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A Hole In The Security Blanket
Okay, all you brats, complaining about my gay marriage post, here's a little something for you to chew on. I just got this short question via e-mail:

What is more important in a relationship at age 54, chemistry or security?

The reply I dashed off:

It depends on your values and situation. Some people have to settle for a relationship as a form of either financial or emotional prostitution -- you scratch my back, maybe with the rent money, and I'll stick around, or I don't have enough of a self to be alone, so I'll be with you. I'm a whore for love, personally. I'd never get married because if the relationship gets boring or awful, it should end. Then again, I support myself, and have always counted on needing to do so so I would always be independent. Too many women depend on men for their survival, making them prisoners to a guy's salary. Ick.

Posted by aalkon at July 14, 2006 10:18 AM

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The thing about gay marriage is none of the gay people I know want to get married. It is shameful that someone would feel so insecure that they would feel their own marriage or values would be compromised by two other people creating a life together.

Posted by: eric the brat at July 14, 2006 1:46 PM

Just kidding Amy! At 54 if I am not with my wife I want to be in a Bhuddist monastery. Single age 50+ women scare me- all they talk about are how men have ruined their lives.

Posted by: eric at July 14, 2006 2:00 PM

Since I believe that the only security is that which you provide for yourself, if I had to choose between the two I'd go for chemistry. That's the nice thing about being financially self-sufficient; it really frees you up to choose romantic partners based on attraction and shared interests/values.

Posted by: deja pseu at July 14, 2006 6:32 PM

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