crid at April 18, 2017 6:02 AM
You can only punch someone so long before they punch back.
http://dailycaller.com/2017/04/16/the-left-embraces-of-political-violence-backfires-in-berkeley/#ixzz4ec772G10
I R A Darth Aggie at April 18, 2017 8:05 AM
Don't even try lecturing me on my carbon footprint.
http://www.businessinsider.com/obamas-on-david-geffens-yacht-with-celebrity-guests-2017-4
I R A Darth Aggie at April 18, 2017 8:08 AM
http://adland.tv/adnews/dove-realmoms-ad-transgender-parent-gets-backlash-and-boycott-threats/1579273645
Sixclaws at April 18, 2017 10:22 AM
http://esr.ibiblio.org/?p=2122
Sixclaws at April 18, 2017 10:29 AM
In case anybody is wondering, the suggested fix to Firefox in the link Crid posted yesterday will also work for the Pale Moon browser.
mpetrie98 at April 18, 2017 12:32 PM
The like to dislike ratio is nasty:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dcrY2QbppWg
Sixclaws at April 18, 2017 1:49 PM
"The Wrong Way to Keep Kids Safe From Predators"
By psychologist Michelle Stevens.
https://www.nytimes.com/2017/04/14/opinion/the-wrong-way-to-keep-kids-safe-from-predators.html?_r=0
Excerpts:
...Pedophiles are very good at conning parents. My abuser (her 3rd-grade teacher) convinced my mother — and many other mothers — that he was a nice, trustworthy guy. Believing this, my broke, single mom eagerly accepted his offer to provide free child care. She thought it was safer to have me stay with him than for me to walk home from school alone.
Now that I have a kid, I’ve noticed that most parents think like this. They believe children are safe only when they are in the care of adults, in part because kids have to be protected from would-be pedophiles and abductors. But as a psychologist with an expertise in child abuse, I can tell you this theory is hogwash. It’s exceedingly rare for a child to be taken by a stranger, and in around 90 percent of sexual abuse cases, the perpetrator is someone the kid already knows.
Most often, that someone is either a family member or an acquaintance, such as a coach, counselor, priest or teacher. So ironically, when we put our kids into educational programs and organized sports to keep them safe, we may actually be putting them in more danger than if they were just playing outside with their friends.
What’s more, research on children’s play suggests that when we don’t allow our children to engage in so-called risky situations when they must face challenges and make decisions on their own, we rob them of the opportunity to develop self-confidence and risk management skills. In other words, we turn them into easy targets for the predators we are trying to protect them from.
That’s why I always encouraged my son to do things on his own. When he was 3 months old, I let him cry it out, so he could learn to fall asleep without my help. When he was 7, I started letting him stay home alone for increasing amounts of time. And at 9, when he expressed a desire to walk around town on his own, I let him.
None of this was easy for me. Like every parent, I am petrified by the thought of anything happening to my child. The abuse I suffered probably makes me more anxious than most. I know firsthand just how vicious predators can be.
But I also know that the best way I can protect my son from bad people is to let him practice using his own wits to survive. He can do that only if I’m not hovering....
(snip)
There are over 300 comments. Not as many as you might expect, but as usual, you're bound to find many thoughtful ones. One such comment was from Terri (an NYT top pick).
lenona at April 18, 2017 2:33 PM
For anyone who still thinks of psychologist John Rosemond as authoritarian and not authoritative...
http://www.news-sentinel.com/living/20170417/parenting_column_let_life_instruct_unmotivated_son&profile=1016
Theme: "Let life instruct unmotivated son"
Q: Our 17-year-old son is an unmotivated student. A junior in high school, he is clearly capable of making straight A's, but typically makes B's and C's. He plays on both the football and tennis teams, but is a standout at neither. He thinks kids who use drugs and play video games are "stupid" and his friends are all good kids, most of whom make better grades. He's polite, well-mannered and respectful. Other adults rave about what an impressive kid he is. Meanwhile, we're pulling our hair out...
(snip)
I ask you, would authoritarian parents approve of JR's advice in this case?
lenona at April 18, 2017 2:37 PM
@Lenona,
They waited until now to be worried about it? Slacker parents deserve a slacker kid.
Sixclaws at April 18, 2017 5:40 PM
Where did you get the idea that they WAITED? It's perfectly possible that he was doing fine until the last 6 months and then suddenly went downhill - and the parents did everything they could think of on their own before asking for help. That can take a while.
lenona at April 19, 2017 6:22 AM
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