License Plates Aren't All They're Making In Prison
This is sick -- babies are being conceived in prison on conjugal visits and, in many cases, then tossed out to foster care.
Mississippi has put an end to babies conceived in prison by putting an end to conjugal visits. Rebecca "From Fosterhood" writes at Babble:
Christopher B. Epps, the prison commissioner, cited budgetary reasons and "the number of babies being born possibly as a result" as his reasoning to end the program.I consider myself a crunchy liberal and I go out of my way to support my foster children's parents. But when I learned that my foster child was conceived during a conjugal prison visit, my mind was blown. What? Where? How is that allowed? Perhaps my judgment is clouded by my emotional connection to my foster kids, but the experience made me question the rehabilitation policies of prisoners. It's one thing to encourage prisoner connections with family members to reduce recidivism, it's a whole other ball game to create a family for the same reason.
When I had to allow my foster baby to be put into a car with strangers, for a 10-hour day (with six hours of driving) so that she can be taken to visit her mother and father in prison, I was angry, heart-broken and seriously weirded-out. Do they know how to mix her formula? Her nap schedule? I was told she screamed the entire 10 hours, each time. My only choice was to block it out of my mind, I had no control over the situation (I was allowed to accompany her only once).
An NYT piece on the end of conjugal visits is here, written by Kim Sorenson:
Mississippi ended its more extensive family visitations last year but left in place the hourlong visits, which since their inception a century ago have been designed more as a way to control inmates than nurture relationships."Conjugal visits have been a privilege," said Tara Booth, a spokeswoman for the Mississippi Corrections Department. "So in that sense, it has, as other internal opportunities, helped to maintain order."
...Announced in December, the decision to stop the hourlong conjugal visits came as a surprise to the handful of prison spouses who rely on them. Several have taken to Facebook and other online forums and written to lawmakers to try to save what they say is an essential part of their relationships. A Mississippi prisoners' advocacy group and a Memphis-based civil rights organization have planned a rally for Friday in Jackson, the state capital, to protest the policy change.
State Representative Richard Bennett has introduced a bill to end the visits:
"I don't think it's fair to the children conceived and to the taxpayers," he said. "You are in prison for a reason. You are in there to pay your debt, and conjugal visits should not be part of the deal."...Ms. Fisher, whose husband is facing 60 years, said she was heartbroken because no more conjugal visits meant no children.
"Let me have that option," she said. "I feel like they are taking away my choice."
Unfortunately, unborn children can't choose to have a dad who isn't incarcerated.
Should they instead have a birth control requirement? Should a conjugal visit be something prisoners are entitled to? Where should the lines be drawn?








My ex was a correctional officer and the problem was how many female guards fucked/had babies with the male inmates. It was a huge problem.
Now that was a min fuck.
Ppen at January 28, 2014 11:33 PM
Who was it that suggested a simple buried wire perimeter fence and a bomb collar around each inmates neck?
First off we need to stop jailing people for stupid shit. If your crime doesnt involve violence or possible violence like DUI/firing a gun in the air you dont need to be thrown into prison.
I can see a combo debtors prison/halfway house for financial crimes and theft.
As for prison, some people need killing, some people need to be locked away forever, but most need to be punished and rehabilitated if possible.
And being punished shouldnt include having taxpayers pay two deputies to transport your incarnated ass halfway across the state to fuck your wife's incarcerated ass.
Aside from supermax and high security prisons I think prisons should be work farms, you raise food, you break rocks, you learn a fucking marketable skill and dont sit on your ass watching tv
lujlp at January 29, 2014 12:29 AM
I agree with lujlp. I disagree that drugs should earn you a prison term. I also believe if you are there for a violent or theft related crime you deserve to be there and should be little to no freedom. You should be working to self sustain not add more to tax payers bills.
Lrj at January 29, 2014 2:33 AM
Aside from supermax and high security prisons I think prisons should be work farms, you raise food, you break rocks, you learn a fucking marketable skill and dont sit on your ass watching tv.
Took the words right out of my mouth. And again, people should not be in prison for things that are not crimes to begin with...too many ppl in prison in america who have not committed any crime and are there because of the crappy system especially because of unproven allegations and a crappy "guilty until proven innocent doctrine"(like soviet russia) for certain categories of offences.
Redrajesh at January 29, 2014 3:33 AM
The line should be drawn at the entrance to the prison. Prisoners on the inside, civilians on the outside. And yes to the previous comments about nonviolent offences and drug possession.
MarkD at January 29, 2014 4:19 AM
The NYT's poster girl has been married for 4 months to a guy with a 60 year stretch--he's been in prison since 2008. If she's that dumb/addled/bereft of common sense, she should think twice about dragging a kid into the mess. The NYT doesn't bother with pesky details about how she met him, why she married him, what his crime was, etc..
KateC at January 29, 2014 4:27 AM
Oops--sorry--he's in for rape, arson and aggregated assault. Yes, let's spread his DNA around.
KateC at January 29, 2014 4:29 AM
Agree totally with loojy's comments. You're being PUNISHED.
Flynne at January 29, 2014 5:09 AM
Exactly, KateC. I'm sympathetic to somebody who's been married a long time whose husband or wife goes to prison. Marrying a con who's got 60 years of time ahead of him? This man is not one you use as a sperm bank.
Amy Alkon at January 29, 2014 6:20 AM
Although, I should say, while I'm sympathetic, I, too, tend to agree with luj.
Amy Alkon at January 29, 2014 6:21 AM
Ppen touched on something a few threads back that I meant to comment on but didn't get to in time. Civilization has found, through long painful experience, that it is necessary to suppress the primitive modes of sexual expression in order for a society to function. And with male sexuality, we have largely done that: the male primitive mode of promiscuity and pump-and-dump is sharply constrained by mores and in some cases by law. Although, there is a small group of men who are largely excepted. by virtue of their social status. This has always been a sub rosa truth, but it has never been as out in the open as it is now.
With female sexuality, we have quit doing that. Society no longer condemms women who engage in hypergamy or nomadic motherhood. In fact, postmodern feminism outright encourages and rewards it. The problem with that is that there is no longer any reward to men for gentlemanly behavior. When women don't choose civilized men, we can expect the proportion of such men in society to drop.
A basic rule of dealing with hard-core Cluster B's is that any privilge they are granted, they will abuse. Because that's just how they roll. For the hard-core incarcerated, there is no benefit, either to the prisoner or to society, in granting them privileges of any kind. It isn't going to change their behavior. Once the criminal justice process has been properly executed and the conclusion is pretty certain, society has no obligation to them beyind basic standards of humane treatment. They aren't rehabilitatble and wishful thinking isn't going to make it otherwise.
That said, as others up-thread have pointed out, there are lots of people imprisoned in the U.S. who are not hard-core sociopaths. Many of them present no threat to society and don't need to be in prison. This is, in part, another aspect of something I've harped on before -- law is not a moral code, and it can't be. I can morally condemn the actions of the street hooker or the small-time drug dealer without demanding that the law get involved. They certainly don't regard the law as morality -- they regard it as just an inconvenience.
Cousin Dave at January 29, 2014 6:55 AM
The pseudonymous Bert Burykill was in and out of prisons for years, and has some interesting observations about conjugal visits:
tl;dr The conjugal visits are given to the wrong prisoners, the long-term guys, rather than the shorter term ones who are more likely to need integration into the community. It's perverse public policy.
Hubbard at January 29, 2014 7:08 AM
"The conjugal visits are given to the wrong prisoners, the long-term guys, rather than the shorter term ones who are more likely to need integration into the community. It's perverse public policy."
I wasn't aware that this was the way it worked. And I can sort of believe the phenomonea discussed. A lady I respect, who has a Ph.D. in criminal justice, once told me: "The problem with trying to rehabilitate criminals is that most of them were never habilitated in the first place." As much of a hard-ass as I am towards the career criminal, I acknowledge that there are a lot of people in prison who are not career criminals, but they keep winding up in prison because they never see any other possible path.
Cousin Dave at January 29, 2014 8:30 AM
I'd save a few rooms in those prisons for the worst white collar criminals. They are just as sociopathic as the those who rob us with their guns.
jerry at January 29, 2014 9:43 AM
I don't think any of us are arguing against putting white collar criminals away for a a long time. Bernie Madoff deserves to be buried under the jail. But Martha Stewart went up for six months for perjury and not the financial wheeling dealing.
As far as the conjugal visits -- why? What do they really improve.
If they are gone the really old residents will talk about "back when". The new ones will just have to fucking deal with it.
Jim P. at January 29, 2014 6:07 PM
"But Martha Stewart went up for six months for perjury and not the financial wheeling dealing."
Actually, as I understand the case, it wasn't even perjury. She was convicted of "making a false statement", which basically means telling a government person anything they don't want to hear. She was not under oath at the time. This is one reason you never talk to cops. (And in this sense, the word "cop" includes investigators, district attorneys, and pretty much anyone who works for a law enforcement agency.)
"If they are gone the really old residents will talk about "back when". The new ones will just have to fucking deal with it".
Or, in this case, not-fucking deal with it.
Cousin Dave at January 30, 2014 11:33 AM
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