Among massage therapists, it's known as "release massage." It has a name because some people actually believe that's a legitimate service and massage therapists offer it. It's not, and we don't.

I love how Koenig gets all indignant as she protests that she's not some common trull but a therapist helping people feel beautiful. But Albert Ellis would undoubtedly disagree. The sense of self-worth cannot depend upon your ability to have an orgasm.

Well, as Olympia Dukakis said in Moonstruck, it ain't over til it's over.

Patrick, the thing is, you don't have to like it.It's a transaction between consenting adults that harms no one and, in fact, doesn't even involves anyone else. Hence, it is simply none of your business, nor is it the business of the government.

Of course, the religious right would be offended at the very idea that someone, somewhere might be having sex for the first time in their lives.

"common trull but a therapist helping people feel beautiful"

You actually can't be a common trull helping the disabled. It does take special training and compassion to get a disabled man off. It ain't like getting a regular John ya know?

What type of disability does he have? Will you break his bones easily? Can he even move his limbs? Does he even feel his penis? What is his mental capacity? Will getting excited cause breathing problems? And if you've ever worked with the senile they can be very very dangerous.

I think these hookers are great. People often think the disabled as an "unperson". Can you imagine what it's like being unable to enjoy a woman's body but you can't because of what X thinks?

BTW. I think sex for the elderly in our care is great. People don't realize they do it all the time, in bad conditions, and that they have a high STD rate.

" The sense of self-worth cannot depend upon your ability to have an orgasm."

Ah, but your sense of self worth obviously DOES depend on the state recognizing marriage between you and your same sex partner...
Pot, meet kettle.

The sexual needs of the disabled are finally being recognized in most of the West; see this tag on my blog for more items (scroll down in each individual column to the item labelled "Skin To Skin"). In Australia, there's even a charity called "Touching Base" which helps disabled people get in touch with sex workers experienced in helping them.

This is fabulous.

It's a refreshing deviation from patronizing the elderly and the disabled with childlike activities and comforts - they suffer enough indignities without being told that the only resource to help them maintain dignity is to ask the CNA to help them get into the group room for coloring.

"Selling's legal. F*cking's legal. Why isn't the selling of f*cking legal?" - George Carlin

Those poor men are being exploited! They're giving up their money for something that women should give away for free! Especially middle-aged women with dusty ovaries!

But seriously, folks, I really do think there's a bigoted undercurrent in every comment opposing prostitution. If these old and disabled men don't pay, they don't get sex; why is that? Why won't women fuck these men for free?

It's a legitimate service, it just may not be a legal service at this time and this place.

Should it become legal over the dead bodies of aghast "legitimate" massage therapists, you can bet your ass that within 1 - 5 - 10 years, "legitimate" massage therapists will all be describing it as a legitimate service too and describing all the benefits to physical and mental health, self worth, etc., it provides.

this is a great idea - period - and being disabled since birth, I've seen firsthand what a lack of sexual companionship can do to you. how many of you able-bodied people would go without sex for your entire lives because you can't find someone willing to do it with you? the brain might be the most useful sexual tool we have, but when your body doesn't look or function according to the standards of who's sexually desirable, then having these women available (I hope there are some men too!) shows a truly forwarding-thinking society.

licensing criteria for prostitutes

More government regulation and a barrier to entry into the market!

What?

Actually, Amy, I'm seeing this from the perspective of someone who's offended by the whore's suggestion that she's "trying to give people the feeling that they are beautiful."

That would take something other than sex acts. Nor should anyone's self-worth be based upon their ability to have sex. That would obviously place those suddenly rendered impotent in danger of suicide.

And I also don't think you understand what I'm saying.

Again, your sense of self-worth cannot depend upon your ability to have an orgasm. And I cannot believe someone who touts Nathaniel Brandon's book, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, would allow someone to claim otherwise. Branden even attacks the sense of self-worth that is based upon something far more logical than the ability to have sex. He also claims that it cannot depend upon your job or your relationships.

Her logic (actually, her lack thereof) communicates, "See? You can get off with someone! That means you're beautiful."

The flip side of that statement, of course, is "Well, you can't get off with a woman. Obviously, you're ugly."

And yes, Albert Ellis would have a very big problem with that. Which I believe you understand.

Not necessarily, Amy. However, my first comment was misunderstood. I said that it "cannot depend upon the ability to have an orgasm," and someone replied that apparently it can.

If your sense of self-worth depends upon someone touching you in a meaningful way, or having an orgasm, then it's not self-worth. It depends upon something outside ourselves.

I am all for people who want to be touched in meaningful ways getting what they want. I am suggesting that the whore's statement, "I'm trying to give people the feeling that they are beautiful" is false. She cannot "give" anyone any feeling.

So, obviously, she is suggesting that feeling beautiful depends upon the ability to have an orgasm.

Yes, it would take something other than that. I will not only continue to assume that. I will insist that you realize that. It depends upon something outside ourselves. Like self-worth, our innate sense of feeling beautiful would depend upon feedback from others, or even more tragically, sex acts. I object vehemently to this. If a person, for whatever reason, is not having sex, we have no right to suggest that they're ugly.

And yes, she is suggesting by providing sexual services, she is helping people feel beautiful. The converse is that they are ugly if they're not having sex. I object to this, and I will continue to object to this until the cows come home. She's providing sex. She is not making or even helping people feel beautiful.

She's actually an even worse whore than a common prostitute. The mundane streetwalker isn't pretending she's providing something other than sex.

Personally, I prefer people not find me beautiful. Or if they do, they can keep their damned opinions to themselves.

http://www.suicideforum.com/showthread.php?99357-the-need-for-physical-touch

https://www.google.com/search?q=people+need+touch

All we really need is our wire monkeys

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CU9jKlNK1Qc

People really don't need physical intimacy, just some (literal) fuck sticks.

http://blog.chron.com/sciguy/2007/11/on-the-sexual-predilections-of-turkeys/

When visiting my 91 year old father who resides in a retirement home, I wonder how do these people deal with the boredom and loneliness. Why would we get in the way of allowing simple human needs to be provided for those that want it? I bet when you're that age, meaningless fake morality seems especially punitive.

"And yes, she is suggesting by providing sexual services, she is helping people feel beautiful. The converse is that they are ugly if they're not having sex"

UM....alot of these men feel like garbage because they are not having physical contact in a meaningful way, even if it is by someone that is paid. From friends that work with the disabled, my understanding that they crave it and it fills up their esteem.

We should have a sense of self worth outside others, but we are talking about physical contact that is outside a rational mind. Physical contact is NECESSARY for all PRIMATES. Imagine never fucking a woman despite wanting it. Yeah good luck with your rational esteem.

"she's providing sex. She is not making or even helping people feel beautiful"

I dont understand your objection to her calling what she does therapy, she is providing therapy. Sex therapy makes alot of old men and disabled men feel wanted.

You ever listen to Howard Stern? When he got Eric the Midget (midget in a wheelchair) free brother services dude was high as a kite.

Anyways I had a therapist that did some form of physical therapy, let me tell you despite having paid her it increased my confidence by 100 percent.

That physical therapy by the way was hugging & other forms of motherly physical touch. My mom never touched me or talked to me so I had problems.

Dude my esteem went up 100 percent, despite the fact I paid someone to do it.

People really don't need physical intimacy, just some (literal) fuck sticks. -- jerry at June 8, 2013 4:03 PM

Jerry, please continue to think that way. I want to see where you are at forty.

For the monkey with wires thing.

Don't baby monkeys prefer stuffed animals with no food over wired animals with food?

Jerry, please continue to think that way. I want to see where you are at forty.

Sigh, I see mommy dropped you on your head again today. Have a friend read what I wrote aloud to you, slowly.

Don't baby monkeys prefer stuffed animals with no food over wired animals with food?

Yeah, I got that part wrong, because the study is sort of widely known as "wire monkey study" and I realized it one click to late. The monkey's do prefer the cloth monkey, not the wire monkey, but I think my point stands by citing that study, which was that the monkeys need some form of physical connection.

I would also add that if she's "helping people feel beautiful," she needs to own the opposite as well.

Suppose someone walks away from her therapy feeling, "I'm so damned ugly, I got to PAY a person to have sex with me."

If she's going to claim that she's helping people feel beautiful, then she needs to own that she's helping some people feel ugly.

"If she's going to claim that she's helping people feel beautiful, then she needs to own that she's helping some people feel ugly."

Why? You're assuming the men will feel disgusted with themselves after the act. If a disabled/elderly man gets to the point where he gets a hooker (which takes a lot of work for all involved, it isn't a quick decision) then he is most likely going to enjoy the act beyond what a normal guy would. Again because this is a choice that has multiple people involved, and frankly it has people involved that are sensory deprived, or don't think like neurotypicals.