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The Beauty Of Being A Bitch
A friend sent me this Joan Collins quote:

You must appreciate yourself enough to say "no" when you want to, to get that word in, even if you think you're being rude -- and not feel guilty about it, then or later. Guilt is the most useless emotion we can feel, and it probably was invented by bossy boutique salespersons.

This goes especially for girls in their teens and 20s, those least likely to use the word.

Posted by aalkon at November 14, 2006 5:17 AM

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Nope. Guilt was invented by Catholicism.

Posted by: Hasan at November 14, 2006 6:12 AM

And if you can't say no, then just be really passive-aggressive.

Posted by: Paul Hrissikopoulos at November 14, 2006 9:16 AM

I'm Irish Catholic, and when I was a teenager I had a psychotherapist who was Jewish. She once said to me, "In terms of guilt, I thought us Jews had it bad. Then I started seeing Irish clients..."

Anyway, I take issue with some of Miss Collins' suggestions. Talking over other people is not the kind of behavior I'd promote in any wholesale way. And feelings of guilt or remorse are, for me, little red flags indicating that I need to sit down and think about something I've done -- and maybe done wrong. The kind of guilt-free living touted by Collins goes by another name: Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Posted by: Lena at November 14, 2006 11:28 AM

You can still be polite but forceful, and not feel guilt. Just watch how most men behave, and pattern your behaviour after them. They don't worry about being 'selfish' or 'inconsiderate' the same way women do. Those labels are put onto women to try to control their behaviour and make them do what they're told, which usually involves serving others.

Posted by: Chris at November 14, 2006 12:05 PM

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