"Men are only as faithful as their options." Too many men live in a scarcity mindset re dating, hence the many dating gurus and pickup artist sites. They wouldn't be around if they weren't offering something useful. Just because men find younger women appealing doesn't mean they're actually there for us!

I had a cougar years before we used that word-- she was forty, I was 25. The sex was awesome, and I genuinely enjoyed her. She was the one who had age-difference issues, to where she dumped me for a lawyer 'only' eight years younger. I had no intention of leaving her-- I was living with that scarcity mode, and wasn't finding ANYone else. Besides, I liked her!
They split years later, and I scooped her up again. She dumped me right before Christmas that year.

There's a book "The Last Taboo" about older women/younger men marriages. One question the men keep getting asked is "What will you do when she gets REALLY old and can't keep up with you any longer?"
The men's answers were always "I'm wondering how long I can keep with HER!"

I'm not attracted to younger men and I suspect aside from a sexual fling neither are most women. In fact the thought of it is rather repulsive to me.

I don't want a provider or protector logically since I live in a modern civilized country where I can make my way. However I can't tell that to my sexual organs. I can't stop myself from desiring men who will fulfill that role.

And while I think men prefer fertile women jefe is right. Men tend to be more realistic in accepting their options and moving in a pragmatic direction.

I mostly dared younger men, and married one 6 1/2 years younger -- w started dating when he was 24 and I was 31. Still crazy about one another now that I'm 56 and he's headed for 50. I always found it easier to have a relationship of equals with a younger man. They never thought they *should* be able to take care of me, something to which I am allergic. I'm not talking "fetch me tissues and a blanket when I'm sick" caretaking; we all want that. I'm talking "Don't worry your pretty head about that" caretaking, which I loathe.

That's "dated younger men" of course.

My husband is younger that I am and I used to make "jokes" that he would soon leave me for someone younger and prettier. He didn't find them funny in the least and soon he sat me down and told me that while he wasn't interested in finding someone else because he loves me, the "jokes" were, frankly, insulting to his integrity and would be the thing that drove him away. I recognized that the jokes were really me expressing my fears and I stopped doing that. While it's true no relationship lasts forever, we are together until death do us part.

My age range when I was single was a couple years younger to a decade older... So basically my age ora bit older. My husband is sixmonths older

My hubby is 13 years older than me, but we've actually had the conversation that when he (most likely) dies before me, he doesn't want me feeling guilty about sinking my cougar claws into a young cub of my own. Our kids even joke about making sure the male nurses in my nursing home will be cute!

If I didn't love Hubby so much, I'd be looking forward to it! I certainly don't plan on sabotaging my twilight years' fun by stressing over whether or not it will last.

My hubby is 20 years younger than me. We met online and became gaming buddies. We had a couple of real life friends in common so we met face to face. I am genetically blessed in that I don't look anything like my real age.

My kids had mixed reactions. The Oldest told me boys her age were flighty and that he would break my heart. The youngest was proud of her Cougar Mama. I had my doubts, but took it one day at a time.

We just celebrated our Ninth Wedding Anniversary in December, and we're still going strong.

Age is less important than maturity IMHO. If you are compatible personality wise, age is just not that important.

ack, lady, you are 15 years older than him. Just fuck his brains out, have some laughs and move on.

I have always had an eye for younger men so I get it. They look fabulous and are very appreciative of not only the great sex, but the confidence, independence,etc. women our age and experience exhibit.

They don't want to marry women our age and we should not want to marry men their age. You're not looking for a trophy husband or boyfriend, are you?

Have fun with this guy while looking for the one who is right for you long term if it's a ltr you want.

Dana, I'm amused reading your comment because I suspect that most people would never consider there to be an age difference in a couple if the man were 6 1/2 years older.

"I have a friend who has a trophy wife. Apparently, it wasn't first place." -- Steve Wright