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Where To Get Help Abusing Your Child
The sickos at "Focus On The Family" very openly advocate what should be considered a jailable offense for child abuse -- sending your (stereotypically) gay kid to "ex-gay" counseling:

From James Dobsons' Focus on the Family's "Focus on Your Child" website:

Helping Boys Become Men, and Girls Become Women

Is My Child Becoming Homosexual?

Before puberty, children aren’t normally heterosexual or homosexual. They’re definitely gender conscious. But young children are not sexual beings yet — unless something sexual in nature has interrupted their developmental phases.

Still, it’s not uncommon for children to experience gender confusion during the elementary school years. Dr. Joseph Nicolosi reports, “In one study of 60 effeminate boys ages 4 to 11, 98 percent of them engaged in cross-dressing, and 83 percent said they wished they had been born a girl.”

Evidences of gender confusion or doubt in boys ages 5 to 11 may include:

1. A strong feeling that they are “different” from other boys.

2. A tendency to cry easily, be less athletic, and dislike the roughhousing that other boys enjoy.

3. A persistent preference to play female roles in make-believe play.

4. A strong preference to spend time in the company of girls and participate in their games and other pastimes.

5. A susceptibility to be bullied by other boys, who may tease them unmercifully and call them “queer,” “fag” and “gay.”

6. A tendency to walk, talk, dress and even “think” effeminately.

7. A repeatedly stated desire to be — or insistence that he is — a girl.

If your child is experiencing several signs of gender confusion, professional help is available. It’s best to seek that help before your child reaches puberty.

Why isn't this against the law -- as a form of child abuse? How many of these kids who go through this counseling kill themselves because of it? I don't know the answer -- just wondering. Here's an excerpt from statement from the former (so-called) "Love In Action" co-founder John Evans:

"My Ministry Shatters Lives"

uthor Wayne Besen released an explosive letter today by Love In Action's co-founder and former ex-gay John Evans, which rebukes gay conversion groups saying that they "shattered lives". The group he started has recently made headlines because it runs a boot camp for gay teens called "Refuge" that tries to turn adolescents heterosexual, often against their will.

"In the past 30 years since leaving the 'ex-gay' ministry I have seen nothing but shattered lives, depression and even suicide among those connected with the 'ex-gay' movement," Evans writes in his letter to John Smid, Love In Action's current director. "I challenge Christians to investigate all sides of the issue of being gay and Christian. The Church has been wrong in the past regarding moral issues and I'm sure there will be more before Christ returns."

Evans, a gay man, founded what may be the first modern ex-gay group in San Rafael, Calif. in 1973, along with a heterosexual preacher Kent Philpott. Evans left his life partner of ten years to start the gay conversion group. He later dropped out after he realized it didn't work and his best friend committed suicide because he could not turn heterosexual.

"Having the founder of Love In Action step forward to admonish the ministry he started speaks to the utter hopelessness and futility of these groups, not to mention the danger they represent," said Wayne Besen, Author of Anything But Straight: Unmasking the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth (Haworth, 2003). "Most disturbing are the compulsory gay boot camps for teens which are tantamount to child abuse. They should immediately be shut down."

In May, 16-year old Zach told his fundamentalist Christian parents that he is gay. Horrified by the news, they vowed to fix him by sending him to an "ex-gay" boot camp in Memphis to be reprogrammed. Like a modern day message in a bottle, Zach used his Internet blog to send an SOS.

"I told my parents I was gay," he wrote. "This didn't go over very well," and "They tell me that there is something psychologically wrong with me, and they 'raised me wrong.' Today, my mother, father and I had a very long talk in my room, where they let me know I am to apply for a fundamentalist Christian program for gays."

The next day, Zach threw another bottle into the cyber-sea.

"It's like boot camp. If I do come out straight, I'll be so mentally unstable and depressed it won't matter."

You can counsel me all you want, and it's not going to make me hot for short men or skinny men or make me like celery, green peppers, coffee ice cream or eggplant. Or start chasing chicks. I imagine telling girls who are into girls that it's time to get into men doesn't work too well, either. How well would it work on you, somebody telling you that whatever you find attractive in other humans is wrong and shameful? Is that going to make you attracted to some other quality that you now find unappealing? Or is it just going to make you feel like there's no way out?

Can we turn the clocks back any faster than we already are? At this rate, in a few years, I'm a bit worried I'll be barefoot, pregnant, and bent over a spinning wheel.

Posted by aalkon at December 26, 2005 12:57 PM

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So, apparently, if your male preadolescent child doesn't like rough-and-tumble play, has female friends, or is disintersted in athletics, it's time to send them off to a concentration camp -- er, sorry, I meant to say "boot camp."

What is wrong with a boy who doesn't like sports, has female friends, etc? How about we just let children BE children? And grow into adults with their own interests? There's nothing wrong with a man becoming a dancer instead of a quarterback, or a fashion designer instead of a construction worker? Does all of this mean the child is going to grow up homosexual? Not necessarily, but even if he did, so what? As long as he's a productive, happy citizen and isn't harming anyone, who cares what he is?

Posted by: Patrick at December 27, 2005 11:46 AM

" if your male preadolescent child doesn't like rough-and-tumble play, has female friends, or is disintersted in athletics, "

I believe this describes a 9-year-old boy I'm friends with -- a kid who sings in the NYC opera when he isn't chasing girls. Indeed, why not just let kids be. This is the perverse version of forcing a kid to go into daddy's business.

Posted by: Amy Alkon at December 27, 2005 12:59 PM

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