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"The Chinese soldiers then began shouting 'He/Him!' and 'She/her!' at American soldiers ... They immediately collapsed to the floor. 'No!!! I'm a xe/xer; it says so right on my dog tags!' cried one weeping American soldier huddled in the corner in the fetal position..." https://t.co/7dRLbEqsav
— Amy Alkon (@amyalkon) March 20, 2021
The Oceanian LBGTQ+ Transgender Troops will win the battle though, by firing their severed genitals using their Assault Wrist-Rocket slingshots at the unwoke Eastasian hordes.
Anonymous at March 20, 2021 12:56 AM
That was weird
Crid at March 20, 2021 7:25 AM
In this time of global transition and burgeoning awareness, can we finally all agree that the Olympics are a waste of time, money, and civic enthusiasm?
Crid at March 20, 2021 7:31 AM
The integrity of Canadian journalism:
So what? It couldn't have been a surprise.Crid at March 20, 2021 7:56 AM
Luggage innovations of my lifetime:
(That music could be annoying after a few flights.)Crid at March 20, 2021 8:27 AM
In this time of global transition and burgeoning awareness, can we finally all agree that the Olympics are a waste of time, money, and civic enthusiasm?
Crid at March 20, 2021 7:31 AM
They used to be special, a once in a lifetime thing for most athletes and spectators.
In this digital age, probably more political football and graft generator than anything else.
Of course Tokyo got the games through copious bribery payments to the voting members on the IOC. Seventy percent of the Japanese now want them cancelled. Poetic justice.
They may struggle on for another decade but ultimately done in the current form I think.
Say, does anyone know where the World’s Fair is now?
Isab at March 20, 2021 8:58 AM
I have grudge bearing hips.
This glue dries so fast it must be Seabiscuit!
"Animals strike curious poses" is the most disgustingly pornographic song lyric ever.
I'm impressed with my mom's commitment to saying the word 'the' before every noun. Example: the Walgreens, the AIDS, the Fox News, the Adele
Yo Yo-Yo Ma's mama's so fat, she play da JELLO
Just caught the bouquet at a funeral :/
My favorite thing is when a celebrity has a goddamn baby. I just want them to be happy.
I put grilled chicken AND hard-boiled egg in my salads just to let the chickens know I'm not fucking around.
One of the most comforting things you can ever hear is the guitar at :14 that says, "Don't worry, dude - this is 'Under Pressure.'"
It's not your doctor's job to tell you what "style" nipples you have.
The clitoris was the original Like button.
For those of you who don't follow the NFL, Tim Tebow is the controversial non-rapist.
Oh jeez. What's awkward about this is that I don't care at all how smart your kid is.
Massage chair owners are always one bad breakup away from a Realdoll catalog.
What's orange and looks good on a hippie? FIRE
No, nosy coworker, this lavender hand lotion on my desk is not for masturbating. It's for moisturizing my dry winter penis.
Half this airport bar is openly bawling because "Glory Days" is playing. OK, maybe just the "me" half. Shut up, YOU'RE drunk, Capt. Judgey.
If you're not dead to at least 1 person, you're not living right.
Anybody can compare two fucking apples.
Newton's First Law of Thermodynamics is you don't talk about thermo- you know, this seemed like a good joke a second ago.
I named my boobs "Rosh Hashanah" and "Yom Kippur" because one's a slightly bigger holiday.
I just read last year 4,153,237 ppl got married. I don't want to start any trouble, but shouldn't that be an even number?
'Amber Alert' would be a badass name for a stripper.
No, YOU'RE listening to Yngwie Malmsteen songs on Spotify right now. Shut up. You don't even like Yngwie that much, that's what's weird.
"Whenever someone writes about me, my age is right after my name," said Madonna, 53, in December's HARPER'S BAZAAR.
Crid at March 20, 2021 9:16 AM
> They used to be special, a
> once in a lifetime thing for
> most athletes and spectators.
For the athletes certainly, whose personal interests are of zero importance to me. Why should I care because some nimbus I've never met wants to run fast or jump high or whatever? The taxpayers of Tokyo are right to be resentful.
Back in the day — top of the twentieth, maybe— participation with such fierce competition and remarkable reward was probably more unusual for both the athletes and the fans.
But one thing that's happened with the unprecedented enrichment of human life over the last century is that aspiration and success have been enormously democratized. Like, enormously. For example, we, and almost every other culture on the planet, teach girls to read nowadays. As a matter of course. So they can get degrees and postgrad degrees and sell their skill and build businesses and portfolios of serious money with all the other rewards. Across my lifetime, most everyone in America has had an opportunity to strive & succeed, often with substantial civic and governmental support.
In comparison to the heroic learning, work and consequent fulfillment so broadly available, the narratives of Olympic success seem intolerably egotistical and trite.
And to make other people pay for the stadiums, pools, velodromes and other venues for this vapid pageantry?…
No. Hey, little kid out there— When you're eating your Wheaties and daydreaming of Olympic glory and becoming like Bruce Jenner, you should figure out how you're going to pay for your own stadium before the flakes get soggy.
Why not? You can become anything you want, right?
Crid at March 20, 2021 9:46 AM
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jin_Jong-oh
This guy is a deity in South Korea, my friends on the Olympic team tell me.
Yet, does anyone outside the sport know who Margaret Murdock is?
My point, Olympics have lost their meaning in America much faster than Asia, for example.
Isab at March 20, 2021 10:29 AM
Mykinda bumper sticker.
Crid at March 20, 2021 11:31 AM
Weirdly, when it switched to every two years, staggering the summer and winter olympics, I lost interest. Before that, every four years, it was exciting, but now every other year is an olympic year so who cares.
NicoleK at March 20, 2021 1:03 PM
Rupar is now a verb
https://twitter.com/urbandictionary/status/1373254012858998784
Sixclaws at March 20, 2021 1:11 PM
> it switched to every two years,
> staggering
'68 was The Podium, '72 was the Israelis. By '76. when Nadia surpassed Olga in a competition which looked like thinly disguised sexual exploitation of pubescent girls anyway, I checked out. Carter pulled the plug for Afghanistan, and it was like whatever.
The two-year stagger was presumably a shot of extra revenue for whichever series (winter of summer) got a the first position in the dance... But it also broke the shared quadrennial pattern of Leap Year + Olympics + Fed-level elections, which permitted anticipating all the newspaper stories which wouldn't be read anyway.
I like the Super Bowl, which it stupid. And Formula One, which is WATCHING TRAFFIC. But these are blood sports with life-changing money, and perhaps meaningful honor for champions. Lewis Hamilton is a genuine neurological marvel, and his ego is only part of it. A fascinating part, but still a fraction.
It's hard to get impressed by beach volleyball or badminton performed, we are told, but amateurs for national pride rather than big money.
Crid at March 20, 2021 2:45 PM
Imagine being intubated and also in a chemically induced coma because of the WuFlu, and then you wake up weeks later sporting huge pair of knockers.
https://twitter.com/Breaking911/status/1373040308221579271
Sixclaws at March 20, 2021 3:10 PM
By '76. when Nadia surpassed Olga in a competition which looked like thinly disguised sexual exploitation of pubescent girls anyway, I checked out.
I was eleven years old. I did not check out. I confess to being enchanted, and didn't realize the whole thing with her dollies was schtick. My entire family did get tired of hearing the "Young and the Restless" theme played endlessly, though.
Old RPM Daddy (OldRPMDaddy at GMail dot com) at March 20, 2021 3:24 PM
> the whole thing with her
> dollies was schtick.
Google isn't helping. Refresh my memory?
Crid at March 20, 2021 3:46 PM
Look at that house again— If you have that kind of jack, wouldn't you offer 9¼ and spend the rest to remove the weirdly-embedded wall rocks?
Props to the FLW estate for suing.
Crid at March 20, 2021 4:15 PM
I posted this a while back, except I couldn't get a direct link to the Lenore Skenazy "Let Grow" interview from Staten Island. I still can't - apparently - but this might give some wizard a clue as to how to find it. (Actually, I think you need to subscribe.)
I'm referring to the blue poster, way down. I clicked on the YouTube link above it and searched for the interview, but all I found was under 2 minutes of Skenazy talking, from the 15th - that can't be right, since the podcast/video was on March 3rd. Supposedly, it refers to 7th graders who have never done chores that YOUNGER kids used to do - such as walk a dog - and who live in a state of learned helplessness because of that.
https://www.siparent.com/let-grow-live-podcast/
At any rate, elsewhere, here's what odinette had to say about helicopter parents and her own, similar experience:
"My parents were also ahead of their time though not as bad as Cambion's. I remember being very surprised in my 40s when I read in the newspaper many generation Xers felt ignored by their parents. My experience was the opposite. My parents constantly hovered and wanted to know about every little damn thing I was doing, and I always had less freedom than other kids my age. I did very little housework, but that might have been because Mom wanted to be a martyr. Both my dad and I would have done more around the house if Mom had let us, but she preferred to do it all herself so she could bitch about how hard she worked and nobody appreciated her.
"They also had the attitude education is all that mattered. I wonder how common that is? I was strongly discouraged from having any interest or doing any activity that was not somehow related to my education or future career. The kind of career they wanted me to have of course. They wanted me to have just enough of a social life to avoid appearing 'strange' and do a few extracurricular activities because those helped with getting into college. But they sure as ---- didn't want me to actually care about my friends.
"Now I know I would be much better off and probably would have had a better childhood if they had encouraged me to be a balanced person with a variety of interests. This 'education is everything' ---- needs to die. I learned the hard way what makes or breaks you in life is how well you relate to people, not how educated or smart you are."
Lenona at March 20, 2021 5:27 PM
Somewhere this week, maybe from here, someone linked to data on parenting across cultures. In China, parents would be ashamed for trying to make their kids happy.
Big ol' world.
Crid at March 20, 2021 7:27 PM
Imagine walking barefoot on this carpet:
https://twitter.com/Win98Tech/status/1373303912468520965
Sixclaws at March 20, 2021 8:15 PM
Well, apparently, Americans USED to be more like the Chinese, less than a century ago. According to Rosemond, before the 1960s, very few parents would have said to their kids "I just want you to be happy (in your adult life)."
This was not because old-time American parents necessarily thought they had the right to choose their kids' careers for them, mind you.
Rosemond wrote, in 2017:
https://www.shelbystar.com/entertainment/20170323/john-rosemond-fundamental-rules-of-parenting
"The ultimate purpose of raising a child is not to produce a high achiever; rather, it is to produce a person of character, a good citizen. Grades are less important than manners. Making America a better place is more important than turning out a brain surgeon."
(That's the fifth - and last - principle in Rosemond's list of "fundamental principles of fact" when it comes to child rearing. Click to see the rest. Mind you, while he does not mention her in that column, he is NOT a fan of the "Tiger Mom," as you can probably tell from the above quotation.)
Lenona at March 21, 2021 7:54 AM
And I can't seem to copy and paste any of this, but it's from 2016. Rosemond talks about radio host Dennis Prager and Prager's message that we all need to be responsible for our own happiness.
https://www.gastongazette.com/entertainment/20160613/john-rosemond-let-kids-make-decision-to-be-happy
Of course, Rosemond points out how parents who take on that responsibility for their children are only setting them up to be UNHAPPY - and selfish. I.e., not good citizens.
Lenona at March 21, 2021 8:17 AM
Crid, if you find that link you mentioned, please let me know. Thanks.
Lenona at March 21, 2021 8:23 AM
Never heard of little emperor syndrome?
Ben at March 21, 2021 8:33 AM
*I* have yes. I believe it's also called the 4-2-1 syndrome (four grandparents and two parents doting on/spoiling one child).
I don't know just how common that type of spoiling is in China, per se. After all, how likely are they to respect individuality?
But if you were addressing Crid, maybe you could help him dig up that link and find out if it's about China's distant past or not.
Thank you in advance.
Lenona at March 21, 2021 9:28 AM
I was just pointing out that China is a big country and hardly as uniform as people are making it out to be. Little emperor syndrome is very prevalent among the middle and upper classes in coastal cities. The more inland you get the poorer you get and the less you see of that. Oddly enough that is also where you see tiger moms. As you get more inland you get much poorer and more rural. Though expanded train access is starting to change that. Anyway you are still more likely there to see traditional rural Chinese childrearing which is probably best described as benign neglect with a strong appreciation for education. Not that a modern formal education is instilled but a semi-religious respect for the educated which appropriately enough comes mainly from the religion Confucianism.
You do also the the cousin of little emperor syndrome in the country often called little master or young master syndrome. This is less of an example of the parent spoiling the child and more an example of the entire community spoiling the child. Nepotism is alive and well in China. The kid of the local party boss has a very high chance of becoming the next party boss. And then he will start setting scores . . . So people butter him up and spoil him well before that happens out of rational self preservation.
Ben at March 21, 2021 11:12 AM
Naw it was just a couple days ago. This isn't it, but maybe it was a tweet that referenced it, or something. It specifically mentioned that Chinese parents would feel shame for trying to make their kids happy. Any Chua and all that.
Crid at March 21, 2021 11:16 AM
Now it's making me crazy. I follow a lot of women on Twitter, but no Mommytalkers. The search continues
Crid at March 21, 2021 11:17 AM
"Never heard of little emperor syndrome?"
Sadly, I hired one of these little nightmares. Interviewed perfectly, though. Never again. Absolute sociopath.
Gog_Magog_Carpet_Reclaimers at March 21, 2021 11:25 AM
This kid might not make a bad emperor:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qvkM3VNANWE
Spiderfall at March 21, 2021 12:04 PM
Ha ha. A company I was at hired one of those guys from Columbia I think (nation not school). I'm told the guy interviewed beautifully. He had all the right answers, made all the right moves. Too bad he was completely incompetent when you gave him actual work to do. Couldn't take a single project to completion. Kept looking for someone to do the boring part of his work.
On the plus side he did know everything. And would tell you so given even the slightest of opportunities.
Ben at March 21, 2021 12:21 PM
Hate to say it, but the nation is "Colombia."
No, I didn't know that until it was pointed out to me, 20 years ago or more, in an editorial cartoon. (The spelling was part of the joke - it was a pun. So that's how I learned.)
My memory has faded on that one, but my guess is it was about cocaine in DC. Maybe. (I'm pretty sure it wasn't about Columbia University, which, for those who don't know, is in NYC.)
Lenona at March 21, 2021 1:21 PM
And, another comment that followed odinette's:
"I remember my 8 yr old nephew couldnt make toaster in a toaster.
"My H.S. aged neice didnt know that pasta came hard in a box. So all those years, Im guessing she was never taken to a grocery store, or (never) sat in the kitchen when adults cooked. It's an Italian family BTW, and I doubt all their pasta was made fresh for regular dinners.
"No one does chores. My nephew didnt even have to take the trash to the curb becuz "he has the rest of his life for that" (crazy emoji)
"My neighbors had 4 kids and used to have these street and yard parties all the time, I never saw the kids as so much take a paper plate in the house or anything even super ez like that. They would actually lean against the fence and the adults would scurry around over every little thing. I couldnt believe they wouldnt at least make the kids be a Gofer to fetch things back and forth from the house. But they didnt.
"In the neighborhood, I have basically never seen a teen mow a lawn or shovel snow but once.
"It seems like the Dads of the families more likely want the kids to do some chores, but the women talk them out of it 'we didnt have kids to be slaves' 'we all do it as a family or they dont do it.' I mean, I dont know where modern parenting got this mindset. What is wrong if your teen son mows the lawn one afternoon while dad naps on the couch? Most lawns around here would only take 30-60mins tops.
"My online friends make sure I know their kids ONLY job is going to school. IDK....we all had PT jobs, and chores.....and went to school, got good grades even.....HOW DID WE DO IT?
"Sure their were kids like this back in the day, they were called spoiled, and heliocopter parents were called overbearing and overly cautious. But now this is the NORM and the majority. I just dont know how we got here collectively across the nation and maybe the western world.
"And Hot house flowers is a perfect term for them."
(end)
Lenona at March 21, 2021 1:37 PM
"Hate to say it, but the nation is "Colombia."" ~Lenona
A fair correction. Thanks.
To continue your list, there was a girl at university that thought all American toothbrushes were broken. She didn't know it was one of her servants putting the toothpaste on the brush. Such is life for many upper class Indians.
I also had a boss who was Indian who had trouble with home repair when he moved to the US. He actually didn't know how to replace a light bulb. His family had always hired someone to do that for them. He said figuring out the mechanics of the situation for the first time was quite the adventure. And by no means was he unintelligent. I may have my differences with the fellow but he is a very smart electrical engineer. But if you've never seen how a bulb is installed it isn't intuitively obvious how to get one in or out. Especially with how fragile they are.
Ben at March 21, 2021 1:56 PM
"I just dont know how we got here collectively across the nation and maybe the western world." ~Lenona's quote
It actually isn't just the western world. This is the western world trending towards the norm of the rest of the world.
Ben at March 21, 2021 1:58 PM
About that toothbrush story:
David Frost, in the 1960s, wrote that the Duke of Marlborough was invited to stay as a guest somewhere. He left his valet behind at Blenheim Palace.
"His hostess was surprised to hear him complain that his toothbrush 'did not foam properly,' so would she get him a new one. He had to be told, gently, that without the aid of tooth paste, or tooth powder...even a new toothbrush would not foam properly."
What I wonder is, how could it be proper to invite a Duke to your place, overnight, without also making accommodations for his valet? Even if it is, why would the Duke accept - and risk looking foolish?
Lenona at March 21, 2021 2:33 PM
> It actually isn't just the western
> world. This is the western world
> trending towards the norm of the
> rest of the world.
I hate it, fucking hate it, when Ben is right about stuff.
Crid at March 21, 2021 3:05 PM
Yes, I've noticed you are a constantly angry person, Crid. Have you talked to a doctor about this? Maybe blood pressure pills or something.
Lenona, I doubt the duke thought he would look foolish. Do you think it is more polite to refuse to invite someone over because you think their station in life is too high for you? I don't think that is how class levels work.
Ben at March 21, 2021 4:34 PM
It's really only when the small-minded misrepresent the positions of others, while declining to defend their own… But there are a lot of people like that nowadays. They earn the disdain.
Crid at March 21, 2021 5:24 PM
Yes Crid. You should work on that. Might help with the distain you collect. Or you could try Buddhism and meditation. Some people have found that helps too. I don't know. I can't really help you with these things. If I could I would.
Ben at March 21, 2021 6:00 PM
I don't understand your question. There is nothing rude about thinking twice before inviting someone over for the night - and then deciding against it. Especially when there was no hint of an invitation beforehand.
Example: If you don't have an extra bed, traditionally, you're supposed to give up your own bed to the guest while you sleep on the couch. But since many Americans have forgotten this rule - or think it's too obsequious - they're not likely to invite someone over if they think that person will be annoyed at having to sleep on a couch.
Of course, we don't have all the details on the Duke. Maybe he COULD, in fact, have brought his valet, but mistakenly thought he knew how to take care of himself and wanted to be adventurous.
Btw, I'm reminded of how, if you get an invitation to the White House, there are almost no polite excuses to refuse that invitation. So, in 1947, when composer Oscar Levant gave a recital there, afterward, he turned to his wife and said:
"Now I suppose we'll have to have the Trumans over to OUR house!"
Lenona at March 22, 2021 6:43 AM
This is the western world trending towards the norm of the rest of the world.
_________________________________
Examples, please?
There are, of course, upper classes and spoiled children in every nation. But at this blog, at least, people are always talking about how immigrants - with relatively few exceptions - have a better work ethic and sense of independence than the average American-born millennial. Such as Africans vs. African-Americans.
Lenona at March 22, 2021 7:13 AM
Lenona, legal immigrants (and even illegal ones) are not typical of the population in any nation. Just by the act of trying to immigrate they have separated themselves from the larger group. Legal immigrants have been filtered even further.
Are you surprised those are the qualities most nations look for in people wanting to join? Are you surprised that nations would reject people without them?
As for illegal immigrants are you surprised that people willing to walk through a desert, swim a river, and climb a fence just for a better work opportunity isn't something everyone in Mexico is interested in? That such people might be more driven than their neighbors?
This is the same phenomenon that causes opt-in programs of all shapes and sized to work. Charter schools, prison rehab, etc.
Ben at March 22, 2021 8:53 AM
Fine. I'm just looking for proof that "helicopter parenting" - the kind that coddles kids and shields them from adversity - started in the East and not the West.
However, it's easy enough to believe that the OTHER kind - that is, the kind where parents make their kids spend all their time studying and seldom or never doing chores - came from countries like China, Japan, India, etc.
But, the latter kind isn't the kind of parenting that makes the news as much, since teachers, for one, aren't as likely to complain about it.
Lenona at March 22, 2021 10:47 AM
I don't think helicopter parenting started in the east. Or anywhere in particular. It is a natural human trend for some to do.
"Sure their were kids like this back in the day, they were called spoiled, and heliocopter parents were called overbearing and overly cautious. But now this is the NORM and the majority. I just dont know how we got here collectively across the nation and maybe the western world." ~Lenona's quote
Spoiling happens everywhere. So do overbearing parents. The US used to see much less spoiling of children in part due to it's British Christian roots (spare the rod, spoil the child) and in part due to lower average wealth.
It is perhaps pertinent that both trends correlate with wealth. If you spend all day working you just don't have the time to spoil or smother your kids. Instead benign neglect becomes dominate.
Were you asking where the term 'helicopter parent' originated?
Ben at March 22, 2021 11:53 AM
Just to clarify, I don't think the "education is everything" trend necessarily overlaps with helicoptering. After all, quite a few kids would be glad to get out of doing chores. So, parents wouldn't necessarily feel the need to hover - so long as their kids' grades are good.
One popular theory is that, in the U.S. at least, both types of parenting are rampant in part because, in a post-Pill age, when the average parents have only two children or so, the parents tend to be far more protective, fearful, and/or demanding. Whereas in a family of a dozen children, you had to assume that at least one would die prematurely - or be a failure - and just accept that. (The real Mary Gilbreth, from "Cheaper by the Dozen," died at age four, of diphtheria, so there never were a dozen children.)
Lenona at March 22, 2021 12:31 PM
That is reasonable.
My father was an education only and no work type of parent. Which my mother took a long time to understand. In his case it stems from the boomer tradition of feeling the silents were too hard on them and forced them to grow up too fast. 'Hold on to 16 as long as you can' and such. So it was more of an infantilizing thing than being protective. I almost came to blows with him when he tried to unpotty train my kids due to the same pathology.
I would add to the post-Pill age stuff that rising wealth made it possible for normal parents to engage in the kinds of bad behavior that previously was only available to the rich and powerful. A trend that may not be enduring. We are at almost 50% of kids being raised in a single parent household. If you are the only adult you have to work. If you work all day you don't have time to do these things anymore. So I somewhat expect a philosophy of benign neglect to make a comeback in US child raising.
Ben at March 22, 2021 2:46 PM
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