People Can Victimize You, But It Doesn't Mean You Have To Live As A Victim
Love this woman and this video. Agree with every bit of it.
I was bullied as a kid and had no friends till I was 15, and I lived as a suckup for a while afterward.
But I write in my "science-help" book, "Unf*ckology: A Field Guide to Living with Guts and Confidence," about how I refused to accept loserhood and victimhood as my fate and worked to transform to be confident. It's a process -- a daily process of not letting your feelings (like fear) be the boss of you. But if you repeatedly do that, you eventually change your default behavior from fearful to confident -- as I have.
via @juscallmekirsty
I had several childhood friends who were children or grandchildren of Holocaust survivors.
I remember one family - both parents had lost spouses and children, remarried, and gave birth to my friends.
The living room in their house was painted bright robins-egg blue. The sky was always blue in that house! Once or twice I saw one of the parents veer off into bad reminiscence, and the other one pulled them back into the present.
Their sons were the best guys ever, real mentsches.
Ben David at November 24, 2018 10:16 AM
a daily process of not letting your feelings (like fear) be the boss of you.
All the hard personal improvement stuff is this. Daily practice of doing the thing, that sucks, and you'd probably prefer to avoid.
WholeHAWG at November 24, 2018 8:40 PM
Several years ago I read something that stuck with me: "You do not get to choose the things that happen to you, but you do get to choose how you react to them." Choose wisely.
Conan the Grammarian at November 24, 2018 10:07 PM
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