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The photographer is Zoe Noble. She's interviewed over 40 women so far. There are short interviews of three (non-German) women (with 200 more waiting applicants). I thought some of their remarks were pretty memorable. Quote:
Lise Scott: ...It’s surprising how many women are offended by my (hysterectomy). They think, “What must you think of me if I’ve got kids?” I don’t think about you at all. I just don’t want kids.
When I became a nanny I saw how hard it was and realized, children are great for a few hours, but no way am I having them...
I ask people if they regret having them, and I’ve heard a lot of yeses. You can’t ever publicly say that, though. If a mom at the playground said that, no one would play with her kids. Of course, people regret being parents — it’s tough. People that employ me are businesswomen at the top of their game, and they need me. In today’s economic crisis, you also need to be able to afford a child.
People find my job flabbergasting. If you don’t want kids, they think you must hate them. It all boils down to education, cultural differences and religion. Women who don’t have kids are threatening because it’s a sure decision. People wonder, “What else is she going to want?”
Marcy Mendelson: ...As a photojournalist, I’ve shot for The Times of London and National Geographic; photographed a warrior initiation ceremony in northern Kenya; trekked 17 miles through harsh desert to find a collared cheetah — I could never have had those experiences if I had a kid waiting for me at home. I wouldn’t have been free enough in my mind to make the work that I was producing...
To be able to change your mind at a moment’s notice. To be free to develop yourself as a person, and not as a mother — that’s been great. I’m shocked that women still do the majority of child care. When people ask, “When are you going to have kids?” they can’t handle your freedom. If a woman is tied down with a bunch of kids, she can’t make too much trouble. They want you to be on their level, but don’t have the courage to say it...
People think that women without kids will die alone. Actually, there’s no guarantee that your children will care for you when you’re old. And nuclear families are claustrophobic. This “us against the world” thing leads to that American individualism where you have your little biological pod and everyone else be damned. I think “Golden Girls” is a pretty good alternative model to that...
(snip)
Lenona
at May 6, 2021 12:01 PM
This is what comes to mind when unsophisticated commenters come to Amy's and blithely, faux-wearily mumble silly things about oncoming "war" (or 'reckoning,' or even 'conversation').
Also, trekking 17 miles in ANY desert is not a mere "hike." It's dangerous, period. Even when it's your paid job.
In the meantime, here's what Cambion said:
"So many people who can't handle or afford kids for one reason or another will go and have them anyway because they think Gawd will provide or love will be enough or some ----, but then the kids wind up suffering because the parents had to have their own way. And honestly, if 'because I want them' is a good enough reason to have kids, then 'because I don't want them' should be a good enough reason to not have them."
Chauvin will get a new trial.
https://pjmedia.com/news-and-politics/victoria-taft/2021/05/05/8-righteous-reasons-why-derek-chauvin-deserves-a-new-trial-and-that-jurors-shirt-is-only-one-of-them-n1444691
I R A Darth Aggie at May 6, 2021 7:07 AM
"Women Who Said No to Motherhood
A photographer in Berlin is capturing the lives of the consciously child-free."
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/05/03/style/childfree-women.html
The photographer is Zoe Noble. She's interviewed over 40 women so far. There are short interviews of three (non-German) women (with 200 more waiting applicants). I thought some of their remarks were pretty memorable. Quote:
Lise Scott: ...It’s surprising how many women are offended by my (hysterectomy). They think, “What must you think of me if I’ve got kids?” I don’t think about you at all. I just don’t want kids.
When I became a nanny I saw how hard it was and realized, children are great for a few hours, but no way am I having them...
I ask people if they regret having them, and I’ve heard a lot of yeses. You can’t ever publicly say that, though. If a mom at the playground said that, no one would play with her kids. Of course, people regret being parents — it’s tough. People that employ me are businesswomen at the top of their game, and they need me. In today’s economic crisis, you also need to be able to afford a child.
People find my job flabbergasting. If you don’t want kids, they think you must hate them. It all boils down to education, cultural differences and religion. Women who don’t have kids are threatening because it’s a sure decision. People wonder, “What else is she going to want?”
Marcy Mendelson: ...As a photojournalist, I’ve shot for The Times of London and National Geographic; photographed a warrior initiation ceremony in northern Kenya; trekked 17 miles through harsh desert to find a collared cheetah — I could never have had those experiences if I had a kid waiting for me at home. I wouldn’t have been free enough in my mind to make the work that I was producing...
To be able to change your mind at a moment’s notice. To be free to develop yourself as a person, and not as a mother — that’s been great. I’m shocked that women still do the majority of child care. When people ask, “When are you going to have kids?” they can’t handle your freedom. If a woman is tied down with a bunch of kids, she can’t make too much trouble. They want you to be on their level, but don’t have the courage to say it...
People think that women without kids will die alone. Actually, there’s no guarantee that your children will care for you when you’re old. And nuclear families are claustrophobic. This “us against the world” thing leads to that American individualism where you have your little biological pod and everyone else be damned. I think “Golden Girls” is a pretty good alternative model to that...
(snip)
Lenona at May 6, 2021 12:01 PM
This is what comes to mind when unsophisticated commenters come to Amy's and blithely, faux-wearily mumble silly things about oncoming "war" (or 'reckoning,' or even 'conversation').
Crid at May 6, 2021 1:53 PM
"I’m shocked that women still do the majority of child care."
Yeah, but she's also impressed with herself for hiking and using a camera ...
Gog_Magog_Carpet_Reclaimers at May 6, 2021 4:21 PM
Journalism is kindergarten with beer:
https://twitter.com/kittypurrzog/status/1390300406102716423
Sixclaws at May 6, 2021 4:42 PM
Biden— Well meeee-yow!
Crid at May 6, 2021 9:10 PM
Ooperz https://twitter.com/ramanjr/status/1390366387504353296
Crid at May 6, 2021 9:12 PM
Gog, what's your point?
Also, trekking 17 miles in ANY desert is not a mere "hike." It's dangerous, period. Even when it's your paid job.
In the meantime, here's what Cambion said:
"So many people who can't handle or afford kids for one reason or another will go and have them anyway because they think Gawd will provide or love will be enough or some ----, but then the kids wind up suffering because the parents had to have their own way. And honestly, if 'because I want them' is a good enough reason to have kids, then 'because I don't want them' should be a good enough reason to not have them."
Lenona at May 7, 2021 10:24 PM
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