Thumbs-Up To Fantasy Evil! Tweet An Off-Color Joke? Off With Your Head!
One of the best things about my getting older (probably heavily influenced by my becoming a mediator) is softening up about people's mistakes. This is different from becoming a doormat; it doesn't means taking abuse from people. It means recognizing that we all fuck up all the time, and we'd like a little leeway on that, an opportunity to come back from it -- so why don't we try to give that to other people who fuck up?
We're all fallible, and if somebody wanted to "cancel" us, it could probably be done to any one of us quite easily -- simply in that unguarded moment or just by taking one thing we said and shining a spotlight on it and being all "Get her!" to the mob.
There's a piece in the New York Post by Johnny Oleksinski that resonated with me, "Hollywood loves redemption for villains like Cruella -- but not real people":
Disney's "Maleficent" in 2014 told us that it was perfectly fine for the "Sleeping Beauty" baddie to snatch baby Aurora from her cradle because she'd been wronged by the king. In the 2003 musical "Wicked," which is being made into an upcoming film originally slated for a 2021 release, it was revealed that the Wicked Witch of the West was simply misunderstood because she had green skin and enjoyed a good book.But the image-recuperation movies reached a fever pitch with "Joker" in 2019. The Batman spinoff took a fun comic book and turned it into "Taxi Driver." The Joker, played by an Oscar-winning Joaquin Phoenix, was now Arthur Fleck, a struggling for-hire clown and aspiring stand-up comedian who had a neurological disorder that made him giggle uncontrollably at inappropriate moments. He's poor, unsuccessful, mocked on the street and suffers from health issues.
He's also a terrorist! He murders a trio of businessmen on a subway train and shoots a talk-show host in the head on live TV to make a point and inspire fear among the masses. But hey, the host was mean and rich people are bad.
see alsoThat's not to say these movies suck. Tracking a person's downfall and asking viewers to understand their plight makes for many very entertaining, high-quality films. A puritanical movie industry that caves to the woke mob would be a travesty. But what is bothersome is that the holier-than-thou entertainment business never ever extends the same sort of empathy to its own.
Tweet an off-color joke or snap at an assistant in Hollywood and your career will be obliterated overnight. Guaranteed. There will be no room for nuance, only maybe a wimpy investigation with a forgone conclusion and certainly no stylish movie explaining why you weren't so bad after all. The same people who are churning out films -- often for kids -- preaching the idea that we shouldn't rush to judgment are themselves rushing to judgment every single time without fail.
I'd like to see companies start standing up to the mobs calling for an employee's head because they had an asshole-ish moment or even said something horrible.
You should be able to feed your children and keep a roof over your head, even if you're an asshole, and here's to people refusing to pile on the next time the mob goes after somebody -- and maybe even standing with them...not because you agree with them, but because mobbing is ugly, deeply harmful, and wrong.








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Kevin at May 30, 2021 11:00 PM
How do you get millions of 20 something rioters for made up or debatable problems? you program them young through culture and "education" when they were 10. We only noticed the CRT in schools because with them being done by zoom, not because the indoctrination wasn't there.
Hit them young so their heroes are woke. Joker is the grad student level of this, extreme violence makes you a hero, for the child level look to Disney. Spoilers.....
Frozen theme: men are idiots or evil, women are powerful and magical and oppressed even if they are the ruler. They are pure even if they do evil things.
Frozen 2 in their grandparents time the king was a jerk to natives by building a dam, it harmed nature and their nature power, and perpetuates the fight. Must uncover this secret and destroy the dam, of course your entire people is below the dam and will be completely destroyed if you do. Destroy the past and present for fairness. They of course do and somehow by magic everything is rosy.
Joe J at May 31, 2021 3:38 AM
You're right about the last two paragraphs -- but company managers, and especially HR people (a field which attracts the "woke") won't stop obeying mobs because they get an epiphany that it's wrong. They'll stop only when someone near and dear to them suffers from the problem himself. So in the meantime the thing to do is cancel lefties back at every opportunity. Make it a game all sides can play.
jdgalt1 at May 31, 2021 7:04 AM
It's another way to make money on an already-exhausted superhero meme. Now, we'll look at the super villain.
Western Civilization loves to romanticize outlaws, no matter how vicious they really may have been - Robin Hood, Jesse James, Butch Cassidy, Ned Kelly, Bonnie and Clyde, etc. Even fictional outlaws get the romantic treatment - the Joker, Malificent, Cruella, the Suicide Squad, etc.
In this our spacious isle I think there is not one,
But he of Robin Hood hath heard and Little John;
And to the end of time the tales shall ne'er be done
Of Scarlock, George a Green, and Much the miller's son,
Of Tuck, the merry friar, which many a sermon made
In praise of Robin Hood, his outlaws and their trade.
~ Drayton
The difference between a criminal and an outlaw is that while criminals frequently are victims, outlaws never are. Indeed, the first step toward becoming a true outlaw is the refusal to be victimized! ~ Tom Robbins (Still Life with Woodpecker)
Conan the Grammarian at May 31, 2021 7:26 AM
Conan..."Western Civilization loves to romanticize outlaws, no matter how vicious they really may have been - Robin Hood, Jesse James, Butch Cassidy, Ned Kelly, Bonnie and Clyde, etc."...is it really only *Western* civilization, or do all societies do this? I wonder.
In any event, reminds me of a song by Tom Russell:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKN7Va3t_NQ
David Foster at May 31, 2021 7:56 AM
Tom Russell is an American treasure, a wonderful storyteller.
I've seen him numerous times here in Seattle, always at the
Tractor Tavern, although I haven't seen him in quite some time.
Hearing him do his magnificent "Gallo Del Cielo", accompanied
by Andrew Hardin, is one my of favorite live music experiences.
JD at May 31, 2021 10:19 AM
Yeah, I'm kinda tired of the whole glamorization of evil thing, myself.
NicoleK at May 31, 2021 10:51 AM
Miss Manners pointed out, in 1998, that we used to condemn CONVICTED criminals flat out, but: "Miss Manners doesn't believe society's inexplicably proud claim that it has learned to be nonjudgmental. It has only shifted its area of disapproval: Criminals may be tolerated, or even lionized, but smokers and fat people are not."
The writer to MM was asking "doesn't reputation matter anymore" and complaining of how, among other things, "job applicants who affirm they never stole from an employer are rejected because 'everyone steals and only liars would deny it.' " (I assume the writer was talking about applicants who are asked point-blank about the subject.)
Of course, things are different now.
Read the rest here:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/archive/lifestyle/1998/04/15/putting-up-with-tolerance/3d423426-a37f-49c1-9c0a-060a42f439d6/
lenona at May 31, 2021 11:23 AM
Lenona, I wanna know about how you can only send letters to Martin on white paper, handwritten in black or blue ink.
I mean, it's a genius move in terms of keeping out the riffraff… but have we ever heard of anyone else to that?
Crid at May 31, 2021 6:12 PM
I know that's what it says under her OLD columns (1990s and earlier), but I double-checked just now at UExpress and it says, under a very recent column:
"Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website...to her email...or through postal mail to...(no mention of ink color)."
Other than that, her method for keeping away trolls and dimwits is to write at practically college level. Even so, more than half of the LWs get criticized by MM before she'll give them any sympathy. I suppose it's necessary, when so many young(?) readers seem to expect her approval when they want to charge their birthday or wedding "guests" for the food or what have you. (Her classic response: "If you can't afford champagne, serve punch. If you can't afford punch, serve water. But serve it graciously.")
I do wish, though, that she'd write just one or two books, in her usual witty style, about the basics of American etiquette for people whose first language isn't English. After all, such a book could be very useful not just to foreigners, but to children and teens, who might think "no one ever sent ME a thank-you note, and I didn't feel deprived, so why should I have to start WRITING thank-you notes? That's just ridiculous!"
(Until, of course, they start to realize that failing to write such notes, after interviews, could cost them job opportunities.)
lenona at May 31, 2021 8:56 PM
Why is this a surprise? Reasoning Deficit Disorder?
Hollywood, as Crid has mentioned, is the single most vicious arena to ever host competition. It MUST behave irrationally in other directions because the rewards for doing so are tenuous, as insistent as the need for self-justification and esteem.
The purely animal nature of most humans is never far from the surface, either. We get what we want, screw principle, the environment or other people.
Radwaste at June 1, 2021 5:57 AM
> her method for keeping away trolls
> and dimwits is to write at practically
> college level.
Effective! But it's possible that the topic of courtesy is something Americans aren't enthused about, especially (but not exclusively) the less-articulate ones. Americans like to think they can be quick friends with anyone, a presumption which often offends. Which I originally typed as offen offends.
> such a book could be very useful
> not just to foreigners
It's a rerun, but consider this link. There are many like it nowadays, but I first came across that one in the years when I was doing my own international travel, and it cleared some things up.
Crid at June 1, 2021 6:57 AM
Nice, thanks.
It reminds me of Roger Axtell's travel books. (He wrote mainly for American tourists, mind you, but also, occasionally, for visitors to the U.S.) One of ten books was Do's and Taboos Around the World -written at a level that even a preteen could enjoy, I think. He died in 2012, aged 80.
See here for info about his books - one is on international humor!
http://worldcat.org/identities/lccn-n85203690/
lenona at June 1, 2021 7:33 AM
> I double-checked just now
> at UExpress and it says
Your media diet is sincerely interesting.
You should be running your own site, too
Crid at June 2, 2021 3:25 AM
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