Getting the larger breast reduced isn't an option?

Um, I have one foot 1/2 size bigger than the other, one shoulder slightly higher than the other, and I'm pretty sure one of the "girls" is bigger than the other. Oh, and when I cut my hair short I have to tell the girl not to go by my ears, because one is slightly lower than the other. You'd never notice unless my hair is cut to match my ears. That's how I figured it out.

I've never met a totally symmetrical person. If it's not significant, get over it. No one is perfect. Put a sock in your bra already. Sheesh.

Those adjustable water bras would be perfect for her.

If her boyfriend doesn't mind, perhaps she should wait til she has a boyfriend that does. And if that doesn't happen, she's home free minus the trauma of surgery.

Really, everyone is asymmetrical, some more than others. Have a look at this article for some good examples.

The boyfriend is - probably like most men - completely unconcerned. Appearance can be fixed with a pad on one side of the bra.

It's also important to note that having one altered breast and one natural one will almost certainly lead to other kinds of asymmetry as she ages.

Only if it really bothers her, and she just can't get over it, should she consider the surgery.

I doubt most guys are going to care about a difference that small -- especially when you are naked -- When wearing clothing get one a pad for the one side.

She should not discount the maintenance issue. I had a friend who had small implants (looking at her I would guessed 50/50 on whether really blessed or fake) one started leaking so it had to be taken out. She opted to replace it because she was stretched out. Thus, she both had to be redone and for reasons I don't understand (body damage?), they had to go bigger. So she ended up looking quite stripperish.

If only one is done, they will age differently. I dated a girl who many years previously had one replaced after breast cancer surgery. One was still quite perky (and had some noticeable scars) while the other had quite a bit of sag in it. It was extremely noticeable and odd looking... luckily she warned me before she took her bra off.

And whatever she does...don't get the perfectly hemispherical implants and make sure the nipple is in the correct place. Those two things really scream cheap stripper!

I have approximately the same breast size discrepancy and it's barely noticeable, certainly not to the extent surgery would be needed. If she just wants bigger breasts, go for it, but not just because.

Most women have one bigger than the other. Mine's the left.

It's a situation which may leave a woman with a terrible self-image. It's really not funny. The fact the corrective surgery is so expensive--and insurance won't pay for it, no matter how depressed she may be about it--makes this a lifetime condition for some. I had a GF with an A cup on one side and a D cup on the other, and she couldn't stand to be topless in front of me; no matter how much I loved her, desired her, and showed her.

If you want to really know what deformed boobage is like look at ex breast cancer patients. And guys still won't turn them down.

To me it sounds like its her personal insecurity but as someone who is friends with a lot of girls with fake tits I can tell you they are not always happy with the results and it does not solve body insecurities.

Most women have one bigger than the other. Mine's the left.

Mine, too. And that's the one BF pays the most attention to, but I don't know if it's because he's right-handed or he just prefers that one. I've encouraged him to give the other one equal time in the fondling department, but sometimes he forgets.

Other than that, no problem!

Let's ask Dolly.

A guy's perspective: I prefer a natural look and feel over a surgical look and feel. I vote padded bra for the smaller boob. And when nude, I would not care about the difference in size.

This is such a common "issue," with women who have natural boobs (or bad plastic surgeons I guess). My left boob is certainly bigger than my right. It's not noticeable at all once my bra is off, but I do spend a few minutes ever morning arranging things sure Lefty's cup doesn't overfloweth noticeably.

"Mine, too. And that's the one BF pays the most attention to, but I don't know if it's because he's right-handed or he just prefers that one."

Because we read from left to right. Even when it's Braille.

I prefer natural to fake anytime. Fake food or fake boobs, no thanks. If she has surgery, chances are she will regret it.

Getting the larger breast reduced isn't an option?

"If she has to choose (for implants), she prefers the slightly bigger size."

To say nothing of the fact that breast reduction is a more invasive surgery than enhancement, with more pain and increased recovery time.

I guess I have to be the first to say it.

BOOOOBIEEEES!!!!!

(All the guys were thinking it. Trust me.)

She wrote to me and I'm looking for some opinions, especially from guys.

Pics or GTFO!

She's considering getting implants to even out her breasts. One is a fuller C while the other is a small C/fuller B depending upon the bra brand and/or style. She doesn't want to look stripper-y, but doesn't like the lopsided look either.

That's hardly lopsided. The issue isn't her "lopsidedness", but her insecurity with her body.

(Which is sadly pervasive.)

There is about (a little less than) a half cup size difference.

Which is normal. She's perfectly normal, so she *does* want to be "strippery" - or "perfect".

But will invasive surgery that will be almost unnoticeable if it works right actually get her to that?

Her boyfriend says he sees a difference in size but claims he doesn't mind this.

Most important fact in the entire post.

And why doubt him? Why say "claims" - is there evidence that he, in fact, minds?

The guy she's (presumably) sleeping with likes 'em as is, and she's ignoring his opinion.

Right. There. That's what you should be working on. That's the issue. She's insecure, and she's not listening to the other person who's opinion matters.

Years ago, I dated a 6'1 Japanese woman. She was a college volleyball player, and while she wasn't fat, she was a big girl, needless to say. One day, someone walked out of a building she was passing in the city and said "Dyke."

Maybe. Maybe he said "Hike." Maybe he thought she was Jeanne Dike. Maybe he said "(crap I forgot my) BIKE!"

That's it. One apparent word from someone who didn't know her, she didn't know, and had never seen before or since and she was devastated. Cried over it for THREE DAYS.

Finally, I got pissed. "I'm the one F**KING YOU, MY OPINION SHOULD BE THE IMPORTANT ONE", and she actually stopped crying long enough to think for a second, and say "I don't know, I guess you have to think I'm good looking, and so it doesn't count" and went back to crying.

This sounds like an analogous situation. The guy who says "C'mere, sexy" has no problem with her but all she can say is "Oh, I'm so ugly, you don't want me."

That's what she needs to fix. First. THEN once she's able to look at herself without the dysmorphic lens, she should see that there's lots of other things she should/could do with the money that would be far more enjoyable for both of them.

Or at least understand that she is looking to be a "stripper" - with a barbie-perfect body. Honesty is always the best policy.

Is she under 25? I have a rule of thumb that might be applicable. :)

Yes, it's entirely possible that the LW is over-complicating the situation. Ladies, remember the procedure for seducing a man:

Step 1: Take off clothes.

Mine are lopsided. One's a fuller D and the other is a smaller D. It seems most apparent in the way each boob fills the bra, and of course the way certain dresses and shirts hang, but a padded bra and choosing the right style clothing really minimizes it. I've never heard complaints from guys, but who knows, maybe they were just being kind.

I looked briefly into surgery, but when I looked at galleries of before/after shots, I was horrified and stopped looking. For me, the minimal inconvenience of being lopsided was far preferable to the scars and unnatural breast look. But I also scar pretty badly and hate having surgery. The LW might have a different set of priorities and reasons to undergo surgery.

@UNIX: sounds like whoever called your woman that name really hit her Achilles heel (we all have them).

A half-size difference is pretty normal, isn't it?
If LW is planning on having a baby eventually, I'd STRONGLY encourage her to wait until she's done havin' babies and breastfeeding.

This is the joker post, right? Because, tits!

Apparently this really happened.

> One's a fuller D and the other is a smaller D.

Still married?

Asking for a friend.



There's no limit to the stupidities that can accompany a tits post, and I'm going to do my part.

> Getting the larger breast reduced isn't
> an option?

No. It never is. Ever.

Weird, but true.

Half a cup size is pretty typical and doesn't look offputtingly asymmetrical. If she goes for implants, she should probably get both breasts done in order to maintain the same shape, and that would probably entail going bigger than a C cup.

I have a friend with the same issue (full A/small B), and the same insecurity. She picks up brochures for cosmetic surgeons every now and then, but so far has left well enough alone. Her husband is also extremely supportive of her current look, and extremely dismissive of the plastic surgery idea, which has made me wonder if she's looking to attract someone else...

- There's a shortage of perfect breasts in this world. It would be a pity to damage yours. -

Westley from The Princess Bride

As a man I would not care if the breasts were not perfect as long as they were attached to a happy and healthy woman.

I have the same issue. I've asked a couple of very close friends and sister if this is normal. ALL of them said "YES" and ALL of them said the left was bigger than the right!

""I don't know, I guess you have to think I'm good looking, and so it doesn't count" and went back to crying." Unix-Jedi

OI!, this, run into this before... this is something where the guy's opinion may or may not count for anything, the problem is between her ears.

And how does a guy help with that? Just keep letting her know how you feel about her, and hope for the best.

And thank whatever deity you have that she can't accurately see her bottom, 'cuz they come in all shapes and sizes...

Natural, with sartorial augmentation for dress events.

I will second the comment about children. If she plans on having children, breastfeeding should be a concern.

Also breasts change considerably during, and after pregnancy.

No wonder he wants her to leave that rack alone. It is custom built.

If anything happens to her, I predict he will never want an equally-distributed woman again.

Her boyfriend says he sees a difference in size but claims he doesn't mind this.

I wouldn't mind either.

This is NSFW-ville, right?

First of all, there's no reason to think they're really married. Second, it might just be sportswear.

Nonetheless— Kids, please, I beg you. Pull over. There's gotta be a quiet parking lot out there for you somewhere.

I've been with ladies from A to E. Some of those have been one night stands and hookers. Others have been long term relationships.

Unless she looks like the mayor's daughter from Animal House NSFW she needs to learn to trust her partner.

The largest sex organ generally overrides all the rest. I generally am most interested in the other person's largest sex organ. That sex organ is about three pounds and is located between the ears.

Most times I will be attracted by the body. Over the years, I have found beauty is only skin deep, ugly goes to the bone. A half cup difference would go down on the "I seriously don't give a fuck" list.

I just want a warm, sweet, intelligent, lady that I can trust.

I just want commanding personal wealth and an encyclopedic recall of progressive- & jazz-rock 1968-1985.

My ex- had that happen after the first child. It seems the mother has to take care to equalize!
It was never a problem for me, aesthetically.

For such a small problem, I would not consider taking on the risk of surgery, with its various possible complications.

"I just want commanding personal wealth and an encyclopedic recall of progressive- & jazz-rock 1968-1985."

I know a gal who can name all of the members of every lineup of King Crimson. She's taken, though.

>Still married?

Asking for a friend.

Been there, done that, got the divorce papers. Marriage and I had a long chat, and decided we'd be better off as long-distance friends.

P.S. D-cups aren't all that impressive on a girl of my stature.