Deranged Men-Basher Given Prime Real Estate In The WaPo
So, it's said to be sexist to deem all people of one sex this or that (weak or whatever) -- unless you're a woman going on about men.
I see this more and more, and a particularly disgusting example of it was in the WaPo on October 12, courtesy of a woman you'd think would be old enough to know better.
Victoria Bissell Brown, a retired history professor at Grinnell College, writes in the WaPo about screaming in rage at her husband -- who had, by the way, done absolutely nothing to deserve this:
I am almost 70 years old. I am a grandmother. Yet in that roiling moment, screaming at my husband as if he represented every clueless male on the planet (and I every angry woman of 2018), I announced that I hate all men and wish all men were dead. If one of my grandchildren yelled something that ridiculous, I'd have to stifle a laugh.My husband of 50 years did not have to stifle a laugh. He took it dead seriously. He did not defend his remark, he did not defend men. He sat, hunched and hurt, and he listened. For a moment, it occurred to me to be grateful that I'm married to a man who will listen to a woman. The winds calmed ever so slightly in that moment. And then the storm surge welled up in me as I realized the pathetic impotence of nice men's plan to rebuild the wreckage by listening to women.
As my rage rushed through the streets of my mind, toppling every memory of every good thing my husband has ever done (and there are scores of memories), I said the meanest thing I've ever said to him: Don't you dare sit there and sympathetically promise to change. Don't say you will stop yourself before you blurt out some impatient, annoyed, controlling remark. No, I said, you can't change. You are unable to change. You don't have the skills and you won't do it. You, I said, are one of the good men. You respect women, you believe in women, you like women, you don't hit women or rape women or in any way abuse women. You have applauded and funded feminism for a half-century. You are one of the good men. And you cannot change. You can listen all you want, but that will not create one iota of change.
Note how she demonizes all men -- yet each of us can only control our individual behavior. We are each only personally responsible.
Her final words:
Pay attention people: If we do not raise boys to walk humbly and care deeply, if we do not demand that men do more than just listen, we will all drown in the flood. And there is no patriarchal Noah to save us.
Do I have some magical forcefield around me?
Because I have encountered assholes and abusers in my life -- male and female -- but I have also encountered numerous good people, men and women. And overall, I have a very good opinion of men. I like men. Unless a particular man shows me he's not worthy of that.
Men sacrifice for women and have throughout human history -- going to war, going downstairs with a baseball bat in the middle of the night, being the ones who watch from the sinking ship as the lifeboats of women and children float away to safety.
And frankly, if you want to be respected -- as a woman or a person -- you need to act respect-worthy (or work to become respect-worthy if you aren't at the moment).
I suspect that at least some of these women who rail about all men being this way or that are really acting out a lament about all the things they didn't do, the opportunities they didn't go after, and other personal regrets.
Oh, and let's be frank -- what she did to her husband is sickening domestic abuse. The fact that she didn't physically hit him doesn't change that.








Ann Coulter's comment on this: "I told you the 19th Amendment was a rash-experiment gone wrong."
https://twitter.com/AnnCoulter/status/1050845226682716160
Snoopy at October 13, 2018 12:05 AM
Woman claims she was sexually assaulted by 9-year-old at Brooklyn deli.
Surveillance video proves her wrong.
She sticks to her story.
https://twitter.com/Breaking911/status/1050883348728606720
Snoopy at October 13, 2018 12:35 AM
"I suspect that at least some of these women who rail about all men being this way or that are really acting out a lament about all the things they didn't do, the opportunities they didn't go after, and other personal regrets."
More-so they have been taught that men never had to give up opportunities, never had regrets, never had pressures put on them by society. Which is of course laughable. But the jealousy of what they believe someone else has burns them.
Joe J at October 13, 2018 4:29 AM
And how many times did these women actually take the time to listen to the frustrations and struggles of their husbands or boyfriends while demanding that men listen to them? How many times were they the shoulder to cry on?
I read an article a while back interviewing women who had become, through circumstance or better earning potential, the primary breadwinners in their families. The woman were complaining about the pressure of not being able to quit their jobs, of worrying about being fired or laid off, about missing time with the family, of always having to be strong, and of being expected to have all the answers. The women interviewed spoke of feelings of resentment that their husbands were the ones spending time with the children, watching them grow up, while they were on the job every workday.
The bread-winning women spoke of resentment that their mothers never had to go through these frustrations and, thus, did not prepare them to deal with them. These women grew up with the expectation that career building would be an option for them, not a necessity. Perhaps they should have discussed it with Grandma, who dropped 12 kids and was back at work within a week after each one.
I remember sitting at lunch with a group of women coworkers discussing one's plans after pregnancy. "Will you continue to work?" she was asked. I remember thinking that her husband would never have been asked that question. Working after the baby came wasn't an option for him.
Maybe the grass isn't always so green over that fence. And, maybe, feminists need to stop telling women it is.
Only a militant feminist could think that men are not already being raised to "walk humbly and care deeply."
Conan the Grammarian at October 13, 2018 6:11 AM
The greatest lie feminism ever told: you can have it all.
I R A Darth Aggie at October 13, 2018 6:12 AM
I wonder if this is not yet another manifestation of Reasoning Deficit Disorder, that affliction recently rising in prominence coincidentally with the prevalence of autism, Asperger's and Alzheimer's diagnoses.
A feminist, should she have reasoning powers, might note that her own speech will never have the same impact as her taking on a truly risky job and succeeding at it: Woman, be a police officer, enlist in the military, get your welding certificate.
And if all you can do is screech on the pages of the Washington Post, and/or perhaps belittle half the population from the comfort of an environment almost completely provided by men...
...lobby for your mandatory registration per the Selective Service Act.
You know: the draft.
You don't want to be discriminated against. I heard you!
Radwaste at October 13, 2018 6:20 AM
The feminists are more shrill since they won, since it's really hard to govern a civilization by two rules:
1. Be angry at men - all men.
2. Demand some man, somewhere, be responsible and fix her problem.
If one were to accept that woman's claim from the Op Ed - that she speaks for all women, and that all women are filled at all times with murderous rage which they would inflict on their husbands, sons, grandsons, etc - we would need a lot more prisons and prison guards to institutionalize them all. Why should this woman in the Op Ed be allowed to purchase a gun, drive a car, or vote, since she's a scheming murderess by her own admission?
She screams that she's not listened to, but the worst thing for all women would be if men listened to her.
El Verde Loco at October 13, 2018 7:19 AM
I wonder if she's experiencing the effects of dementia, her writing and thought process is totally incoherent. And I really doubt that a rational person with her background would want their name attached to that article.
One of the risks that older people face is that they'll be trapped with a spouse who becomes abusive due to dementia and cognitive decline.
You see this a lot in assisted care facilities, and the abusers are more often women, though I'm not sure why.
Good luck to Mr. Brown. Hopefully he has people he can reach out to if things get really bad.
Nora at October 13, 2018 8:48 AM
"a retired history professor at Grinnell College"
Just from a brief summary of the article, I had already guessed that she was probably an academic.
David Foster at October 13, 2018 9:49 AM
You see this a lot in assisted care facilities, and the abusers are more often women, though I'm not sure why.
Because the men died before dementia got them.
dee nile at October 13, 2018 10:08 AM
The feminists lobbying for combat assignments for women want those assignments to be optional choices for women. Besides, they're generally lobbying for the near-combat careers for women - pilots, artillery, interrogations, military police, communications, logistics, etc. to be open to women - most definitely not infantry.
To the feminists, combat should be an optional career path for women, not a near certain one. As for men, well, if they join with no particular skills, an average GPA, or a medium ASVAB score, it's off to Fort Benning they go, those privileged patriarchal bastards.
Conan the Grammarian at October 13, 2018 12:17 PM
"To the feminists, combat should be an optional career path for women, not a near certain one."
I note also a rejection of reality on their part, again, as the performance of women in combat roles is actually, not theoretically, unacceptable.
Too many think movies and TV show the real world.
Radwaste at October 13, 2018 12:29 PM
Conan. You have a problem with Chattahoochee High?
Far across the Chattahoochee......
Richard Aubrey at October 13, 2018 12:43 PM
"You see this a lot in assisted care facilities, and the abusers are more often women, though I'm not sure why."
If a man was an abuser, he is usually physically abusive. Women are often verbal/emotional abusive. When you hit 80 or so the physical advantage is gone, so they can't be abusive. With women, being old gives them another card to play in their arsenal of verbal or emotional abuse. If the target fights back, they know they can retreat into being the helpless old woman role, everyone protect me from this beast.
Secondary, possibly families are more likely to toss an abusive grandpa to the curb, vs an abusive grandma.
Joe J at October 13, 2018 2:05 PM
You see this a lot in assisted care facilities, and the abusers are more often women, though I'm not sure why.
Because by and large women are rarely taught to control themselves emotionally
lujlp at October 13, 2018 2:16 PM
Dear Professor:
Take your endless supply of rage, shove it, and stay the hell away from my husband and my son. Thank you ever so much!
RigelDog at October 13, 2018 7:32 PM
"walk humbly and care deeply."--and yet her husband did this and it was not good enough. Something that men come to realize is that any goal requires a certain amount of work, and sometimes it isn't worth it. But women sometimes expect that the man will supply it, do it, fix it, and she does not realize that there are limits. Then, when she does not get everything she thinks she deserves, she is resentful. Raging at the world is a childish response. The world will always be full of injustice, sickness, crime. Raging does nothing since the world doesn't care.
cc at October 13, 2018 8:02 PM
Sounds like Dalrock's Law of Feminism:
Dalrock’s Law of Feminism: Feminism is the assertion that men are evil and naturally want to harm women, followed by pleas to men to solve all of women’s problems.
Although Professor Bissell Brown appears to have added a corollary:
Or else!
Paul at October 14, 2018 1:46 AM
The WaPo is just a sideshow. I'm far more concerned that a deranged man-basher holds the position of chairwoman of the U.S. Commission on Civil Rights.
dee nile at October 14, 2018 3:48 PM
WAPO's sub-head says, "Why can’t men organize to change themselves?" which I take to mean that men should organize to stop other men from raping women. Would these activities count? Developing a democratic system of government, electing legislatures, passing laws that criminalize rape and incarcerate rapists, funding police forces and court systems to identify, arrest, try, and convict rapists...
DrPinWV at October 15, 2018 4:15 AM
"...and yet her husband did this and it was not good enough."
This is what I think men are realizing about post-modern feminism: acceding to demands leads not just to more demands, but to demands that are self-contradictory. Satisfying them would require being able to do two opposite things simultaneously. It is a game that is unwinnable, by design.
Cousin Dave at October 15, 2018 8:40 AM
"He sat, hunched and hurt, and he listened."
Big part of the whole problem right there. Likely this episode is just one in a long series. Poor beta bastard probably goes through this twice a month.
If just once he said "This is inappropriate, I'm leaving." and walked out, my guess is things in their home would improve dramatically. And deep down, that's probably the kind of reaction she desires from him.
bkmale at October 16, 2018 10:38 AM
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