Does Your Relationship Come With A Non-Disclosure Agreement?
It's really vile. People who feel wronged by their partner and then air their dirty laundry on a blog -- or YouTube, as in the case of a particularly pathetic apparent golddigger named Tricia Walsh Smith. Leslie Kaufman writes for The New York Times of the main problem, as I see it -- jerks who strip their partner or marriage bare on the 'net when they happen to have kids:
...This kind of brutal honesty is not a good idea for children, especially since most harbor feelings of guilt about their parents' divorce anyway, said Irene Goldenberg, a professor emeritus of psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles."It is not good for children to get personal information in that way," Dr. Goldenberg said. "And people have to consider doing things in the heat of the moment. The way they feel now will not be how they feel in two years, and there is no way it can be retrieved."
More on the marriage of the woman who made the YouTube video from MSNBC's Mike Celizic:
Philip Smith is the president of the Shubert Organization, the largest owner of theaters on Broadway. The organization is responsible for bringing such hits as "Mamma Mia!," "Gypsy" and "A Chorus Line" to the New York stage. Both he and Walsh-Smith, who is 25 years younger than he, are in their second marriages; he has two daughters by his first marriage and she has a son.When they were married, Walsh-Smith, a native of Great Britain, signed a prenuptial agreement giving her the couple's home in Florida and $500,000 a year in the event of a divorce, with the bulk of his estate going to his daughters. Walsh-Smith wants to get the agreement she signed thrown out.
Walsh-Smith wants a divorce, but New York does not have a no-fault divorce law, and marriages can be ended only for cause. In her six-minute YouTube video, Walsh-Smith presents her case, complete with salacious news about the couple's lack of a sex life -- which is grounds for divorce in the Empire State.
Midway through the video, she calls her husband's office to discuss the issue with his personal assistant. Later, she shows the camera her wedding album, making snide comments about family members.
She is furious, self-pitying, catty and weepy in the piece, which was filmed in her New York apartment.
Here's the Tricia Walsh Smith video:
You can't know from one side -- or maybe even if you hear both sides -- who's right. The last thing you're likely to hear is what you should: anybody taking responsibility for the partner they picked.
"The last thing you're likely to hear is what you should: anybody taking responsibility for the partner they picked."
Truer words never spoken, Amy. I spent 15 years dating and trying to please the blonde haired and the big boobed. It never worked out and intially I thought I just had bad luck. Turns out I was attracted to beautiful, superficial women and guess what....they don't make good girlfriends/wives! Alert the media!
I'm embarrassed that I wasted so much time, energy and money on women that looked good, but were so wrong for me. What makes it worse is that it was all my fault.
Tom at April 18, 2008 5:46 AM
But Amy - she does take responsibility, kind of, via her quote "I'm the biggest fukcing idiot in the world!"
And maybe she is! She also says "I'm a schmuck!"
But calling herself "Poor, vulnerable Tricia"?
Um, no, more like poor pathetic Tricia. Why did she marry this guy in the first place? M-O-N-E-Y. And now that it looks like she's not going to get much, she's turned into a bitter shrew. Boo hoo. Calling her husband's personal assistant was the act of a moron, at the very least. Perhaps the better question would be, why did he marry her?
Flynne at April 18, 2008 6:03 AM
That's an easy one Flynne. Like the song says
I did it all for the nookie, the nookie, the nookie....
(Even though she is whining about not getting any)
rsj at April 18, 2008 6:06 AM
Funny how (if he was a broke struggling actor) she would have already went back to London in a hurry. Gee, that big pile of money must be getting in her way! I don't think trophy wives are a new thing back in England either. Get a grip. Gold diggers will eventually dig themselves into a hole. She obviously signed something that she did not read and probably didn't even understand (too many $$$ signs in her eyes).
kbling at April 18, 2008 7:22 AM
Why are they getting divorced? Because of an article in a magazine? I didn't get that part, what with all the self-pity flying around.
The only way to keep yourself from getting into a messy relationship is to use both your libido and your brain to decide. If you're attracted to someone, use your ability to judge a person's character and decide if they are going to be good for you. Men and women both pick bad partners on chemistry alone, when they should really know better, especially after being burned a few times.
This woman is obviously just a golddigger who wasn't smart enough to have her own lawyer read the pre-nup before marriage, and now she's just pissed that she's not getting the big score.
Chrissy at April 18, 2008 8:22 AM
Poor, poor girl. Only $500k/year that she did zippo to earn. I do so feel for her...
bradley13 at April 18, 2008 8:23 AM
Let's see:
Post private stuff on the internet.
Make a telephone call to dump on a poor assistant.
Reveal that you think you are "stupid" and a "smuck," then prove it by showing you apparently run your life from a daily Tarot reading.
Yep. You have my sympathy. I just cannot figure out how the Tarot stuff could have let you make this awful decision to marry. I think you need to sue whoever got you using it, because it's obviously defective.
sirhcton at April 18, 2008 8:26 AM
Give her my number, let her call me for a Tarot reading, I'll give her a reading all right...
She said the reading she did for herself said "Victory!" I sure hope she gets that it means victory over her self-pity, and not that she's going to get more money; the "evil" step-daughter's got a lock on that!
Flynne at April 18, 2008 8:38 AM
Is she the one who lost a cat?
http://newscoma.files.wordpress.com/2008/04/attachment.jpg
Gog_Magog_Carpet_Reclaimers at April 18, 2008 8:41 AM
That is hilarious, Gog.
Amy Alkon at April 18, 2008 8:48 AM
TomI'm embarrassed that I wasted so much time, energy and money on women that looked good, but were so wrong for me. What makes it worse is that it was all my fault.
Heck, Tom, don't be embarrassed. There are far more men who never realize the error of their ways, until it's far too late, if ever. Imagine coming to that realization when you're 80! Or after you've married and spawned with one such woman and are therefore stuck with her in some fashion forever.
The thing I don't get is: now that Paul McCartney's free, why isn't this woman on the first plane back to the UK?
The video doesn't make me feel sorry for the kids, though, cause a) her son is already so messed up from having this as a mother that the video isn't going to make things worse. In fact, it might make things better, because women like this tend to be really charming when they want to be, making the kid confused about his mother's true nature. But this way, the kid gets to show the video to his shrink and the shrink can more quickly get an idea of what he's contending with. And as for his daughters: I'm sure they're overjoyed to get this woman out of their lives any way they can.
Quizzical1 at April 18, 2008 9:12 AM
The thing I don't get is: now that Paul McCartney's free, why isn't this woman on the first plane back to the UK?
I don't think Sir Paul would fall for the same kind of bint twice; Trisha's out of luck there, and she knows it.
Flynne at April 18, 2008 9:20 AM
>> now that Paul McCartney's free
I'd like to see her and Heather Mills do a three legged race off a cliff.
eric at April 18, 2008 9:34 AM
Is she the one who lost a cat?
Hah! Awesome. I love L.A.
justin case at April 18, 2008 10:01 AM
So, I'm talking to my husband and I ask him, "If you have a stroke, how much money do I get?" Then, I asked him, "If you get hit by a bus, how much money do I get?"
DearJohn at April 18, 2008 12:10 PM
How about a nice punch in the nose from Elaine Stritch?
Amy Alkon at April 18, 2008 1:03 PM
This kind of attention whoring makes me a little queasy. Apart from the damage it could do to their children, it's just tacky.
Monica at April 18, 2008 2:22 PM
Thank goodness there are women who are able to exemplify the strong, independent, ladylike qualities of the modern female.
Yeeeeuuuk!
Jay R at April 18, 2008 3:14 PM
I'm an alkonholic!
I need to think! But dis yenta is so ugly she hurt my feelings!
Frau Paris von Hilton-Cake at April 18, 2008 5:49 PM
> Frau Paris von Hilton-Cake
'Splain.
Crid at April 18, 2008 7:00 PM
We're waiting...
Amy Alkon at April 19, 2008 12:06 AM
You're waiting for a bot.
They never return calls.
brian at April 19, 2008 5:25 AM
Why are we so interested in other people's inferior wives?
- dedicated to my old buddy Crid -
eric at April 19, 2008 7:45 AM
Dude.
Crid at April 19, 2008 10:51 AM
Hmm....reminds me of my ex-wife, also from the UK. Could it be possibly that the majority of their female population are gold-diggers?
Bergsteiger at May 2, 2008 7:58 PM
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