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She Just Likes 'Em Better Naked
Lena pointed out this fantastic story, by Alex Witchel, about Jane Juska, now 70, who advertised for a man in the New York Review of Books:

"Before I turn 67 — next March — I would like to have a lot of sex with a man I like. If you want to talk first, Trollope works for me."

...Over the course of a month, she received 63 responses and spent the better part of a year following them up, an experience she recounts in her first book, "A Round-Heeled Woman: My Late-Life Adventures in Sex and Romance" (Villard). It turns out that Ms. Juska did indeed have a lot of sex with a lot of men she liked, and still does, having seen one of them as recently as that morning. He's 35. Which might explain the lower-back problem.

"I didn't want to think, `What if I never had sex with a man again?' " Ms. Juska recalled of her decision to place the ad. "I didn't want to just sit there and think, `Wouldn't it be nice, if?' "

...it has been women, not men, whose responses to Ms. Juska's adventure have been the most harsh. "I did a reading in Berkeley for mostly women," Ms. Juska said. "I said that the age range of the men in the book went from 84 to 32. And one woman said about the 32-year-old, `He must have been short and ugly.' I said, `Actually, he's tall and handsome.' Another said, `Then what would he want with you?' She shrugged. "When women in particular hear about what I've done, the question which unbidden comes to them is, `What have I done with my life?' " she continued. "And lots of people at my age don't want to go back and look at it. That's why they're so nuts about their grandchildren. It keeps the focus off them."

Ms. Juska said she knows other women her age or older who have tried their luck online, at match.com. "One woman I know is just infuriated because she met this very nice man online who turned out to be 84 and he hadn't told her. I said she was ageist and she said she was only mad that he lied. And I said, `Come on now.' But most of the women insist on asking me, `Didn't you really do this because you wanted to get married?' Ms. Juska shook her head. "The institution of marriage does not interest me," she said firmly. "I did get a marriage proposal, but I said no. I'd have to give up the others, then. I'd have to give up too much."

..."I had no hope of it turning out to be anything like this," she said. "I expected to be murdered, or made sad at the very least. But I never expected to have intimate friendships with extraordinary men. True, I've met some men who are not kind or thoughtful, but I've also met men who are kind and thoughtful and funny and true." Her smile was wry. "Which is to say, I guess I found out that men are people."

She leaned over then to pick up her napkin and said something that was muffled. What was that? She sat up straight and spoke quite clearly. "They're just the kind of people I like better naked," she said.

Posted by aalkon at April 10, 2005 8:41 AM

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The story is 2 years old and her book is out. She had a good time, but ended up falling for the wrong guy.

Posted by: Kate at April 10, 2005 4:58 PM

"Lena pointed out this fantastic story, by Alex Witchel, about Jane Juska"

Not I! It was Crid who pointed us to it.

Posted by: Lena-doodle-doo at April 11, 2005 5:21 PM

I don't care that the story is 2 years old and she fell for the wrong guy. Obviously she's figured out that it's never too late to be hooking up with guys. She can dump the "wrong" guy and try, try again. And have a good time doing it! Which was a message this 47 year old celibate horny woman needed to hear.

Posted by: Diana at April 11, 2005 6:12 PM

"It's never too late to be hooking up with guys[...] and have a good time doing it!"

I always tell myself: Though my tits are sagging, I can still keep my chin up!

Posted by: Lena at April 11, 2005 10:08 PM

T-Muffie put it like this: DWF, OWN TEETH, SEEKS CONTINENT NON-SMOKER WHO CAN STILL DRIVE AT NIGHT.

Learn to love wattle. It's the future... if you're lucky.

Posted by: Crid at April 12, 2005 12:11 PM

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