Her: "Why are you staring at me, rapist?"

Me: "You have a booger hanging off your nose. You're welcome."

20 years ago, the advice for dealing with women acting or dressing immodestly was to look them square in the eye. The feminists believed that then when it was advantageous for them to claim to want to be treated like adults in the Clinton years. Now, it is another way to become a victim.

Given her description, she was hoping somebody would notice her crazy hair, but it was supposed to be the RIGHT somebody. He must have failed the three rules of getting along with adult female children:

1. Be attractive.
2. Don't be unattractive.
3. Be attractive.

4. Be well dressed and rich.

Looking forward to the first frat boy expulsion on this charge.

Sigh. I miss the second-wave feminists. I may have disagreed with them on some things, but at least they had moxie. If you stared at one of them, she'd probably stare right back.

I thought staring was a pretty innocuous way to make a first move.

On the other hand, I have been accused of staring (by women) more than once. The last time, I looked at a woman who was standing in a shadow to see if she was my friend Robbie (no, I was not staring at you because you are black.)

The other times, I was lost in repose. One time, I had just finished a chapter in a book and was thinking about it. I had no idea where my eyes fell. I truly wasn’t looking at anything. I guess that I need to guard my eyes. But where do I put them? Must I look at the ground? Keep moving them (and look suspicious with my furtive, darting eyes?)

Sometimes I hate people.

We need to change the words of the feminist anthem from, "I am woman watch me roar," to "I am woman hear me whine."

The other times, I was lost in repose. One time, I had just finished a chapter in a book and was thinking about it. I had no idea where my eyes fell. I truly wasn’t looking at anything. I guess that I need to guard my eyes. But where do I put them? Must I look at the ground? Keep moving them (and look suspicious with my furtive, darting eyes?)

Sometimes I hate people.

Jen at December 27, 2018 6:54 AM

Yes, I feel for you there. I was a child and teenager lost in my own little world. My daughter thinks I am probably ADD but it isn’t something I feel comfortable medicating my way out of. I am afraid that medication might make me more focused to too jittery to hold my pistol steady for competition.

Staring off into space, or inadvertently at someone was something I did on a regular basis.

What are you going to do when the person you accuse of stare rape has a higher victim rating that you do? I.e. is on the autism spectrum, or otherwise disabled?

So they're attempting to do two things here that should be called out.

1. Make 'violence' entirely subjective and likewise establish anxiety and discomfort as equivalent to physical harm

2. Expand that definition to cover almost any social interaction - on the determination of the 'victim'

This thinking comes from the belief that heterosexuality in inherently violent and degrading. So any interaction that may be inferred to be motivated by sexual attraction is necessarily harmful to women.

Great. Being a socially awkward dude is now a criminal offense. I wonder what kind of penalties will be thought up, and by who?

By the way, when did female neuroses become badges of honor? Maybe we could come up with a new word here, and see if it sticks:

Goodbye "feminism," and

hello, "infantilism."

"I guess that I need to guard my eyes. But where do I put them? "

I guess we're all going to have to start doing what New Yorkers did back in the '70s on the subway: wear sunglasses everywhere.

More evidence of women's feminist-led slide into absurdity.

The goodies offered to women by feminism are the same as are offered to insects by the Venus Fly Trap (appropriately named, in this case!)

Sensible women such as our flame-haired Advice Goddess (and Patricia, given her comment above) are speaking up, God bless 'em, but their voices are swept away by the mongers of victimization. Too many females relish being "damsels in distress." And now it's Big Daddy Gubmint (i.e., men acting as a coerced, voiceless, tax-paying collective) who is the heroic rescuer.

Not going to end well for anybody it appears, but Amy, keep up the good work!

There is a commercial where a guy appears to be staring. The guy being stared at is just about to say something when the starer picks up his cane (blind) and gets up.
A funny pic i saw was in a plane and across the aisle and up a couple rows is a guy with sunglasses apparently looking back over his seat. The narrator said he was uncomfortable being stared at until he realized the guy had sunglasses on the back of his head.
There are people so strange looking you can't help staring, esp if they seem a little dangerous. Keep an eye on them. On the other hand, around where I live most young women are wearing leggings and no pants--pretty hard not to stare and maybe even fall down the stairs.
I read an account by a woman. Back in the 70s or so she and friends (college age?) were hanging out and a guy drove slowly by in a convertible and called out to her "hey babe, what's up" or something equally corny. Then he drove back by. They are married now. Could not happen today I guess.

I'm a little surprised that this is coming up now. The concept of stare rape has been around for a while. It made an entry into the Urban Dictionary in 2014.

Feminists have long since been redefining terms to whatever they want them to mean to incriminate men. A couple of years ago, I was blocked on Facebook by a high-school friend of mine. Basically, he's an SJW now; he coddles victims and accepts the blame for everything being a white male. He also considers Jews to be "his people" because he had his ancestral DNA done and discovered he had a considerable percentage of Ashkenazi Jew in his ancestry. But to me, it's no big loss. Not that I consider it a triumph of mine to be blocked by him. I prefer to remember him as the very funny, hyperactive kid in high school rather than what he's become.

I think the final straw was when someone was attempting to call me out for all the things that men do to women. While my friend -- though I strenuously doubt he's ever raped anyone -- was accepting responsibility, I was opposed to this whole concept of original sin; i.e., if one man has done it, that makes all men responsible.

I pointed out that men, not women, are the more frequent victims of rape, since there is no reason to exclude the prison population. (Getting raped is not part of their sentence.)

She later referenced my response to her, saying "it's violent in its own way! It's like grabbing me by the hair saying, 'Actually, bitch, this is the way it is!'"

I can just see her now in a support group for victims of domestic violence. A woman could be describing a horrific story of a man who beat her and left her hospitalized. "Oh, I know what you're going through. I had a man on Facebook tell me I was wrong once!"

When I was 18 a cute blonde girl at Radio Shack caught me looking at her, and turned and glared at me and said, "What are you looking at!" And I said, "Sorry, I never saw a girl with arms that hairy." She instantly turned away and peeled out of the store with her arms crossed. Could you get away with something like that today?

I can just see her now in a support group for victims of domestic violence. A woman could be describing a horrific story of a man who beat her and left her hospitalized. "Oh, I know what you're going through. I had a man on Facebook tell me I was wrong once!"

A trauma for which she no doubt requires therapy.

At this rate they may as well just make it a felony to be male, and have done.

Anything that is exposed to public view is fair game to be stared at.

"Oh, I know what you're going through. I had a man on Facebook tell me I was wrong once!"

My aunt blocked me for telling her she was wrong, well proving it actually.

I had told her she was wrong on multiple occasions, it wasnt until I info dumped her with dozens of studies showing she was wrong that she blocked me

OK, so we (men, esp. those of us that are mojo-challenged) stop staring. What then? Even an inadvertent glance will become offensive and assaulty, so we stop looking at all. And the next domino will be our physical presence, that will be the "bad thing", and we just have to go away. And the next will be our mere existence, so we have to be rounded up and exterminated.

These people don't seem to understand the effects these things create. And they will be confused and unaware when the backlash occurs. Sow the wind, reap the whirlwind.

Patricia said "This thinking comes from the belief that heterosexuality in inherently violent and degrading. So any interaction that may be inferred to be motivated by sexual attraction is necessarily harmful to women."
yes. The force is powerful. The sexual force, that is. Any individuals who are not moved by sexual attraction do not reproduce. Men will go to ridiculous lengths to get the girl. This new puritanism is so strange, and is simultaneously accompanied by the demand that a gay march or naked bike ride with nude people on the street is fine.

I'd like to see such people as penned this article transferred immediately to Tokyo, to commute to work on their subway system.

Perhaps the sensation of being treated as a second-class citizen (at best) for not putting in more than 80 hours a week, then riding in their famously jammed subway cars forcibly pressed against strangers will provide useful contrast.