Tonight, Advice Goddess Radio: Dr. Robert Trivers, Liars, Lying, Deception And Self-Deception
Nationally syndicated advice columist Amy Alkon's Advice Goddess Radio -- "Nerd Your Way To A Better Life!" with the best brains in science.
Tonight's guest is one of the rock stars of anthropology, Dr. Robert Trivers. We'll be talking about his very interesting new book, "The Folly of Fools," on deception and self-deception, which I've quoted from in my syndicated column. He's very funny and interesting -- just heard him speak at Cal Tech a few months ago.
Catch the show at this link at 7-8pm Pacific, 10-11pm Eastern, listen at the link afterward or download the podcast afterward (click "play in your default player"):
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon/2012/03/05/advice-goddess-radio-amy-alkon
Trivers will lay out we evolved to be liars, and how, in order to lie better to others, we often lie to ourselves first. (Even infants practice deception.) We'll discuss the myths people believe about how they can detect lies, and discuss how "cognitive load" (limitations of memory and mind) plays a big part in our detection of deception in others and how minimizing it in ourselves helps lesson our chances in getting caught in a lie.
By the way, Trivers' breakthrough research and thinking on reciprocal altruism informed my thinking on why people are rude and how to change things that I wrote about in my book, "I See Rude People."
Don't miss last week's show: Therapist Michele Weiner Davis did a terrific show on the sex-starved marriage, which is also the title of her very helpful book, The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon/2012/02/27/advice-goddess-radio-amy-alkon
This was show on how to bring the sex back into your relationship and manage things if one of you wants it more than the other (or if one of you wants it and the other wants it not at all).
It was really interesting and unlike all of those "sexperts" who basically tell you to put on a nurse's uniform and have at it, Michele Weiner Davis gives real, practical, pragmatic solutions for this problem -- ones that take into account how people really are and how life actually works.
Join us every Sunday, 7-8pm Pacific, 10-11pm Eastern, with podcasts available afterward. Catch shows you missed at http://my.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon.
Amy,
You've done the research. He gave you the credit for it.
It is a great thing to have respect from your peers.
Jim P. at March 4, 2012 8:02 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/03/04/tonight_advice_7.html#comment-3025987">comment from Jim P.Amy, You've done the research. He gave you the credit for it. It is a great thing to have respect from your peers.
The coolest thing is that not only you talk about me as Trivers' peer but he treated me that way and said he's going to use what I told him for his talk in Germany. He's done some seriously important work in science. What I am, however, is transdisciplinary, and because I don't have a Ph.D., or need tenure, I don't have to be orthodox or contained in my thinking.
Amy Alkon
at March 4, 2012 8:37 PM
Great show, Amy.
This one reminds me of the hearing of Clarence Thomas and Anita Hill.
I thought at that time of hearing either one has to be lying. Now I think it is possible that both of them were telling the truth through self deception.
So, either one of them were telling the facts but they both were telling the truth in the way they remembered the facts.
Also, I really liked your joke when he said "Amy, you not easy". Great comeback.
I am looking forward to listening to your next show.
chang at March 5, 2012 6:25 PM
Amy Alkon
http://www.advicegoddess.com/archives/2012/03/04/tonight_advice_7.html#comment-3032170">comment from changThank you so much chang -- that really means a lot. And that's a terrific example. And this show has likewise changed my thinking a bit in a similar way. And thanks on my joke -- I couldn't resist. I think I said, "That's not what the boys in high school said!"
Amy Alkon
at March 5, 2012 6:32 PM
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