Sexual Infantilization By The Government
Retired call girl Maggie McNeill blogs at The Honest Courtesan:
As I've pointed out many times, prohibitionist laws (and legalization regimes) are based in the ridiculous notion that sex work is magically different from all other work, and that whores somehow need "protection" from our own choices...
She links to a piece from the Sydney Morning Herald by Elena Jeffreys, former president of the Australian Sex Workers Association:
Sex workers (most commonly women) make money from sex work. The clients (usually men) pay for sex work. This is a relationship, this is negotiation and this is a system in our culture. Yet our laws, social mores and the morality police tell us it's scandalous - a one-way ticket to hell. Or jail, if you live in Sweden. All this assumes that sex workers and clients are supposedly doing something wrong.
But what makes it wrong? The government, even when it legalises or reforms laws in favour of sex workers, does not want to be seen to be endorsing sex work - just regulating it for those who are in it and need ''protection."
What are we being protected from? Why should it be reasonable to criminalise the negotiation of financial arrangements for sex? Rape is criminal. Violent assault is criminal. But consensual sex with a dollar figure attached to it is not. In NSW sex work is decriminalised and workers, clients and health advocates believe it should stay that way.
We are talking about 30 minutes or so of massage, sex, nakedness, talking, showering, then getting on with your life. Is that evil or wrong? Negotiate, pay or be paid, have sex, see ya later.
...In the words of author and sex worker Juliet November, "Sometimes sex work is about being gentle with someone's need for touch; sometimes it's about being kind toward a man who's ashamed of his body; sometimes it's about being friendly and fun with someone who's lonely; sometimes it's about holding someone's vulnerability very lightly in your hands; sometimes it's about making someone feel desired...sometimes it's about sharing intimacy, cigarettes and a laugh." So let's rid ourselves of our prejudices and preconceptions and repeat after me: IT'S OK TO PAY!