Right on, Amy! LW should text her a firm "No!" and make it clear that she wants no more contact with either her or her husband, and block her number.

I am torn on this one.

One the one hand, the LW OWES her nothing. She was conned just as much as the wife was and quite understandably wants to let this embarrassing incident go to the wayside.

HOWEVER, the wife obviously needs some sense of closure. If the wife is a Glenn Close impersonator, a bunny boiler who wants to get even, yes, sure, not a chance of meeting her.

However, what exactly are the chances of that? More likely she just wants to ask a few questions and see the reality of what happened to her.

The biggest risk is maybe a few raised voices which she can simply walk away from.

Splitting the difference, I would tell the LW to have the wife text a single set of questions to her which she would answer to satisfy safety and give her a low drama diet while giving the wife a chance to vent.

But it is not mandatory.

I like Fido's idea of minimal contact - I'll answer 5 questions by text, then my phone is blocking your number forever. Because though you don't owe it to her, I kinda feel like you should do it just because if you were her, you'd wanna ask those 5 questions. Because whatever story he's feeding her right now, she probably can't tell truth from fiction because he's really good at blending it to gray, and she'll know the truth when she hears it - that yes, he picked me up on a business trip, yes, he never wore that ring when I was around, yes, he took me to Vegas, yes, he did that thing to me he won't do to you, and yes, he said he loved me. I'm sorry.

Embarrassingly, this happened to me some years ago. The wife actually called me to let me know he was married with three kids. In my defense, I was traveling a lot at the time, he didn't live in my city and I just thought it was chivalry that he would always come to my neck of the woods. Anyway, I didn't believe her at first, but once I got confirmation I agreed to a phone call with her. She was just trying to get a handle on things. I told her everything she wanted to know and wished her luck. Heard from her once more, several months later. Apparently he was up to his old tricks and she wondered if I was involved. Hah! Not likely! Never heard from her again. I think it would be the kind thing to do for LW to answer some questions, although in person might be a bit hairy.

Yeah. I like the idea of a phone call. The wife will want to be able to emotionally gauge if the LW is blowing smoke or not. And the LW, if she wants to help out the wife (she seems to not want to. Her choice but I would consider how she would wish to be treated if the tables were turned), could take a phone call, which is even more pain free than a lunch meeting. Not as impersonal as text, but what is five minutes of her time?

I maintain giving this woman a "No!" to a meeting. You don't want this woman recognizing your face.

Just curious, though, about those who are suggesting she should entertain questions from the guy's wife. What questions do you expect from this woman?

I'm with Patrick and Amy. I'm also a wife.

I was in the LW position. The wife called. She asked 5 questions. i answered. She seemed tense but relieved to know what was what. That was it. Nothing more. I later learned she threw him out. She just wanted to know the facts so she could assess her next move. It was the right thing to do.

Wait... 3sum!

Oh, come on. There're only a few hundred million firearms in personal use in the USA. What are the chances the wife would have access to one?!

I say go meet the betrayed, angry, inquisitive, demanding woman whose marriage you helped destroy, preferably in a remote place with no witnesses.

What could go wrong? Nothing! Girl bonding, maybe, and some jokes about his bedroom skills. It's a no-brainer!