LW:

...we'd initially agreed that we were only looking for something casual and short-term, I told him that I was developing feelings for him and gave him the option of walking away, but he actually seemed happy to hear how I felt.

Not that I'm suggesting she end things with him, but this portion annoyed me.

She fears the relationship is becoming a distraction to her, so she "gives him the option" of leaving.

Grow a spine. If you think the relationship should be ended, end it yourself. Don't ask him if he wants to do it, shifting responsibility to him.

Wow! I think this qualifies as a First World Problem. LW, what you are currently experiencing is something we call life. I know in the movies and TV it seems like all the young pretties just sit around and emote, but here in the real world you will still have to go to work everyday. And please don't be fooled by the feminist propaganda which says that men are disposable and that you can find a new relationship whenever you are "ready". That is crap. If good relationships were easy to come by, Amy wouldn't have a job. Life is about choices. Decide what is most important to you and pursue that dream, but don't come back here ten years from now moaning about "the one who got away". You are very lucky and if you guys work together, you can get most of what you want out of life.

I'm missing what the problem is, she wanted casual and fun, that's what it is. It may have lasted longer than you expected, but just remember you can end it when you want.
Unless she left out how he is pressuring her for commitment or marriage.
he is probably loving that she isn't pressuring him, why would he walk away?

And furthermore, she didn't "give him the option" to leave. He always had that.

So, she can go milk a wet telephone till she gets hit by a dry car driven by a pirate.

Life is what happens while you are making plans.

Milk comes from cars. Honest. It worked.

"I'm missing what the problem is"

The problem is, what if he's "The One"(trademark, copyright, all rights exclusive, etc. etc.)? It's all "amazing", that means it's Destiny, Meant-To-Be, Happily-Ever-After!! What if she can't have him the way she's been promised by the Disney and all them romantic comedies?!

Patrick et al, she seems young. A few years down the road, this will all seem silly to her, too.

I like this advice:

What you need is a boyfriend who's willing to have what amounts to a long-distance relationship while living only a short distance away.

I was in a long distance relationship for almost two years. I was in grad school (college on steroids) and working, and my boyfriend was across the country starting his own business. Anyone who tells you that you need to spend X-number of hours with a person to be in a relationship must have no life. In fact, the less you see each other, the more special the time you have together is. Want to keep the spark alive? Try seeing each other four times a year.

Eventually, if you want the marriage-and-kids thing, you'll have to see each other more and develop the deep trust and intimacy that comes from regular contact. But now? You don't have to do that. Stick to once-monthly days in bed if that's what you want. Or have an open relationship.

I'm with Amy, though, that you need to regularly express appreciation and affection, but that can be accomplished by linking him a funny video or sending a spontaneous text. My boyfriend and I sent each other electronic "post cards" -- where we'd take a picture of wherever we were at the moment and text it to the other person, with the caption "wish you were here." If you don't have time to have dinner with him, call up your favorite Chinese restaurant and have them deliver a meal to him (and he can do the same for you). Lots of options.

"I'm sorry, I have a history test on Wednesday so I can't spend the night Tuesday. Do you want to go clubbing on Friday?"

"I need to spend at least one day this weekend writing a paper, and I need to be awake to do it, so I can't see you Friday or Saturday, but I should be finished Saturday afternoon, so let's meet at 4 at Starbucks"

"I'm really busy Wednesday, but should we grab a quick lunch?"

"Can you help me with that subject I'm not good at but you are?"

i agree, people. LW is clearly young and inexperienced and worried for nothing. ok, maybe not nothing, but i'd be really happy to have her problem. and amy, i love the "only a big bed and mai tais on the agenda" line - so true!

I think the letter writer is borrowing trouble a little far from home.

You have to be really really stupid or lazy to flunk out of college these days.

I commuted an hour each way to law school, while being a mother to a ten year old, and an 8 year old.

NicoleK is right. Get a little bit organized and learn how to do time management like an adult. If having a romance in college is difficult for this woman when she is in class maybe ten hours a week, it will be impossible when she gets out of college, and gets a real job.

That was an amazing letter.

" it says a lot when a guy's always got your back, and not just because he's looking to unhook your bra"

Ha ha - Amy understands men.

Maybe what LW needs is a 'one last fling' type scenario to get it out of her system (hate to advocate things like that :/). Just don't get caught.

@"Ha ha" - to be clear, that wasn't a sarcastic 'ha ha', I just think it's a great line.