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Lie Detector For Online Dating
Regina Lynn writes in Wired about a site called, where people post reviews of people they've met through online dating sites:

It's like, only instead of books, you're reviewing people. More specifically, you are reviewing their ability to represent themselves online.

The goal here is not to rate (or berate) the person, but to compare how he or she matched the profile that got your attention. Does she look like her pictures? Is he really 6 feet tall? Could she quote from every Monty Python skit you've ever seen, or is she trying to fake it with five snippets from The Holy Grail?

Currently, you can read and submit reviews for members of, JDate and To post a review, you indicate which dating site they belong to and enter their profile ID. Rate them with a "yes" (they tell the truth in their profiles) or a "no," and add a few words of explanation.

"Very open, fun and is really cute in all the right places," we learn about one woman who gets a "yes."

"Major baggage and no drive," opines a woman about a man she rated "no."

"His dog is most likely the best part of him," says another disenchanted woman. In fact, some of the reviews are scathing enough to make you wonder how the reviewer didn't catch a clue before the connection escalated into a date.

The site will let you browse a few without posting yourself. Here are a few that came up when I browsed:

February 20, 2005, glugglug... Great looks, not much else The objective parts of her profile are true, so I'd say she is a TrueDater as the more questionable things are more subjective, or could have been circumstantial with our date. She really is Firm & Toned, etc. The pics look nothing like her, but in this case that's totally ok -- IRL she looks like a model! However, when she says she is easygoing and fun to be around, as far as I can tell this is false. She was very uptight, goody-goody, and overly self concious, seems pretty high-maintenance to me, and had no detectable sense of humor. Really freaked out when she figured out I had spent the previous night with another jdate.

January 23, 2005, truester... cute and cool
She's definitely a cool chick and very cute (real life actually better than pics). We weren't a "match" but I would recommend going out with her if you think the two of you might be.

February 5, 2005, hotjewishgoddess... what a complete freak - does not take no
Ok, I should have known this guy was a bit whack but I believe in giving everyone a try. He asked me to meet him in his neck of the woods because he had the perfect dinner spot (he claimed great atmosphere). I met him. He was dressed in clothing that probably fit him when he was 3 inches shorter and about 30lbs thinner. I think that was when he bought the outfit too because it was ragged. He then escorted me to his favorite fine dining experience...The Double Tree Bar & Lounge. He insisted on talking, endlessly and then tried to hold my hand. I have no idea what signal he read but it wasn't one I was sending. We finally leave the lovely bar & lounge when he again lunges for my hand (sorry, I say, I need it for balance). Finally he invites me into his apt. to watch tv. Amazingly I am not interested. But wait! He has another idea. How about we sit outside his apartment and talk some more. I was swept away by the awfulness of this date and did just that - sat there. Finally I came up with a brilliant get away...I have to go, I feel bad leaving my dog alone. He walked me to my car and went in for the kiss (I gave him the cheek). When he went in for another I said sorry bud, one is my limit. He called me later and asked me out again. When I said no he insisted on a reason - I went for our politics are too different. That isn't true he said. We have such chemistry. No, we don't I replied. Yes we do he categorically stated denying me and saying my reason for rejecting him was stupid. Ok, if you want to I told him he should consider dressing for a date and perhaps investing in a visit to the barber. He hung up on me. But that wasn't the end. He wrote me 2 e-mails basically telling me I am shallow (perhaps I am) and that he knows how to dress. I wrote him back saying he basically missed the point. If you don't want to hear the answer don't ask the question 3 times. Recommendation: don't date this guy unless you really like bad dates and need a story to tell others at your next dinner party.

March 12, 2005, sabrina... Dishonest
Two profiles on jdate with different names and different ages (with 13 years difference between the ages!) In one profile he's 48 and in the other he's 35! Just a slight disparity. Other profile is 42339405. If someone goes to the trouble of having 2 active profiles and lying about their age, they're probably not a truedater.

Posted by aalkon at April 2, 2005 10:01 AM

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Well, I guess I'll have to date some people on this blog and see how they rate me. So, Crid. My hotel or yours?

Posted by: Patrick at April 2, 2005 11:18 AM

Been a while since I saw anything that made me so glad that my age and general crustiness make me ineligible for the scene....

Posted by: Stu "El Inglés" Harris at April 2, 2005 1:06 PM

Are you hinting about your own status? Say it ain't so!

Posted by: purplepeopleeater at April 2, 2005 5:42 PM

Aw, damn. Just when I was threading up to become a PLAYA!

Posted by: Paul Hrissikopoulos at April 3, 2005 1:15 PM

Hmm. Methinks perhaps the internet is not the best place to find a quality date.

Posted by: Goddyss at April 4, 2005 4:50 PM

There's always bars at 2 in the morning. The rate-a-date is usually out of order by that time.

Posted by: Lena-doodle-doo at April 6, 2005 8:22 AM

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