That's one of the reasons I didn't want a wedding. My in-laws are horrible and try to control everything. They would have taken over the decor and every other detail regardless of my likes, wants, and plans, and if anything is said you are a spoiled brat or a million and one other names for not elevating them to god status for their thoughtfulness. We got married under a tree in the parking lot of the county clerk's office and didn't tell anyone beforehand except for the two winesses we needed to have. At least that way we had control over the situation and no butting in.

Family inheritances are another prime time for bitter warfare even when the spoils are small. How is this different from my dog who peed over the neighbor's dog pee who peed over the other neighbor's dog pee and so on.

Neither eggshell.

It took 3 cop cars to break up the fights at my BFF's wedding. Rednecks(wife's side), Volunteer Fire Fighters(groom's side), booze, and an ugly woman created a volatile situation that was easily ignited by a drunken "open mouth, insert foot".

Weddings are a lightning rod for bad behavior, before, during and after.

On the Weddings related subject, please let me offer this site which has a number of stories of disbelief.

-- Steve