According to Wikipedia-

Time is the indefinite continued progress of existence and events that occur in apparently irreversible succession from the past through the present to the future.

And yet my heart is not alight with comfort.

Anybody have a good sex desk?

I mean, any one know of a good editorial source or social media/legal voice which is tracking all the accusations and presenting them in indexed, digestible, nugget-like form?

After three weeks of this, with one day off, I'm Jonseing. Need that jolt of gossipy righteousness....

Well, then, here ya go, Crid:

David Corn investigated for inappropriate workplace behavior

After three weeks of this, with one day off, I'm Jonseing. Need that jolt of gossipy righteousness....

I think you need a wholesome hobby. Perhaps you could take of watercolors, and listen to your old Janis Ian records.

The hierarchy of divisions. (Women's Issues, Chapter 666)

Transgender Women Tell Women’s March They’re Not Inclusive Enough

The gentrification of social media in one tweet or one Twit for that matter:

https://twitter.com/BravoCoolee/status/925617202585309184

> I think you need a wholesome
> hobby.

Dude, how dare you! I learned the truth at 17....

> Well, then, here ya go

Well, sure, but it's David Corn.

Someone yesterday was joking that the most disappointing imaginary revelations would be Hanks & Denzel.

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Teens denied bond in rock toss that killed man on I-75

Sounds like father of the year material.

“I’m going to rape you like I rape my daughter,” Rubin barked during one of the alleged assaults.

In one session, he beat one of the women’s “breasts so badly that her right implant flipped,” the papers state.

The former Bear Stearns trader paid her $20,000 to repair the damage.

http://nypost.com/2017/11/03/portfolio-manager-accused-of-raping-beating-women-in-penthouse-dungeon/

Can you really have a "penthouse dungeon?"

Penthouse: an apartment on the top floor of a tall building, typically luxuriously fitted and offering fine views

Dungeon: a dark usually underground prison or vault

What is worse? a dungeon were you can not see anything, or a prison with a view were one can see freedom so close, but so very far away?

Also, in the field of unintended consequences, emphasis mine.

Both sites had been racked by layoffs over the past year, but it was not enough to put them on a successful footing. Last week, employees voted to unionize.

http://nypost.com/2017/11/02/in-a-new-york-minute-ricketts-shuts-dnainfo-and-gothamist/

Mpetrie, I heard about that case. Btw, days ago, several commentators at the WaPo pointed out that the teens were clearly white, since their color was not mentioned - a cover-up? - AND there were no photos, and even with minors, that probably wouldn't have happened if they were black. However, the Detroit News does have photos, thankfully. Yes, they're white.

More importantly, however, every parent needs to remember a few things:

1. Just because kids nod unquestioningly when you teach them at age five that stealing, killing, or putting other people's lives at risk is horribly wrong and punishable by jail, does NOT mean your kids won't be deeply vulnerable to peer pressure ten years later or even a week later - especially if they're unpopular. This has to be discussed too.

2. As educator Rosalind Wiseman pointed out in one of her books, you can't just teach your kids what the rules and laws are - sadly, they have to be truly AFRAID, from day one, of what their parents will DO to them when they break the rules. After all, toddlers only worry about getting caught, and older kids whose parents give wimpy punishments (if any) feel the same way and act accordingly. This gets worse with parents who act more like their kids' lawyers than anything else, since parents often mistakenly believe that Good Parents never have kids who do anything wrong, so THEIR kids can't possibly be guilty when accused of something.

3. As any psychologist knows, it's our actions that mold our attitudes more often than the other way around, so kids desperately need to get set in the right habits early. I.e., empathy, compassion and humility aren't qualities that any particular kid is born with; kids have to be put through the motions over and over before those qualities develop - after maybe 20 years. Starting with FORCING kids to say things like "please," "thank you" and "I'm sorry and I will prove it."

4. It's EVERYONE's job to keep an eye out for early signs that a kid needs to get into psychiatric care ASAP, before any felonies are committed. Example: Jeffrey Dahmer was killing animals at age seven. Not all violent behavior springs out of "nowhere." There's no excuse for not preventing criminals from existing whenever possible.

5. Obviously, the above rules apply to all types of felonies, not just those listed above.

> kids nod unquestioningly when you teach them at
> age five that stealing, killing, or putting other
> people's lives at risk is horribly wrong and
> punishable by jail

I don't think most parents explicitly tell their kids these things, yet somehow their kids don't go around killing others.

> they have to be truly AFRAID

Maybe a little afraid of a punishment, but what kid is "truly AFRAID" of losing their iPad for the weekend?

> humility

Why would you teach a kid that? Self-confidence would seem a lot more important in this world.

Japan is one of the last sane nations in the world. No immigration and then this:

http://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/2017/11/03/why-ivanka-trump-is-role-model-and-fashion-icon-in-japan.html

Something something intrasexual competition something something

The pop star claims a female journalist watching her performance was so upset she complained to the country's tourism police.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5046563/Lebanese-pop-star-threatened-Egypt-shorts.html

Why would you teach a kid that? Self-confidence would seem a lot more important in this world. ~ Snoopy at November 3, 2017 10:28 AM

Self-confidence they've got. In spades. The whole damned education-industrial complex is working 'round the clock on boosting their self-esteem.

Every athlete and role model they see on TV is always screaming "I" in speeches and soundbites. They know about self-promotion and self-confidence. What they need is some self-awareness.

The thing they don't know these days is how much they don't actually know. Ask the average Millennial job interviewee what he/she knows about a common software with which the ideal candidate will need to be familiar and they'll rate themselves experts. Ask them details about complex operations and you'll get a blank stare. They measure themselves against the person next to them and feel their superiority to that person is universally applicable. They simply don't understand how much they don't know.

I had a nephew who was confident he was an expert mechanic. He read car magazines, talked about modifying his car, watched The Fast and the Furious until he'd memorized the lines, and knew more about cars then all his friends. So, his grandmother let him work on her car to save some money. He tried to use a wood screw to attach a part to her car. And when it resisted, he forced it into the hole. It cost her almost $2,000 to get the car fixed. Based on several interactions with different kids of that generation, he's not alone in having an inflated sense of his own abilities and a lack of awareness of the limits of his own knowledge.

We taught them when they were young that they were just smaller adults, and now they think they've always been adults.

I don't think most parents explicitly tell their kids these things, yet somehow their kids don't go around killing others.
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"Others" would include small animals. Or even just torturing animals or insects. Plenty of kids do that spontaneously, out of boredom - or just because, as Dr. Spock once said, kids behave badly as a way of saying "how bad do I have to be before someone stops me?"

So clearly, they have to be ordered not to do it (AND made to feel ashamed) no matter how young, non-empathetic, and bored they might be. Also, re other misdeeds, every parent has said at some point "stop that - that's DANGEROUS!" It's just that kids don't necessarily care when someone else's safety might be at risk.
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Maybe a little afraid of a punishment, but what kid is "truly AFRAID" of losing their iPad for the weekend?
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I don't know what you mean. Clearly, that would be an example of a wimpy punishment. My point was that parents have to stop being afraid of being a little too strict rather than a little too lenient, because the only sensible punishment is the one that stops the crime from recurring - preferably a punishment that doesn't have to be used more than twice, if that. (Here's an example: ground the kid and give no access to ANY toys - maybe for a week. Also, give a ton of chores to prevent any sneaking off.)
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>humility

Why would you teach a kid that? Self-confidence would seem a lot more important in this world.

Snoopy at November 3, 2017 10:28 AM
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Maybe you need to look up the word. From Merriam-Webster:

:freedom from pride or arrogance :the quality or state of being humble

accepted the honor with humility

The ordeal taught her humility.

(end)

In other words, we teach humility so kids don't grow up like the wealthy teenagers Leopold and Loeb, who thought their superior intellect made them above the law when they kidnapped a teen boy and committed "the perfect murder" in 1924? Again, most kids may be taught to say "I'm sorry" when they do bad things, but very often, they're not asked to prove it - or if they are, it isn't necessarily enough to make the lesson stick.

I'll admit it's true that "humility," as a word, has synonyms in one thesaurus that are almost 50% pretty negative, but that's no reason to let it get co-opted. These days, on all sides, it's getting to be clear that we can't afford to let anyone think of anyone as inherently inferior to oneself - and that's often a harder lesson to teach than one might think. Teaching manners isn't the same as teaching morals, after all. (I suspect that was the mistake made by the parents of murderer Philip Markoff - that is, other adults didn't seem to notice that he seemed to think others were beneath him, so the parents didn't know he was seriously lacking in certain qualities, but at least some of his peers noticed things wrong with him - one in 9th grade, one in college, his poker friends, and several lab partners in med school, one of whom said she wasn't all surprised to hear he was in trouble with the law.)

Oh, and thanks, Conan. Didn't see your post until just now.

From 2012, from you-know-who:

"...Teachers were told that constant praise would elevate academic performance, but social scientists have found that people with high self-esteem consistently underperform. They believe anything they do is worthy of merit; therefore, they tend not to put forth their best efforts. It is worth mentioning that as praise in schools has gone up, test scores have gone down.

"And so, and once again, we discover that there is nothing new under the sun. The traditional ideal of humility and modesty appears to be the most functional state of self-regard. That should humble folks who believe that new ideas are better than old ones (but it won't).

"History is replete with humble and modest people who accomplished great things. George Washington and Abraham Lincoln are two outstanding examples. Their accomplishments were not the result of thinking highly of themselves, but of dedication to causes much larger than themselves.

"Besides, I will propose that courage, not self-confidence, is what parents should be attempting to help their children develop. The research strongly suggests that self-confident people either are (a) hesitant to take on challenges unless they believe they are going to succeed, (b) so sure of succeeding that they foolishly expose themselves and others to high-risk situations. By all accounts, George Armstrong Custer possessed very high self-esteem.

"Courage, on the other hand, is the willingness to take on a task even if one knows he or she may not succeed. It is the willingness to fight the good fight even when the odds are stacked against you. These are people who make great sacrifices for noble causes. Think Martin Luther King.

"America needs more Martins. Unfortunately, we appear to be raising lots of Custers."

And, from an earlier column (yes, he's religious - I'm not):

"...Some well-meaning folks suggest that there are two types of high self-esteem: a 'false' self-esteem that is a function of people patting you on the back and telling you how wonderful you are, and a 'genuine' self-esteem that is the result of significant accomplishment. In the words of a colleague and good friend, 'Genuine self-esteem comes from achievement, such as studying hard and making good grades, or practicing hard and excelling in a sport.'

"So where, I ask, does that leave the child who studies hard and still makes no better than C's? Or the child who is a klutz? Or the disabled child who has neither the mental nor physical ability to succeed at doing much more than everyday self-help tasks? No, accomplishment-based self-esteem is no better than affirmation-based self-esteem. The former is highly prejudicial, the latter is sinful-a form of self-idolatry. And make no mistake about, if you have high regard for yourself because of your accomplishments, then you are likely to have less than high regard for those who's accomplishments are not as 'worthy' as your own. In which case we are again talking about self-idolatry...

"...'So, John,' the impatient reader asks. 'Answer the question: (If 'self esteem' is bad) What's good?'

"What's good is self-respect. Because it is not a function of significant accomplishment, anyone can acquire self-respect, even the C-student, the klutz, and the disabled child. Self-respect, furthermore, is not idolatrous. It is acquired not because parents praise you (although they should-conservatively), but because they love you unconditionally...hold you completely responsible for your behavior (but forgive you your sinfulness), and insist that you obey (respect their authority) and mind your manners at all times (show respect for others). It is, in fact, axiomatic that self-respect cannot exist without respect for others...

"...Are self-confidence and self-respect interchangeable terms? Again, no. Self-confidence is specific to certain situations. For example, I feel very confident speaking to large groups of people, but I feel a distinct loss of confidence when I'm in deep water with sharks (I know, because I've been there, done that!). In fact, having confidence in a situation where you should not, where you should be on guard and charged with adrenaline, is foolhardy. But where self-confidence has, and should have, its ups and downs, self-respect is a constant.
The self-respecting person, rather than being 'high' on him/herself, is modest, humble, even self-effacing at times-to again cite the apostle, a person of 'sober judgment.'"

I'll take the category "Won't End Well" for $200, Alex.

The Saints, in a lengthy statement released late Thursday, said it was unfortunate that Wells chose to decline the award in such a public fashion.

“We respect his decision, he has that right, and we thank him for his service to our country and his past efforts on behalf of the military and veterans,” the statement read. “Throughout Mr. Wells’ media appearances today, he has stated he no longer supports NFL football.

“That is unfortunate and disappointing considering the New Orleans Saints’ unwavering 50-plus year commitment to honor, support and recognize our servicemen and women and veterans. We will not allow Mr. Wells’ decision and subsequent media appearances to distract our players and organization from continuing to honor and support our military and veterans.”

The team said it now plans to “move on from this sad and divisive discourse” and return its focus to supporting the nation’s service members and their families.

http://nypost.com/2017/11/03/saints-in-public-feud-with-veteran-over-anthem-protests/

Self-confidence they've got. In spades. The whole damned education-industrial complex is working 'round the clock on boosting their self-esteem.

Lowering that self-esteem is everyone's job.

It takes a village.

In regard to the teenagers who threw the hunk of concrete that killed a man, I note that one was named "Alexzander" (the extra 'z' is for uniqueness, no doubt) and another is named ... "Mikadyn."

Your guess is as good as mine.

Does it rhyme with "Vicodin"?

Does it rhyme with "anodyne"?

Is it pronounced "McCadden"?

What is this tendency to name children for nonexistent high-value Scrabble words?

Kevin,

Those are called Modern English names:

https://www.ebabynames.com/#!modern-english-names

Either that, or humanity has grown too dependent of the smartphone's spellchecker.

> Can you really have a
> "penthouse dungeon?"

Thanks, thought it was just me.