Let's Expand Our Definition Of Success
Recently, this rotten 20-something kid engaging in some rude behavior -- yammering loudly into his phone where others were a captive audience -- justified this to me by saying that his college cost $55,000.
There's class for you.
The truth is, class has nothing to do with money -- or, rather, you don't automatically have class because you were lucky enough to be born to somebody with money (as this kid looked to be from his pricey clothes and talk of friends overseas). One of the gardeners my landlord hires, an elderly man, probably doesn't make much money, but he is one of the most elegant and classy people I encounter on a regular basis.
I got into this line of thinking tonight -- about what many people tend to be impressed by or think is impressive -- after reading the end to a piece on the Institute for Family Studies site by Amber Lapp:
We should expand our definition of success to include blue-collar work, while also reforming higher education so that a working-class kid who wants to get a college degree will find the support to make it happen.
Lapp quotes from a book by Oren Cass, a fascinating guy whom I heard speak at a dinner. Cass's book: The Once and Future Worker: A Vision for the Renewal of Work in America:
Pushing every student in that direction [college] yields the occasional Horatio Alger story, which warms the heart and stands for the proposition that the same could happen to anyone, even though its rarity, in fact, underscores the opposite. The approach is most beneficial to those least affected by it, who benefit from innate and environmental advantages, who can flourish in college, and who can now justify a broad array of economic policies that further benefit themselves by claiming that everyone else can follow their path too. It is most harmful to those already disadvantaged, who must now navigate a system that has proven repeatedly its inability to meet their needs.
Lapp continues:
Instead, Cass points to Germany's apprenticeship system, among other models, and suggests the reintroduction of a tracking system--a voluntary sorting into either college-prep or occupational training programs during high school.This arrangement could be especially fruitful with public/private collaboration. Cass highlights one program operated by the Federation for Advanced Manufacturing Education in which employers sponsor students, who spend three days working at a job and two days in the classroom earning an associate's degree. The combination of education and work means that students have an income, graduate debt-free, and gain work experience--and more than 90% of graduates in this program land jobs paying $50,000 to $75,000 in the first year. Remarkably, Cass says that education reform along these lines could mean that "with no net increase in education spending, America could offer every 10th grader additional classroom learning, a subsidized three-year apprenticeship for which he might also be paid, and a savings account with $20,000 to $40,000 awaiting him upon completion."
When I read that, I thought of the young adults I know who've been carrying student debt like a noose around the neck while working low-paying service jobs completely unrelated to their fields of study. It's not just the financial burden and limitations imposed, but the psychological burden of feeling like you're wasting your life, as though your inability to launch a meaningful career post-graduation is a sign of personal failure.
As Megan, then married and with a son, told me, "I want to set that example for [my son], which I did go to college and everything. But I want to set the example for him that you need to go to school and do something that you love and make money at it. I don't want him to be like, 'Oh, my mom's a waitress.'"
How much different might it have been for Megan and others like her if we had a system that could smooth the transition from education to vocation? The implications would not only affect individuals but resound in the family. In the first year of her marriage, Megan and her husband found themselves arguing frequently, unsure how they would pay the bills, working opposite shifts and welcoming a baby into the world. They separated for a month, patched things up temporarily, but eventually divorced. The reasons were many and complex. But there's no doubt that starting out married life with student debt and the stress of low-wage work in today's labor market does little to form a solid foundation for family formation.
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The proposed solution still defines people by their utility/material acheivement.
Once the definition of success included family, community, religious/civic morality, military service... funny how all that stuff was undermined by the Left, replaced with Marxist class warfare or tribalism based on externals.
Ben David at March 21, 2019 3:18 AM
Did you ever read The Millionaire Next Door?
Anyhow, this reminds me of an article on Slate of a guy in Wyoming I think it was who earns 60k a year and how much he spends on his kids. And it got me thinking, those kids have a lifestyle comparable to those of someone making more than twice that much in an urban area. And the latter would be classed as "upper class" and the guy in Wyoming not. Even though the purchase power of their salaries is the same.
NicoleK at March 21, 2019 5:54 AM
Yeah, morality and family and community involvement was always tied up in financial success, don't kid yourself.
NicoleK at March 21, 2019 5:55 AM
Class is not money. It's not simply elegance either. Lacking rigidly-defined social classes, we Americans struggle with the concept of class and assign it based on intangibles -- money, behavior, manner, education, etc. -- when it's all of these, and none of these.
The book's a bit dated, but this guy has a pretty good handle on the American class system.
Conan the Grammarian at March 21, 2019 6:42 AM
@Conan: Followed your link to Paul Fussell's book. While he *may* have had some accuracy on the subject, the tone of it all suggests to me that Mr. Fussell had his own "yearnings towards pomposity". An East-Coast ivory-tower intellectual (despite infantry service in WWII), imagining himself to be upper-class, satirizing the unwashed lower- and middle-class rubes.
I wonder if he ever had any fun at all..
Brad R Kelley at March 21, 2019 7:30 AM
Cass . . . suggests the reintroduction of a tracking system--a voluntary sorting into either college-prep or occupational training programs during high school.
Does anyone doubt what the outcome of this would be in a racially mixed school?
Rex Little at March 21, 2019 7:44 AM
"A more or less accurate measure of class in America is TV size: the bigger your TV, the lower your class."
I LIKE it. Somehow, I missed that passage, years ago.
When my TV broke down for a couple of years (it still worked for DVDs), I went through maybe a week of withdrawal, but after that, I really didn't miss it. A doting relative got me a new one - and I have to say I did appreciate watching all sorts of good old shows I'd never seen before, like Ed Sullivan.
I sympathize with the idea that if you want to expand your social circle, it's important to be able to talk about the things that interest OTHER people, and that usually means being familiar either with sports or the most popular TV shows. Trouble is, the latter typically consists of stuff that's only on cable, and why should you have to have cable if you don't want to pay for it?
One CAN get DVDs of those shows from the library, of course, but it's still pretty time-consuming.
lenona at March 21, 2019 7:50 AM
> maybe a week of withdrawal, but
> after that, I really didn't
> miss it
This, a lot.
Many of our established media attractions are neurological more than they're emotional. The tiniest fraction are truly spiritual, where you work to accept challenging material and recognize a distinct identity within it. The vast majority of it is like morning TV shows.
Crid at March 21, 2019 7:56 AM
Someone here mentioned Germany favorably, but they are very top-down: the gov decides which track you will go into. Many young people take a while to figure out their direction and should not be pushed into a track against their will. On the other hand, the "everyone goes to college" theme has led to many schools dropping practical courses like auto shop, machine shop, and even home-ec. This isn't good either.
cc at March 21, 2019 8:14 AM
Most assuredly.
His first wife, also a writer, said much the same thing about him in her book, My Kitchen Wars, along with some other less-than-complimentary and salacious things.
One Amazon reviewer of his book, The Great War and Modern Memory suggested that as Fussell grew older, he grew increasingly bitter.
Conan the Grammarian at March 21, 2019 8:18 AM
Sorry, botched the link.
My Kitchen Wars by Betty Fussell
Conan the Grammarian at March 21, 2019 8:19 AM
In some places and to some extent, we already have a tracking system in the US. The main reason it doesn't work very well, in my experience, is that most parents force their teens into the track they want them to belong in, not the one that fits what the teens themselves want to do with their lives.
Parental authority is overdue to be cut back.
jdgalt at March 21, 2019 9:04 AM
I just started reading The Once and Future Worker and it is great on diagnosing the problems. I need to finish it before I say anything about its prescription to solve the problems. The one thing I have not seen a solution for is how to keep smaller towns alive. He stresses that people should have the option to live where they want which I agree with.
I totally agree on the vocational training. I have two friends who are high school math teachers and they both oppose forcing all kids to take Algebra 2. The weaker students should be given the vocational classes to help them succeed rather than math which makes them feel stupid.
Curtis at March 21, 2019 9:28 AM
Parental authority is overdue to be cut back.
That usually occurs when one is able to put a roof over their head, clothes on their back, and food on their table independent of parents.
I R A Darth Aggie at March 21, 2019 10:12 AM
Anyhow, this reminds me of an article on Slate of a guy in Wyoming I think it was who earns 60k a year and how much he spends on his kids. And it got me thinking, those kids have a lifestyle comparable to those of someone making more than twice that much in an urban area. And the latter would be classed as "upper class" and the guy in Wyoming not. Even though the purchase power of their salaries is the same.
NicoleK at March 21, 2019 5:54 AM
What kills most affluence is the house payments. Never realized as a kid how lucky I was to have a father who built the house we lived in and paid cash.
I was raised in Wyoming and still live there. No state income tax and low property taxes make a heck of a difference in disposable income.
Isab at March 21, 2019 10:42 AM
"Does anyone doubt what the outcome of this would be in a racially mixed school?" [disparate impact]
But that's an artifact of the colleges being expected to fix problems caused by the primary-school system. Where I live, about 3/4 of the public elementary and middle schools are widely considered undesirable. Parents jostle to move to the right neighborhoods and get their children into that 1/4 of the schools that are functional.
That sounds bad and snobbish, and in a way, it is. But there's another side to the story.
The schools that are already having problems with bad outcomes, instead of getting improvements, get fobbed off with "diversity" measures that just make their problems worse -- and that's what the supporters of those schools want. School board members don't have any skin in the game beyond getting re-elected. There's one school board member who has been on the board for decades. The schools in his district have been, that whole time, consistently among the worst-performing schools in the city. Yet he wins re-election easily, every cycle. Parents in his district, by and large, are fiercely loyal to him. His campaigns are so well-funded and supported that usually no one bothers to run against him.
How do you get people to care? How do you get anyone to realize that a civilized society is more than just tribes figuring out how to divide up territory? When people don't agree on what the basic standards of civilization ought to be, where do you go from there?
Cousin Dave at March 21, 2019 11:49 AM
In fact that is exactly what The Millionaire Next Door says... pay cash. Problem is in some areas that is absolutely not feasible.
Curtis... when I taught Algebra I had a girl repeating... she was terrible at it. She tried so hard. She had tutors. She just couldn't.On the other hand she was a brilliant artist, very interested in fashion. Wish she could have just gone to clothing design school.
NicoleK at March 21, 2019 11:57 AM
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