How Stella Found Out She'd Gotten Taken For A Major Ride
Author Terry McMillan is firing her muse:
(She) has filed for divorce from the man who inspired the 1996 novel "How Stella Got Her Groove Back," which chronicled the romantic adventures of a 40-something woman who falls for a guy half her age.In papers filed in Contra Costa County Superior Court, McMillan, 53, says she decided to end her 6 1/2-year marriage to Jonathan Plummer, 30, after learning he is gay.
The revelation led her to conclude Plummer married only to get his U.S. citizenship, she said. McMillan met Plummer at a Jamaican resort a decade ago.
"It was devastating to discover that a relationship I had publicized to the world as life-affirming and built on mutual love was actually based on deceit," she said in court papers. "I was humiliated."
In response, Plummer maintained McMillan treated him with "homophobic" scorn bordering on harassment since he came out to her as gay just before Christmas.
Something tells me the lady isn't "phobic" of homos, just a bit pissed that the guy she married happened to be one. Yeah, he came out at 30. Came out of the closet and announced he was an asshole.
Umm, I think it was actually based on SUGAR MOMMA, not mutual love.
Charlie at June 30, 2005 11:13 AM
Being a sugar mama is over-rated. I pay my own way, and I like the person I am with to do the same.
As for the coming out of the closet... I mean, if one is gay or bi, one knows it by the age of seven (at least I did). That kind of deceit hacks at the core of a woman's self esteem, because now it will be a long time before she trusts herself and her intuition - and even longer before she can have a successful relationship based on mutual trust. *sigh*.
I don't care what his orientation is. He's a butt.
By the way, how can you NOT KNOW that your partner is not attracted to you? Acting?? Hard to imagine anyone being that good at playing such a role.
Goddyss at June 30, 2005 2:25 PM
Apart from this guy really being a major asshole, I wonder how this is supposed to work in bed for him. Did he close his eyes and think of his Jamaican boyfriend? For 6 1/2 years? Poor Stella...
Rainer at June 30, 2005 2:53 PM
Never saw the film; know only that it made a bunch of money from an underharvested market sector in the mid-90's.
> how can you NOT KNOW that your partner is not
> attracted to you?
Take this to the bank: When you hear someone argue for the supremacy of emotion in human affairs, the feelings they will prove most concerned with are always, always, always THEIR OWN.
Crid at June 30, 2005 3:43 PM
Crid,
So her obliviousness contributed to the facilitation of his deceit. Okay. I'll buy that.
He's still a butt.
Goddyss at June 30, 2005 5:04 PM
My guess is that he's bisexual and did love her at some point, but got that seven year itch. Happens all the time, even in the best of families. It shouldn't make a difference if he left her for a guy or a girl, young or old. Plus, any 40-something man or woman that marries a 20-something play toy is an idiot if they expect the relationship to last a lifetime.
Was her husband Jamaican? Maybe being gay wasn't an option for him over there since it's a very homophobic culture. But coming to America with our more tolerant attitudes might have opened the door for him. Ironically, she may have "enabled" his latent gayness by bringing him here.
nash at July 1, 2005 2:56 AM
Come on goddyss, men (and women) fake interest to get what they want all the time. And fake attraction? All he'd have to do is go to that happy mental place where she looks like Brad Pitt (something I'm sure the rest of us have done at one time or another too).
I'm just pissed he's trying to break the prenup, isn't it enough the little asshole broke her heart?
And 'latent gayness' nash? Jamaica might be homophoblic as hell, but he was in America 10 years before he fessed up.
Lia at July 2, 2005 1:16 AM
Lia, some guys don't come out until they're senior citizens. That's 50 to 60 years.
nash at July 2, 2005 7:28 AM
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