Advice Goddess Radio, LIVE, Tonight, 7-8pm PT: Dr. Mark Goulston On How Real Influence Takes Persuading By Connecting, Not Pushing
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We tend to believe that we just have to reason others into doing what we want -- or even doing what we see is best for them.

The reality is, we influence people by connecting with them and feeling where they're coming from, not trying to push them into doing things our way, notes psychiatrist, business coach, and hostage negotiator trainer Dr. Mark Goulston.

Even if the shoving approach might sometimes lead to short-term change, it tends to breeds lasting resentment, not successful business and other relationships.

On tonight's show, Goulston will lay out the fine points of the connected influence that moves people to go along with our goals and how to avoid the disconnected style that moves people away from us and leads to resentment and other bad feelings and outcomes.

Goulston's book, co-authored with executive coach John Ullmen, that we'll be discussing on this show is "Real Influence: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In."

Listen at this link from 7-8 pm Pacific, 10-11 pm Eastern, or download the podcast afterward:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/amyalkon/2014/06/23/dr-mark-goulston-real-influence-takes-persuading-by-connecting-not-pushing

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