Please Feel Free To Call Me A "Girl"
Because I don't feel weak and victimized or feel diminished in comparison with men, you can feel free to call me a "girl" or "one of the girls." (I also won't mind if you call me bossy -- in fact, I take it as a compliment.)
Yet, there's this ridiculous pickywickiness on "girls" from actress Mayim Bialik, posted by Phoebe Maltz Bovy at The Forward:
Do you cringe when you hear adult women referred to as "girls"? Have you never really thought about the phenomenon? Either way, you should check out Mayim Bialik's video, "'Girl' vs. 'Woman': Why Language Matters." Bialik makes the excellent point that a man behind a bank counter would not typically be referred to as a "boy."
Ridiculous. (And Cathy Young points out why at the very bottom.)
The need to demand to be called some proper term -- "WOMEN!" or "WOMAN!" -- instead of the informal "girls," in fact, screams weakness. When you don't feel weak, when you feel the antithesis of weak, you can even shrug it off when somebody calls you what are supposed to be really terrible names.
I'm talking about how, for a laugh at work, the woman who edits me part-time occasionally calls me terrible names. Last week, she wrote on Skype something like: "Hurry up, whorebag." Me: "I prefer ho-bag, thanks." (The "hurry up" part is the only part I'm not quite sure of.)
Truth is, I love this. We have the least PC workplace left in America, I'd guess.
Getting back to the "girls" hysteria, one of the emotionally strongest people I knew -- the late Cathy Seipp -- would refer to people as girls. In fact, I named the breakfast we used to organize about once a month, the Writergirl Breakfast. It was a meet-up, about once a month at the 3rd and Fairfax LA Farmer's Market for writer friends -- almost always women, though we didn't try to make it that way. It just happened to be Cathy's circle from Buzz Magazine, and most of them were women.
Here's a sane thought in response to the Bialik silliness from another Cathy, Cathy Young:
I think "girl(s)" is generally used, in reference to adult women, as a counterpart to "guy(s)" https://t.co/KbuEqx6d7D— Cathy Young (@CathyYoung63) April 13, 2017