Too bad he's not gay. Lots of gay men are really into fur.

Or so I've heard. ;)

Some women like hairy guys... they're like big teddy bears :) There's that, and also the Telly Sevalis look - bald on top, hairy everywhere else. SeXy :) :) :) You gotta find your match, man! Forget the "mangroomer", find the woman who will love you for who you are! "Who loves ya, Baby!"

Some women do like hairy guys. I just don't think that tends to include extreme back hair. That's a little prehistoric even for the women who are into the super high-testosterone manly-man look. Those guys most likely have some back hair, as the very hairy among us do. But a self-described "black beard" on the back goes way beyond that.

I'm not saying every man with more than a little back hair needs to hightail it to the salon right now. If you're cool with it, then be cool with it. But this guy's worried about his hair, and that's reason enough to look into removing it if he wants. Just like on the other column about the mustache, it's a woman's prerogative to not wax her upper lip if she doesn't want to (provided she knows it'll be working against her in the dating world). But I would tell her to do something about it if she was self-conscious. I don't think this is that different.

Note to the LW: My dad's had good luck with depilatory cream on his back (and a scar on his back where my mom dropped hot wax and burned off a chunk of skin when I was a kid). He has dense, black, coarse, wiry hair on his body and Nair has worked out pretty well in thinning the forest. Just another option if you want it.

Hey - love the ying-yang columns this week!

A little lip hair here
a little back hair there
dare to be bare
will shake it all about.
You do the waxing strip
and you pull it all out
and that's what it's all about.

Heheehee! Great poem, AntoniaB!

Yeah, the hairy-backed guy. Sometimes it looks okay, other times you want to throw him face down in front of a fire place. Either way, if HE is uncomfortable with it, he needs to fix it. Like the laday with the 'stache. It's how YOU feel about it, and what YOU want to do about it.

yuck - hairy backs. really gross.

"there's feeling a little body hair and there's feeling like Dian Fossey making the first peaceful contact with a mountain gorilla"

Lol .. enjoyed that line.

Fortunately, my wife likes gorillas. She often compares me to a Silverback (especially, while he was still alive, Goliath, the Silverback who died a few years ago at the Cincinnati Zoo).

Whoops, the free-associating is happening again--

Peter Boyle in Swashbuckler lying on his stomach while attendants break off a big piece of wax from his back, and the wax is covered with a mat of black hair....

Mom in "Malcolm in the Middle" shaving Dad's back....

Simmon's advertisements for back hair mattresses (but that turned out to actually be "back care")...

Yep, more than one comment with my name misspelled. The horror...the horror

I'm sure telling a man to manscape is way more PC than telling a woman to wax her lip. I can't wait to hear the non-response from feminists everywhere, completely unconcerned that a man is being forced to comply with american standards of metrosexuality.

I'm sure telling a man to manscape is way more PC than telling a woman to wax her lip. I can't wait to hear the non-response from feminists everywhere, completely unconcerned that a man is being forced to comply with american standards of metrosexuality.

You know, I have a lot of hair you know where, and I have been called "badger-butt."

If I go to the bathroom, or don't bath regularly, smell problems emerge. Rapidly.

Really, laser treatment there? I see no solutions.

Better hair than stubble...

@Bagder Buttocks

My very, very hairy boyfriend has been waxed "there." Only a couple of times, but it was awesome (he got the whole area done). We figured, it I could handle a Brazilian, he could do the "boyzillian." Give it a go! It lasts up to 6 weeks and ain't that expensive. Can't hurt to try. Well, yeah it can, but you know . . .

I usually get used to the hair if I like the guy enough. Also body hair texture is important. It feels nice to have someone with smooth silky body hair. But I've dated and loved a few woolly types and it's OK, it really is.

One guy found his pelt too warm in the summer and he clipped it. Not shaving. More like mowing and thinning. It worked for both of us.

@Badger Buttocks

I've had a laser treatment brazilian. It wasn't exactly pain free, but its certainly possible...at least on the female anatomy. Be brave!

Anyone notice how much friendlier this conversation is than the one about femstaches? I guess it's because Bristly wants to do what it takes to attract women and that just turns us all into nurturing big sisters!

I had a boss with a hairy back (found out when I patted his back and felt it through his silk shirt) and was grossed out. When I fell for my current hubby (Savalas redux), I was not at all put off by it. Sometimes, when he's just in his pajama pants, I just can't keep my hands off 'im. Woo-hoo!

Laser treatments really are a viable option if it's that important. It takes several sessions to get most of the hair off. It's great for thinning the forest, but there may be patches between treatments-meaning the thinning doesn't always happen uniformly. The good thing, is you can decide a week after each session, if it was enough and you can stop or if there is still enough nap to the fur to forge ahead with another round.

I have to agree with some posters that hairiness wouldn't bother me.

Do you know any women who never shave any hair? I am tired of women who are so overshaved these days. I want the natural look of the 70's back.

I can just see Meg Griffin shaving Peter's back while he purrs like a walrus. R-r-r-r-r-r-r-r.

For the record, back hair doesn't bother me. It's a normal thing.

Maybe slighlty off-topic, but as a man, I consider it a cruel joke of biology that the bit of hair that I actually want to keep (that on my head, naturally) is the only place I'm likely (practically guaranteed) to lose it.