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On her new LATimes.com blog, Styles & Scenes, my pal Elizabeth Snead posted yet another naive comment from Maureen Dowd. Dowd made the remark on a night she was interviewed for Writers' Bloc by her former boyfriend, The West Wing's Aaron Sorkin:

Why, when women are running four of the six major studios, is Hollywood is still making moves portraying women as maids, shopgirls, hookers, ghosts and geishas?

My reply:

It's basic evolutionary psychology. Perhaps Dowd didn't actually read the Stephanie Brown study about how men tend to prefer subordinate women that she mentioned in her confused diatribe/book excerpt in the NYTimes.

It's also basic drama. The character has to go somewhere. Lady vice-president does what, apply for a transfer to the San Francisco office?

The biggest problem is not what jobs women hold in movies, but the fact that Hollywood makes piles and piles of tripe. Whether the woman in a particular piece of tripe is a manicurist, an executive, or an assassin is immaterial. Dowd makes the (sexist) mistake of expecting female studio heads to be responsible to women, not their stockholders. It's just as sexist as people who lament the absence of a woman president or supreme court justice. Thanks, but I'll settle for the best person for the job, man, woman, or hermaphrodite.

And PS, they should've gotten David Rensin to interview her.

(They instead had Aaron Sorkin, her former ex, who apparently played all kissy-wissy with her instead of challenging her remarks.) And regarding the study by University of Michigan's Brown which I referenced in a recent column, men prefer subordinates for relationships. They might do the boss for a night or two.

Don't miss Snead's account of Sorkin, Dowd, and the shoes:

Sorkin admitted he often thought of Dowd while writing witty banter for actresses. And he did tell a funny, if slightly embarrassing, shoe fetish tale about Dowd, whom he met during the first season of "The West Wing” when he was shooting scenes in Washington, D.C.

“I wrote an off-screen character who was a powerful, highly feared female columnist for the New York Times. One of the White House staffers had inadvertently made a joke about her shoes and was afraid that the administration was going to suffer if he didn’t apologize.”

To thank Dowd for being “a good sport” about the thinly veiled reference, Sorkin sent her a slew of expensive shoes from Barneys the day the show aired.

“She liked them a lot,” recalled Sorkin. “But she told me that because she sometimes covers Hollywood in her column, to accept the gift was unethical. But she didn’t give back the shoes. What she has done, and this was five or six years ago, is, every once in a while, she will just give me cash. Forty, sixty, one hundred dollars … It’s not clear to me how giving me cash makes the ethical picture less murky, but it was terribly important to Maureen that this be done right and this is her version. She just gives me cash.”

“It’s gonna take me to the year 2030 to pay off those shoes,” confessed Dowd, still smiling, albeit not quite as sweetly.

The woman is a New York Times columnist and she can't pay off the shoes in one fell swoop? And she doesn't have a strong sense of ethics and real personal policies around them? Sad. As in, pathetic.

Posted by aalkon at November 25, 2005 8:30 AM

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More on Dowd's feet here:

http://tinyurl.com/avjbu

Apparently, they are enormous. Maybe nice shoes in her size are hard to find.

Posted by: nash at November 25, 2005 6:44 AM

Fred on Dowd.

Hilarious.

Posted by: RKN at November 25, 2005 6:44 AM

Sorkin? Dowd? Why am I thinking of Andrea Dworkin?

Posted by: Patrick at November 25, 2005 8:34 AM

....women as maids, shopgirls, hookers, ghosts and geishas?


Before I started zapping all TV commercials immediately, I couldn't help noticing that the standard ad exec's view was that American households are composed of an organised, cool, practical woman matched with a complete doofus of a husband. Does that count as some sort of cultural payback, or does everyone now ignore this nonsense same as me?

Posted by: Stu "El Inglés" Harris at November 25, 2005 8:49 AM

It's never their opinion, Stu, it's their opinion of what sells to housewives.

Posted by: Amy Alkon at November 25, 2005 8:53 AM

And PS, if she can buy shoes at Barney's, her feet aren't trannie large or anything.

Posted by: Amy Alkon at November 25, 2005 8:59 AM

I think the shoe thing is weird. Who buys shoes for someone else, unless she's walking on his chest in those heels? Sorkin strikes me as a submissive, though.
And does Dowd really think that Amy Pascal is a rocket scientist? Running a studio doesn't take a genius IQ.
But Sorkin and Dowd both like to believe that all their friends were honor students and double 800s, and thus deserve all the bounty with which they've been blessed.

Posted by: KateCoe at November 25, 2005 10:11 AM

Heh heh...I think Kate Coe's got it.

Posted by: Amy Alkon at November 25, 2005 10:15 AM

> Sorkin? Dowd? Why am I thinking of
> Andrea Dworkin?

Patrick comes through like a brother.

Posted by: Crid at November 25, 2005 11:06 AM

So this is OSM/Pajamas Media's idea of "best of the blogs"? A blog entry noting another blog entry from a major metropolitan newspaper writer commenting on another major metropolitan newspaper writer? And then some discussion of foot sizes?

Aha...that $3.5 million is just reaping in the returns!

Posted by: Adam Carstens at November 25, 2005 1:58 PM

Adam, there's more than one entry in my blog. Or are you too busy running around to Pajamas Media signatories to snipe to read any further?

Posted by: Amy Alkon at November 25, 2005 2:02 PM

Tragically, I don't suppose I'll ever be quite so fascinating as Adam Carstens. Here's a bit from his blog, http://www.foxbasealpha.com/:

Lots of busy-ness happening. A new couch, a trip to San Diego, and a special guest star for a few weeks. We now have what I consider to be the best rice cooker on the planet.

Frankly, I'm more interested in MoDo's shoe size.

By the way, the idea that anything on a major media site is tainted in some way is just dumb. So, Snead's earning a living for blogging. Good for her. That's my intention in joining PJ Media. I can write my book instead of trying to scare up advertisers to buy blogads. All good to me. Perhaps the sentiment being expressed by Adam is not the disdain it seems to be but envy instead.

Posted by: Amy Alkon at November 25, 2005 2:05 PM

Nice with the snark Amy - thanks for the plug! ;) The blog you found is not intended to be anything more than just personal musings for close friends and family - not claiming it as anything more than that (for professional related musings, go here: www.nslg.net/blog - and snark all you want).

Anyway - I just thought it was funny how the OSM bloggers claim to be "changing the world" and yet their featured blog piece is about you talking about someone else talking about MoDo...what IS with all the media navel gazing?

Posted by: Adam Carstens at November 25, 2005 5:01 PM

Adam, sometimes the statements of those in the media are worth discussing. Ellizabeth Snead reported on remarks made by Dowd. I gave my opinion on one of those remarks; an opinion I would venture is atypical. Much of my thinking is. That's why I get fired from papers from time to time, and why I'm banned from the LA Times features sections, and perhaps why I was invited to join Pajamas Media.

I'm so tired of the knee-jerk assumptions of people hellbent on disliking whatever they're supposed to. It was Dowd's assumption about Hollywood that I found worthy of comment. Whether Dowd made the remark she did or somebody else did is immaterial to me. Still, Dowd is a person of influence, so it would actually be weird to avoid commenting on her and her ideas. I hadn't before only because I've been too busy.

If you don't like what I write, I'm sure there are a number of sites that conform to your "no MSM" rules, or whatever it is that guides you in what is and isn't appropriate to post. Keep fighting the expected fight!

Posted by: Amy Alkon at November 25, 2005 7:11 PM

Stu,

Before I started zapping all TV commercials immediately, I couldn't help noticing that the standard ad exec's view was that American households are composed of an organised, cool, practical woman matched with a complete doofus of a husband. Does that count as some sort of cultural payback, or does everyone now ignore this nonsense same as me?
Not everyone.

Posted by: Ed Driscoll at November 25, 2005 10:26 PM

>I couldn't help noticing that the standard ad exec's view was that American households are composed of an organised, cool, practical woman matched with a complete doofus of a husband. Does that count as some sort of cultural payback, or does everyone now ignore this nonsense same as me?

I knew there was some reason the only things I watch now are the history channel or TiVo-ed episodes of Quantum Leap. If Dowd wants a man she should figure out what exactly that tasty evil leaper does right and do that instead of selfishly blathering on about her own obsolescence.

Fred's article brought up something that I'd never quite realized. Many American women try to be sexy or work at being sexy or pretend to be sexy or act in a way they think men will consider sexy. I've dated a Romanian and a Russian, and both simply were sexy. It was as obvious and natural in both cases as tallness is for a seven footer.

I'm not saying foreign women are better, per se. I'm just wondering why it is that almost all foreign women I've met have this and the overwhelming majority of American women don't.

I do live in Pittsburgh, so that might have something to do with it.

Posted by: little Ted at November 26, 2005 1:13 AM

Little Ted,
I haven't the faintest idea what you are saying: unless it's "Romanian/Russian babes - wow!!!"?

(Fred from the linked article, on the other hand, seems to be saying that foreign babes are, additionally, content to breed with bitching.)

Nothing like a little positive stereotyping, I guess.

Posted by: Jody Tresidder at November 26, 2005 7:30 AM

er.."without" bitching!

Posted by: Jody Tresidder at November 26, 2005 9:10 AM

Regarding the Romanian/Russian comparison, we have Puritanism-gone-wild in this country on at least two fronts: religious and feminist. Women are badgered, outwardly and subtly, to think sexuality and sexy is wrong. I think that's why sexuality either comes out in blatant (and sick) ways -- in a sort of "binge sexuality" -- or there's a strong reacting against it coming out. My experience of people in eastern and western Europe is that they're closer to the guts of life -- nature, sexuality, sex, the way things work in life. We're living more sanitized, distant lives. Pass the Purell!

Posted by: Amy Alkon at November 26, 2005 10:42 AM

I think the comment about your puritanism-gone-wild is just about right. And maybe that capitalism-gone-wild has something to do with it too - especially that your culture tends to favor substitution of the real with the artificial. But then again I met an american girl a few weeks ago and was very attracted to her really american charisma. Yes, maybe the whole sexy part is a bit artificial and unique, but of course american women got a lot going for them too.

Also, maybe I'm taking this too far, but russian women do have a sexy melody of voice :) It's a bit of a tough and hard culture (in my view) and they live throuh it with warmth, strength and mystique.

Posted by: From Sweden (that's in northern europe even) at November 27, 2005 7:22 PM

I guess the stereotype is that Americans are more direct in a certain charming way; then again, this sometimes plays out in France with people immediately asking others what they do and all those other data-sucking questions to help classify a person instead of experiencing them.

Posted by: Amy Alkon at November 27, 2005 7:58 PM

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