The Difference Between Grief And Mourning
By Joan Didion. From an interview by Mary Ann Gwinn in the Seattle Times:

Q: One thing you talk about in the book is the difference between grief and mourning.

A: I think I said that grief is passive. It creeps over you in those famous waves, you know, whereas mourning is an active process of remembering, reliving the good and the bad, and defanging it in a way. Until you have examined all those memories, they don't lose their power to undo you.

Just got back from NYC an hour ago, which is why I didn't blog sooner. Very exciting trip with Gregg, with a visit to The New York Times, an incredible dinner at Bouley, and lunch (quite a thrill) with Jill Krementz and Kurt Vonnegut, among other things. More about the trip soon. More blog items, too.