I Second That Emoticon
I know some men refuse to use emojis because they think they're silly or cheesy. But I have to say, when men use emojis, they make me feel good. Is it crazy that a heart or a rose emoji makes me feel like a man's more interested?
--Wondering
It's easy to misinterpret tone in texts. However, emojis are basically the cartoon cousins of commas, which can make the difference between a quiet evening at home and an evening spent handcuffed facedown while the forensics team digs up your backyard for skeletal remains. (If only you'd tucked the commas into the appropriate places when you texted, "I love cooking my dogs and my grandma.")
Emojis in courtship were the subject of two studies from the Kinsey Institute. In the more recent one, social psychologist Amanda Gesselman and her colleagues found a link between emoji use and maintaining a connection beyond the first date, as well as more romantic interactions and more sex (over the year that participants were surveyed about).
I suspect emojis are an especially helpful tool for men to use in dating. Research by psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen suggests that men, in general, don't have women's emotional fluency -- that is, women's ease in identifying and expressing emotion. Emojis help men communicate warmth and interest in a woman easily and comfortably. This in turn keeps women from getting mad that men don't show their feelings -- or mistaking a lack of expressiveness for a lack of feeling.
So it's no surprise you appreciate the emojis. Still, there's much that remains unexplored in these studies. For example, do people who use more emojis get more dates and sex, or do people who get more dates and sex use more emojis? And do emojis play well with everybody, or do they sometimes kill a developing connection? "Wait...a 55-year-old man just sent me an entire screen of cartoon eggplants?"
Of course, emojis could more charitably be viewed as a classic form of communication. The medium was just different back around 2000 B.C., when the pharaoh would dispatch the eunuch with stone tablets covered in pictures of dogs, beetles, and mummies. Message: "Dinner is at 6, unless there's a plague of locusts."
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Defenders of the Oxford comma point to an almost certainly apocryphal story of the student who dedicated a piece of work to "my parents, God and Ayn Rand".
When it comes to emojis, I don't use them but don't mind when other folks do. I doubt anyone except my husband (who has never used an emoji; I just asked) would be interested in "romantic interactions and ...sex" with me these days.
Grandma Elizabeth at October 22, 2019 5:55 PM
The hubs tends to use gifs rather than emojis in his text messages. Expresses emotion, typically humorous. I enjoy them as he's quite creative with them.
Cp_deb at October 23, 2019 5:23 PM
Hi tranny.
john jacob at October 25, 2019 9:27 AM
"my parents, God and Ayn Rand".
Love that (and I've always been under the impression that many fervent fans feel Ayn Rand IS God.)
I've always had an inclination toward using the Oxford comma but the explanation I once read for not using it made perfect sense: the comma replaces "and." So the sentence "I'm going to the market to get beer and chips and salsa." becomes "I'm going to the market to get beer, [and] chips and salsa." Therefore, if one were to use the Oxford comma it would be: "I'm going to the market to get beer, [and] chips, [and] salsa." or "I'm going to the market to get beer, chips, salsa." which looks and sounds odd.
JD at October 26, 2019 3:17 PM
Shut up tranny.
john jacob at October 28, 2019 9:31 AM
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