Okay, I really thought I was an accepting, open-minded person who wouldn't call someone else's fetish sick. But then I clicked on the link and found this sentence:

"For some it is very important to soak or even ruin very expensive shoes."

Nooooo!!! Won't someone think of the Manolos!?!

Ignore your sister ... normal is boring, and who can define "normal", anyway?

There are fetishes out there that you would NOT believe. This one seems harmless, easy to satisfy and fun for both of you. Lucky girl!

And normal is what? Riding crops and hot wax?

Interesting observation Amy makes. With all the life-changing adjustments that people make to get with someone, it seems silly to be creeped out by wet jeans.

Shouldn't you instead be more concerned about someone who wants you to get another job, become a vegan, or take up alligator-wrestling? Yet some would do all this, and just when you think their red-flag mechanism is broken, the thing suddenly starts firing...over a harmless fetish.

And if Sis is so bothered by all this, just remind her that she is under no obligation to date him.

Hey, if it was a T-shirt instead of jeans, we wouldn't even be using the word "fetish". . .

I find it telling that LW never says that she is creeped out by this behavior. We may not have all the info here, but it seems to me that she's mentioned it to her sister (and possibly friends) and sis was the one creeped out. Like Amy said, if it's not a problem for her, then what is the problem? From the link in the letter: If Wetlook is a person‘s only sexual activity, he or she will probably never have a harmonic relationship - or will even no relationship at all [sic].

If seeing her in jeans in the tub is the only way BF can have sex, then it's a problem. Otherwise, have fun. Consenting adults and all that.

And if Sis is so bothered by all this, just remind her that she is under no obligation to date him.

Right on. This letter is actually in the same vein as all those other letters Amy gets about women whose friends are telling them that either their guys are no good and to dump them, or they should ignore giant flaming red flags to hang onto him. It all comes down to external locus of control.

On a purely logistical note, and speaking as someone who's been thrown into a pool in those pre-shrunk, bootcut Levi's, I wonder how long the actual sex is delayed while she's trying to get those things off?

The LW's only mistake was sharing a private sexual matter with her sister. This matter is frankly none of anyone's business, least of all her family's.

She should have just written Amy first, gotten the go-ahead without dragging sis's opinion into it, and then had her fun with no guilt.

Yeah, that is kind of wierd.

Speaking of weird, I hear some women are really into having their men kill flowering vegetation, arranging the vegetation in a bunch, and then getting the men to present this pile of rotting vegetation to them on certain calendar days.

I also hear that such women are into guys spending a lot of money on useless minerals set atop rare metals, which the women then wear on their person, diplaying such baubles to others.

What sickos.

The LW's only mistake was sharing a private sexual matter with her sister.

Well, yeah, but sisters talk about stuff! Maybe she just wanted her sister's opinion. And maybe that triggered her sister's jealousy? Why else would the sister tell her to lose this guy? He sounds a bit of alright to me. o.O

Isn't this just bloody typical of women. One of the biggest problems I've had throughout most of my relationships is girlfriends gossiping about the our relationship and paying far too much attention to what their bloody friends think about it.

Ladies, please, just form your own damn opinions about your relationships instead of letting others do it for you.

That sounds fun! I already know beloved likes the standard wet t-shirt on me. Maybe some white synthetic slacks sometime soon. Khakis could work too. Not seeing wet jeans as a turn-on for him, but maybe.

Swear to God, Alkon— For L.A. at least, and perhaps the West Coast, you are the queen of blog comment titles.

This is a very special gift. You must strive to use your powers only in the service of good, and never for evil.

You must strive to use your powers only in the service of good, and never for evil.

Evil is way more fun. Be evil, Amy, be evil!

Yeah, I don't see the problem here. I read the letter a few times thinking I was missing something. If, for some reason, her boyfriend's "fetish" really makes her uncomfortable or goes against her morals I would say she needs to take a long hard look at the relationship and see if she can accept it...but we're talking abiout wet jeans, here.

I never heard of it before and while I like seeing a woman in a wet tee shirt as much as the next guy, this just sounds weird. That said, if she doesn't mind it, it's her business. Agree with Flynne, sisters (and women friends) talk about stuff, and sister just might be jealous.

LW, it's plain as day that your sister does not have your best interests at heart in this matter.

On a purely logistical note, and speaking as someone who's been thrown into a pool in those pre-shrunk, bootcut Levi's, I wonder how long the actual sex is delayed while she's trying to get those things off?

Well, how long did it take you NumberSix? And as Bill Clinton famously exploited, perhaps it depends on your definition of sex...

This has got to be the least kinky fetish of all time though. Unless he doesn't show any affection at all without it - which would indicate a problem maybe - I would say to the LW do it and enjoy the sex. People put up with worse.

And as Bill Clinton famously exploited, perhaps it depends on your definition of sex...

Valid point. Perhaps this does preclude actual intercourse, and it's a combination wet jeans/handjob fetish. Or maybe just while she's taking the jeans off, before they move on to other stuff. Although the manual dexterity that would require is astounding.

Valid point. Perhaps this does preclude actual intercourse, and it's a combination wet jeans/handjob fetish. Or maybe just while she's taking the jeans off, before they move on to other stuff. Although the manual dexterity that would require is astounding.

Oh, it can be done.
-looks around-
I'm told.
-leaves-

You must be ambidextrous, jdub.

Amy, as usual...dead on advice.

Just gotta say though...wet jeans in the tub? Her sister has a right to be concerned...it may not be about wet jeans at all, but the bathtub. Before long, as you all know all men are evil, she is going to have to lie in the bathtub full of ice to lower her body temperature to give into his necrophilia fetish...hypothermia might set in and he'll have a real dead woman on his hands...

Oh, wait...he likes wet jeans on his girl...provided this is a "treat" for him and she still gets hers without having to go through the wet jeans thing...WHAT IN THE BLUE HELL IS THE PROBLEM??? Crazy meddling sister needs to stay the hell out of it...sisters and girlfriends should ONLY be involved in dispensing advice when it is beneficial to both parties...as in "hmm, that might be fun to try..." Exception of course is bodily harm, unless if you're into that...these comments happen when my wife unties me...now if you don't mind, there is a very naughty girl in the other room that needs a spanking...

Never do anything that would turn your boyfriend on, because then you would be pandering to the male...penis?

These are the same women who think it's OK to see Chippendale dancers but won't let their boyfriends go to see strippers.

My goodness, that's the most vanilla fetish I've ever heard of. I can only imagine what LW's sister would say about my sex life....