Read Postrel: Men would rather buy fake drugs than get the real stuff at the cost of telling the truth.

No.

Yes.

By construction of the situation, it's not about you. If that's a problem for you, hand the dude a bullet, tell him he dodged it, and depart.

At some point, I would want to know. Actually, if everything were perfect and blissful, I might not want to know, but if it let to too long-lasting and vigorous activity fo me, it would be nice to know about the Viagra. How is that to reconcile. Lol

I know men who use Viagra to "improve" performance, but the result may be a matter of opinion.

There are medical side effects. Do you care? If not, then don't.

So far BF hasn't needed it, and we're "busy" at least 5 times a week (we're both in our 50s, just for the record). When/if he needs it, I'm sure he'll let me know.

For the reason Jen mentioned, yes. I would rather know up front than be surprised by a medical emergency. It doesn't make any difference to me otherwise; if it's up, it's up, doesn't matter how it got there.

Once in a serious, committed relationship, you should know about each other's medical conditions and prescriptions. Before that, no.

When it comes to your sex life, ladies, you need only know one thing: are you satisfied? If not, you have three options: 1) tell him that you're not happy and why; 2) live with it; or 3) walk.

If you decide to tell him, and he does something about it, and it makes you happy, problem solved. You have no business knowing what anyone takes (if anythin) for any reason, unless the side effects can adversely effect you. Beyond that, the word is noneya.

And my advice to any man who's dating a woman who feels she has the right to know? Walk. Let the self-important busybody micromanage someone else's life.

Jen, if it's too long and vigorous, then you have the right to tell him and see if he does anything about it. But that doesn't give you the right to know what's in his medicine cabinet.

Why does everyone want to play Dr? This is personal business and you should leave it alone.

Guys don't care that women get implants to enhance their performance, or go in for all that anal bleaching, but take one little blue pill ...

Female Viagra? To Know Or Not To Know?...

If you're a man, and you aren't exactly 20, and a woman you've just started dating (also not exactly 20) is taking those little pink pills...do you need to know? Do you think you should?

Do you think the recent attacks on men demanding to know if their fiances are taking Pinkagra should have stopped at mere slapping?

"and a man you've just started dating"

and here we have the issue. HOW MUCH do you need to know before you get busy?

Have you both had STD test and everything is good? Might be a time to put that viagra in the information package, just as she puts in that occasional bout of cold sores.

I suppose this is a low number thing though... I've talked to any number of people and relatives, who have certain things they don't tell. EVEN THINGS that could effect THEIR PARTNER'S HEALTH.

My ex never told me she had cold sores, until she gave them to me. "everybody gets those." At 28, I had NEVER had one.

Does she need to know you take motrin for your achin' back? Than WHY would she need to know there is a pill you take to fix any other dysfunction.

SOMEDAY, your medical issues may become important for you each to know, but that would be in a committed relationship, yeah?.

Or are we arguing fraud here, that he needs a little extra help to satisfy you?

I would hope once in a committed relationship the guy would tell me, but really, if our sex life was good, I couldn't care less how it got that way.

I don't care how it works, as long as it works.

That being said, why would you hide it? If she has a problem with it, she's not for you.

I'd want to know if my husband had to regularly take Motrin for his aching back! I'd send him to my chiro. If he was hiding it, that would be weird.

In the context of being married or in serious relationship, I would like to know but it is not mandatory. Mostly, I would want to know because I care about my partner but can understand if he feels it necessary to keep it to himself. Would I tell my partner if I was enhanced in any way (pill or implant) - yep. For me, I'd rather know I am being upfront before being inflagrante.

For me, I'd rather know I am being upfront before being inflagrante. -- N at May 17, 2013 2:00 PM

Well aren't they already up front?

From an ancient Reader's Digest:

Our dear friend Trudy attended my husband's birthday party. Though she's been through a lot—including a double mastectomy and reconstructive surgery—Trudy was the life of the party as usual. Hugging her good-bye, I couldn't help noticing she had nothing on under her blouse. "Trudy, you're not wearing a bra!" I whispered.With a twinkle in her eye she replied, "I may be 70, honey, but they're only 15." -- Judith L. Krol

By the time I get into bed with a lady, we have discussed it at least a little. If you don't have the level of trust to talk about a blue or orange pill, are you sure both of them have the maturity to be in a sexual relationship. If it's a hookup it doesn't matter.

If it's a Friends With Benefits -- hopefully they can talk about it.

If it's a LTR or marriage, hopefully he tells her.

But the thing that everyone forgets with any of these pills is the desire, lust, sexiness for the partner needs to be there. I could eat a box of Viagra™ or Cialis™ but if I'm on a room of naked women that weigh over 300 pounds and the rolls of fat at the bottom of their thighs would be a butt on a small woman, I'm not going to rise to the occasion.

If the relationship isn't serious, then no. But if you're in a LTR with someone, or you're more than occasional fuck buddies, you should know about each other's chronic conditions.

Also, if you're in a LTR with someone, you'd probably run across the bottle of pills at some point, unless he's making a special effort to hide them. I go into my husband's medicine chest from time to time to clean the mirror on the inside. If he were taking medicine he didn't want me to see, he'd have to hide them somewhere.

And if you saw a bottle of little blue pills in the medicine cabinet, would you bring it up for discussion?

I,personally, would MMOB.

And WHY does this phrase keep getting ignored? "just started dating" Means NOT an LTR.

You'd think by the time it becomes an LTR you figure stuff out about each other... Picked up each other's prescriptions and dry cleaning, and know what week of the month to by flowers and chocolate.
But, at the beginning, is this something that is Primary Information That Must Be Shared, or Trust Is Broken?

If you believe this is a trust issue, then articulate why...

Just started dating? No right to know, but no shame in telling either. Honestly I'd think it was obvious. Marriage? Hell yeah you need to know what each other are taking-all meds have side effects and sometimes there are really rare really serious ones. Been to dinner twice? Viagra isn't the only thing yo're taking a risk he isn't telling you.

You know, some people are intimate before they have sex. I'm a big fan of the "know who you fuck" school of thought.

That being said, his Rx is his concern for short term relations, unless they pair up for realz. Then they should know medical shit about each other.