Yeesh, talk about borrowing trouble. Way to play the jealous female and make the rest of us cringe, LW.

I doubt he even remembers that phone, and only has it stashed because he didn't want someone to steal his personal info from it. Back in the day I used to keep mine, too, til I married someone with access to an MRI :P

My hubby and I even joke when telemarketers call that we should tell our girlfriend/boyfriend not to call so much.

Seriously, an old phone in a box under a layer of dust is not a smoking gun of illicit affairs, it's a hunk of plastic and metal that contains data that could be used by a hacker and is best stashed until it can be properly disposed of.

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Is this chick for real?

ANYONE over the age of 25 (and I'm being generous here) has pictures of their ex. As long as they're not still prominently displayed all over the house, GET OVER IT. Way to be an over-sensitive drama queen. The fact that he told you to go get something from there in the first place says he probably doesn't even remember they were in there. Men aren't that diabolical. It wasn't some major plot to make you jealous.

It wasn't some major plot to make you jealous.

Actually, I think this was all a convoluted plot to get her into the box of junk and taunt her with the pictures. However, LW did not have use for their washing machine owner's manual as quickly as he'd hoped, so he had to invent a dire need for their 1998 tax returns. Because "accidentally" leaving not-very-incriminating photos on the coffee table is for wusses. A true diabolical genius will send you on a snipe hunt for his Wesley Crusher Fan Club membership certificate.

A couple weeks ago I was looking through a box of my boyfriend's old photos, and I found some of him and his ex 8-9 years ago. After making fun of his early 2000s hair, I showed him how to look her up on facebook and we discovered that she was married with a couple of kids. I can't fathom being in a relationship where any of this would be a Big Deal, to the extent that you couldn't even talk about it to each other. I feel sorry for both of them.

Wow, just wow ... who *doesn't* have photos of their ex's? It's just part of someone's life. I've never even heard of any such concept that you're 'supposed' to actually go expunge all prior record of previous girlfriends. I don't know how to say this nicely, but this seems a little psycho to me.

LW: Don't bring it up with your husband. I doubt he even remembers having the photos. Like everyone else, I don't see this as a big deal.

If my husband offered to destroy all photos of his exes, I'd think he was nuts.

Oh, absolutely don't bring it up with HIM.

Instead, I think you need to hunt her down and threaten her life, and the lives of her family, just to be sure she knows the score.

You cannot be too careful about keeping your man in line and away from the other women, you know.

Then creep back into your lair, and await the next threat.

"Wesley Crusher Fan Club"? Ye gods, such a thing exists??? I hated that little wuss. His mother was more masculine than he was.

That aside, there's probably a good chance that he doesn't even remember that he has them. It's not like he mentioned they'd be there when he sent her to find whatever it is she was looking for.

But so what? She's part of his past, much like his bike-racing trophy that he won at age eight. It's no biggie. Really.

I am totally loving the sarcastic replies in this thread. Spartee, you won this thread.

My husband has lots of pics of his ex-wife in a box, as well as their wedding clothes. They did some big Ren-Faire thing. And he's friends with her on Facebook, and he talks to her a few times a year via text or phone. The last time it was to tell her that he was going to be a father. It's OK. He's married to me now, but she was a huge part of his life for a decade.

I have pics of my ex-husband, too. I'm not throwing them away. We were together for almost 10 years, and those pictures include some very happy, meaningful times in my life (as well as other people I love).

Unless he's also talking constantly about his ex, it's no big deal.

If you died tomorrow, and your husband later found a new girl, would you expect him to throw out every photo of *you*?

"Amy-- I went to visit my new girlfriend, and the first thing that greeted my eye as I walked in the front door was a container with her ex's cremains. What should I do?"

Uh, nothing.

It seems silly to worry about.

Most men are creatures of habit, we marry someone, we get comfortable, we're no longer looking to go out and hunt for more. We might be driven away, and there are those who will just plain want to stray...but after you see a man come home and relax on a daily basis, you don't have to worry.

Bring him a sandwich, blow him regularly, and don't be a bitch every other day over little shit, and he'll be the happiest man in the world.

We are not complex enough to worry about memories of exes stuffed into dusty boxes.

The LW is creating drama where it does not exist. Which is the first and best way, to drive a man away. We HATE drama.