Idiotic Partisan Crap I Deplore
I got this ridiculous note from somebody on Facebook (and I should mention that I have a lot of "friends" who've read my work or seen that I'm friends with their friends):
Amy, put on your Depends before continuing...Now now, this is sad: The First Lady is actually signing "vagina" in American Sign Language -- I kid you not!
(It's sad that Michelle is doing that to get the hard of hearing/deaf men vote.)
Here's the photo.
No idea what the inane comment about Depends means, and I hate getting mail on Facebook. I wrote back:
Thanks, but mail is hard for me -- I need to go to bed but I don't want to be rude (by leaving mail unanswered). I'm sure she had no idea and I'm not interested in these childish partisan politics. In the future, please leave me out of them. I am not a Democrat, and nor am I a Republican, and find the candidates running embarrassingly dim (Bachmann) and disgustingly anti-gay and anti-science.
I get this bullshit back...from a guy whose every post seethes hatred (not just disagreement) with the administration and the Democrats:
Amy, this is a non-partisan stuff-up
It exploded all over the deaf/HOH boards
Utter crap. I write back:
Please, stop emailing me this stuff. I need to go to bed. I am deluged with email for a living and I beg, beg, beg you, do not write me unless you need love advice and then send it to that address. I think Michelle Obama is pretty and stylish and I disagree with her on some points, and I don't give two crushed turds on toast what her hands are doing in a photo.
He has to continue:
Well, whatever... Sorry you didn't like it.
Me:
Please. Stop. Messaging me.
But, he can't:
Talk to you later.
What age are people who behave like this, 6? This behavior, and the thinking behind it, mirrors of the level of what passes for political "discussion" in this country.
(I'd rather talk to a monkey about the drapes.)







She's holding her hands in some random position meant to be photogenic. Most likely neither she nor the photographer had the foggiest idea that this is a sign in ASL.
Guess what, deaf people, the world does not revolve around you. Most people do not sign.
This guy seriously needs to get a life.
a_random_guy at December 8, 2011 2:09 AM
You'd be hard pressed to find someone who dislikes this administration and the criminals who run it but to accuse the First Lady of "signing vagina" is just stupid silly. *If* that were the case, you'd have to demonstrate to me that she knows ASL before she "signed."
A damned silly distraction and a waste of Amy's time. Of course if you were a ruder person Amy, you'd have ashcanned the original e-mail and devil take the hindmost.
BlogDog at December 8, 2011 4:47 AM
Sorry - insert "as much as I" after "run it" above.
BlogDog at December 8, 2011 4:48 AM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2011/12/08/idiotic_partisa.html#comment-2841241">comment from BlogDogPS I just realized, there's an article quoting me on manners in this Reader's Digest, but somewhat unbelievably, I haven't had time to look at it yet! (I've been researching herpes pretty intensively for a week -- to the point where I did nothing else but my radio show -- and am just recovering.)
Amy Alkon
at December 8, 2011 7:40 AM
So, what kind of drapes do you have? Do they retract side-to-side, or do they pull back with a holder thingy (don't know the term for it, after all, I'm a monkey!)? Are they flammable, or inflammable? Or is that the same thing? English is so hard for lower primates like me!
Jim Armstrong at December 8, 2011 7:50 AM
I was on Facebook for a while, and then dumped it. I guess if I were a writer I'd maintain a presence there out of business necessity, but the way my life is now I see no need for that kind of exposure.
My first serious* girlfriend got in touch with me on FB. She would only contact me through her work email, and was evasive when I asked if her husband knew about her getting in touch. It looked like a setup for an affair, and I chose to not do that. I gradually just stopped replying, and the messages stopped, although yesterday she sent me a powerpoint show (do you have any idea how long it takes to download a powerpoint show?!) which I won't be acknowledging.
If someone sent me a message on FB that started with the insinuation that I was incontinent, I'd have bundled myself off to bed with nary a thought as to my email reply responsibilities.
* The first woman with whom I had sex like frustrated minks.
Steve Daniels at December 8, 2011 9:01 AM
Yup - time to stop engaging with people like him who 'came here for an argument'. Tell em to stop and then stop interacting indeed - rather like a stalker.
AntoniaB at December 8, 2011 9:03 AM
On the subject of "too nice guys..." Amy, grow a pair. I realize that's impractical, but seriously...your first response could have simply said that you weren't interested in this topic, and that you wouldn't be responding to anything further on the subject.
Then, keep your word and ignore any future missives on the subject. It takes two to have a discussion, Amy, and you held up your end. Don't complain to us about it, because you didn't nip this in the bud.
Patrick at December 8, 2011 10:27 AM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2011/12/08/idiotic_partisa.html#comment-2841561">comment from Steve DanielsPublishers want to see you having a social media presence.
I merely post links to some blog items from here there, not what I had for lunch or what color my socks are.
Amy Alkon
at December 8, 2011 11:18 AM
Big vagina? Huge vagina! Gigantic!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TfHqv8YAA9w
Eric at December 8, 2011 12:58 PM
Then you're missing out on the true essence of Facebook, knowing what your second cousin twice removed is heating a Lean Cuisine for dinner or that your best friend from elementary school is glad it's Friday (or was putting on his shoes and wanted to remind everyone that toes go in first).
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I just got an e-mail at my work e-mail address with this as the opening line: "Could you refer me to the person who runs email marketing for [my company]?"
No "hi" or "let me introduce myself."
In the second (and last) sentence of the e-mail, the sender went on to state that her company has a new product that makes it easy to get data on e-mail addresses and that "it would make sense for [her] to speak with someone at [my company]."
So this what modern cold call sales has come down to? Spamming random people to do your research for you?
Why don't I just do your product pitch for you as well? That way you won't have to get off the sofa and actually do something.
Conan the Grammarian at December 8, 2011 12:59 PM
Actually, I've used Facebook to help people and to get help, and it's pretty cool to do that. I got Scott Barry Kaufman an apartment for his sabbatical using Facebook and hitting up my friends in a post. And I just messaged a writer to see if she knows anyone at Pravda -- need the op-ed editor's name/email. She's boarding a plane to Instanbul but says to email her in 24 hours. Pretty damn cool.
(I don't personally, in-person, know this woman -- I just read and respect her work, and sometimes link to it here.)
Amy Alkon at December 8, 2011 1:36 PM
Unfortunately, Conan is correct about the essence of Facebook...friends bombard you with the minutia of their lives...whether you like it or not. And if you don't, your options are 1) endure, or 2) commit the devastating insult of "unfriending" them.
Patrick at December 8, 2011 1:55 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2011/12/08/idiotic_partisa.html#comment-2841777">comment from PatrickNo, Patrick...fab option of "Hide Posts By..." in the little pulldown on the right of someone's post. I love it! No hurt feelings, yet you don't have to see the inanities.
Amy Alkon
at December 8, 2011 2:03 PM
Almost all of my "friends" posts are hidden on my facebook feed. That button is the best ever.
momof4 at December 8, 2011 3:43 PM
So we've got two examples today of someone intentionally mis-stating what someone that they don't like said. Amy, have you ever thought about a book concerning rudeness in politics? You wouldn't be short of material.
Cousin Dave at December 8, 2011 5:59 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2011/12/08/idiotic_partisa.html#comment-2842471">comment from Cousin DaveThanks, Cousin Dave, but I'm more interested in writing about rudeness for those who are reformable!
Amy Alkon
at December 8, 2011 6:02 PM
I'm with Patrick on this one. Just don't answer and don't worry about it. I have a couple of friends who text me then call half an hour later. Duh, if I didn't have time to answer before, what makes you think I do now?
If I send you the occasional email, I don't expect a response. If you're not interested, you're not. Doesn't worry me.
Ltw at December 8, 2011 6:19 PM
I *hate* Facebook.
At least a lot of people liked the photo, though. Can't say I liked hearing a couple of co-workers in the next cubicle today having an explicit conversation about one of them having her vagina photographed during childbirth. What's the sign for "wildly inappropriate"?
Lori at December 8, 2011 6:26 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2011/12/08/idiotic_partisa.html#comment-2842585">comment from LoriYuckorama!
Um...arms together from elbows to bottom of hands, hands spread apart to make a big "Y"?
Amy Alkon
at December 8, 2011 6:40 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2011/12/08/idiotic_partisa.html#comment-2842634">comment from LtwThis is not a friend, and I don't have friends who text me idiotic crap. Because I'm a public figure, I have a lot of people writing to me. Sometimes, their email is important -- or important to me to answer. Today, somebody wrote me a lovely note about my book. I want to write back and say thank you when people do that. I don't want to miss advice requests. I do my best to answer every one, if sometimes more briefly than I'd like, with a few lines and some book references.
Mail like this -- which is really about somebody showing off (their hatefulness of Democrats, basically -- or Republicans, when they send me a similar bit of partisan idiocy)...well, it just eats my life. I don't know until I open a piece of mail if it's somebody with something relevant and important -- like a commenter here yesterday letting me know, most helpfully, that my site was blocked at the library where she is, and then taking the time to write back to tell me the company they had doing the blocking.
I would feel bad if I missed an email like that -- not only because it was important to me to write the company (Barracuda) and ask to be unblocked -- but because that was somebody's act of generosity on my part, and I was moved by that. It took her time to ask about the blocking company, maybe standing in line to do it, time to email me, effort, and then doing it again. I stick my neck out for people, and I really, really appreciate when people do it for me. Likewise, a commenter here corrected the hate stuff creeps put up on my Wikipedia page. That, too. Those emails need answering!
Amy Alkon
at December 8, 2011 7:00 PM
"Yuckorama!"
I'm still laughing. Thanks, Amy!
The Y sign is handy for covering your eyes and plugging your ears, too.
Lori at December 8, 2011 7:16 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2011/12/08/idiotic_partisa.html#comment-2842708">comment from LoriHeh heh...glad to oblige! Have to put that one in my book!
Amy Alkon
at December 8, 2011 7:25 PM
Goodness. Can't believe people email you this garbage. Also can't believe that he just couldn't stop. I've felt some fear that I've been annoying the two or three times I've emailed you a question about writing, or an article, but I've stopped after perhaps a "thank you" second email at most....there's one exception, but that had to do with a correspondence with that idiot site Jezebel...and I know I stopped as soon as it was appropriate and the subject was finished.
And I'm not looking for approval or reassurance. Don't bother, I understand to the extent that I can (not knowing you personally) how incredibly busy you must be. I just wanted to express my sympathy and support regarding such an annoyance.
Jessica F. at December 8, 2011 8:07 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2011/12/08/idiotic_partisa.html#comment-2843015">comment from Jessica F.I've felt some fear that I've been annoying the two or three times I've emailed you a question about writing, or an article,
I appreciate all of that -- when it's about something that might be of interest, or an advice request...this is mail I want to get. In fact, I love getting this mail. And I sense that most people here sense that I can't deal with being any sort of continuing correspondent (on the level of "Hi, how are you? What's up?")
It's just when somebody's trying to aggrandize themselves by trying to get me to buy into their ugliness or has some similarly unpalatable agenda, that I start to resent them for eating my time. Also, when somebody asks me politely to stop something, I stop. And have, since I was about 8.
Amy Alkon
at December 8, 2011 9:03 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2011/12/08/idiotic_partisa.html#comment-2843020">comment from Amy AlkonPS Speaking of mail I'm grateful for, sometimes, when I'm dead tired, and realize I still need to blog, I open my mailbox and there's the perfect link for a blog item!
(Hi, Santa!)
Amy Alkon
at December 8, 2011 9:04 PM
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