Licking For Love
I went on a first date to a Japanese restaurant. My date kept licking his fingers clean. All his fingers. One by one. He's otherwise a truly great guy, but I don't know whether I can date someone with such weird table manners.
--Shocked
Coyotes lick their paws for good reason -- because there's no waiter to bring them a warm washcloth in a little dish. When an adult human does this on the first date -- the date we all know is scored by a team of invisible judges in the mind of the person we're with -- you really have to wonder. As for whether this guy's dining behavior will be a deal breaker, when you don't have an answer, the best answer is usually waiting and collecting information until you do. So go on a few more dates. See whether he sticks his snout in the gravy boat. How you ultimately respond will probably depend on both the strength of your gag reflex and how old you are. Women in their early 20s will ditch a guy if his cowlick grows in the wrong direction. Women in their 50s and beyond understand that "truly great guys" are in short supply, and they come to appreciate the little things in a man, such as a pulse, bladder control, and the ability to remain awake throughout sex.








Most people are on their best behavior at the start of a relationship. This date sounds more like a Seinfeld episode. Is it possible this guy is running a little test of his own, as in: How much shit will this one put up with?
If not, then stand by for more odd behavior if you stick with him.
Pricklypear at January 7, 2014 10:03 PM
"Women in their early 20s will ditch a guy if his cowlick grows in the wrong direction."
Amy hilarious as always!
I once dumped a guy because he couldn't drive my car (stick).
BTW What the hell kind of Japanese food are they eating where you even touch it with your hands????
Ppen at January 7, 2014 10:05 PM
Sushi, probably.
MarkD at January 8, 2014 4:05 AM
Um ... as a woman in her 50's ... geez Amy ... I have higher standards than that ... and don't have to SETTLE for a simple pulse and bladder control. Careful with the stereotypes ... Please!?!
Becky at January 8, 2014 5:01 AM
"Women in their 50s and beyond understand that "truly great guys" are in short supply, and they come to appreciate the little things in a man, such as a pulse, bladder control, and the ability to remain awake throughout sex."
Lessee... one, two... Yes! Two out of three! I'm golden! Finally, I am the prom king! Just as soon as I get my nap....
Harsh, Amy. Ow.
minos at January 8, 2014 6:45 AM
Yes, Mark I know it's traditional but I haven't seen it done in the US but maybe im wrong and this dude is really traditional except when it comes to finger sucking.
Might as well go eat some motherfucking ribs if you are gonna do that.
Ppen at January 8, 2014 8:08 AM
I prefer regular ribs myself.
Thomas_Fullery at January 8, 2014 10:16 AM
Agree that the women in their 50's comment was not thought through.
Should I ever have the misfortune to find myself single again in this lifetime, I will not be settling for anything. I'd rather be single than have to be anyone's nursemaid. I'll do it for Mr. Laurie, but that's because I love him to death. I've seen far too many female relatives nurse their spouses through old age and lose their health because of it.
I apologize for straying from the finger-licking topic.
Laurie at January 8, 2014 4:06 PM
In response to the comments from women about not wanting to "settle" for anything, well, in that case the same may as well apply to men not wanting to "settle" for a woman that they aren't attracted to, or is otherwise unpleasant or unsuitable for them
The overuse of the word "settle" by women in reference to men is irritating to many men in that it implies the the woman using the word is superior and the man inferior. Are these women as a whole that superior to men as a whole that they're justified in making such statments?
Also, it can happen that a husband is in the position of having to take care of a wife in poor health. However, the mainstream media would portray a husband leaving his sick wife as as jerk, while the reverse situation would see the wife lauded as being "empowere".
Turnabout is fair play, afer all.
MIOnline at January 9, 2014 6:53 AM
Make that "empowered".
Another point: How many of these husbands in poor health got that way by sacrificing their well being for the sake of their families by working long hours at hazardous jobs?
MIOnline at January 9, 2014 7:04 AM
@"Women in their early 20s will ditch a guy if his cowlick grows in the wrong direction. Women in their 50s and beyond understand that "truly great guys" are in short supply"
I'm not sure most women ever grow out of this. I was chatting recently with a bunch of women friends (mostly in their 40s), and one started telling the others about a man who pitched up for a date with a friend of theirs, 'get this', 'wearing a fanny pack'! (lots of looks of shock and horror, and much mocking and derision of the guy followed).
I wasn't shocked women would behave like this, but hadn't expected it from supposedly more mature women ... also, none of them were exactly what men would consider 1st prize - past their prime, most overweight, some admittedly lesbian (but still complain about the 'lack of good men'). I mean, when young attractive women talk like that, it's not nice, but you can still sort of think, 'OK, you have your pick of men, so you can be picky'.
I've never worn fanny packs so no, I wasn't taking it personally - I just think that behavior is lame.
It was just like that Sex and the City episode where the one character dumps a perfectly good guy because he brings her carnations.
Lobster at January 9, 2014 3:52 PM
@MIOnline "the mainstream media would portray a husband leaving his sick wife as as jerk, while the reverse situation would see the wife lauded as being "empowere".
Sorry, off-topic, but related to this, I wonder how often men leave women because the women were abusive, but don't tell anyone because of the stigma, so get called jerks for leaving. Statistics show that women are equally often abusers in relationships as vice versa, but while woman are broadly encouraged to leave abusive men (even if there are children), a man who leaves a woman (if there are children) is broadly called a "jerk" by society and nobody cares if he was being abused. Men (with children) in abusive relationships are sort of trapped between a rock and a hard place.
@"Sushi, probably"
Sushi should be eaten with chopsticks.
I sometimes lick my fingers while eating, but my wife licks hers too, and she even teaches our toddler to do it :/ ... I've never given it a second thought, I don't have time/energy for made-up problems, as I have enough real problems in the real world to deal with.
Lobster at January 9, 2014 4:07 PM
I'd rather be single than have to be anyone's nursemaid. I'll do it for Mr. Laurie, but that's because I love him to death. I've seen far too many female relatives nurse their spouses through old age and lose their health because of it.
Catch it early enough and there's insurance for this sort of thing.
Grey Ghost at January 10, 2014 7:02 AM
Lobster- I think sometimes when women get together, they complain about men as some odd sort of female bonding.
I have seen this happen with women I know many times.
And to be honest, I would not date a man who wore a fanny pack,either. If I liked the guy already and he showed up with a fanny pack, I'd tell him if he isn't jogging or something like that, to please retire it and find a small messenger bag or something and I'd be happy to help him shop for one.
I really don't know how men manage without carrying a purse so I can see needing one at times....but not a fanny pack. Those ugly little buggers should be outlawed.
Linny at January 14, 2014 2:49 PM
Rejected for wearing a fanny pack? Wow, women are remarkably shallow.
I can't imagine any item of clothing or fashion accessory (other than, say, eyelid piercings or facial tattoos) that would lead me to reject a woman I was otherwise interested in.
jenga at January 21, 2014 1:32 PM
LW-- I can top that. I once went out to dinner with a guy who used the restaurant's curtains as his napkin (although in all fairness, he'd had too much to drink.
Laura Hope at January 28, 2014 2:01 PM
" I think sometimes when women get together, they complain about men as some odd sort of female bonding."
I've never liked it, nor participated, it just is really shallow and reeks of superiority. Just another way to say 'look how great I am! I can reject, him, him and him!' Bragging is just unattractive.
crella at June 23, 2014 11:08 AM
According to the first ten or so Google hits for "Sushi Ettiquette," you can eat sushi with either your hands or chopsticks.
clinky at June 23, 2014 3:40 PM
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