Areola 51
A lot of women are posting pix of themselves on Instagram in very skimpy attire. I don't feel comfortable doing that (though I'm in great shape), because I'm single and I'm afraid men would think I'm "easy." Am I right in thinking men don't take you seriously as relationship material if you post this type of pix? Or am I prudish and out of touch?
--Curious
Ideally, if you tell somebody you have a few more weeks out on disability, they don't immediately assume it's because you got really bad friction burns working the pole.
Evolutionary psychologist Cari Goetz and her colleagues note -- not surprisingly -- that men see skimpy attire on a woman as a signal that they can manipulate her into casual sex. (Women in their research also understood that men perceive skimpy attire this way.) But who actually ends up manipulating whom?
Just like in the advertising world, in the natural world, there are many, shall we say, less-than-truthful messages -- from humans, animals, and even some nasty little con artists of the plant world. Take the flower Ophrys apifera, aka the bee orchid. The bee orchid puts out fake female bee scent, and it's got markings and a slight coating of "fur" like female bees. The poor little sex-mad male bees try to hump the bee orchids and, in the process, pick up orchid pollen that they end up transferring when they try their luck with the next orchid in a lady bee suit.
Goetz and her team speculate that some women -- especially those who perceive themselves to be "low in mate value" -- use revealing attire to advertise what seems to be their hookupability and other "exploitability cues." However, these seemingly poor, defenseless sex bunnies may actually be looking to "advance their own mating and relationship goals." As for how this might work, if a man likes the casual sex and keeps coming back for more, maybe, just maybe, she can draw him into a relationship. (Hookupily ever after?)
However, this approach is a risky strategy because, as Goetz and her colleagues point out, "men found women displaying cues to sexual exploitability to be attractive as short-term mates, but, importantly, not attractive as long-term mates."
As for what you might make of all this, it's best to avoid clothes with coverage just this side of G-strings and nipple tassels, as well as overtly sexual poses (like sucking on a finger...subtle!). However, you can take advantage of evolutionary psychology research that finds that men are drawn to women with an hourglass figure (as well as...heh...women who use deceptive undergarments to fake having one). In short, your best bet is posting shots of yourself looking classysexual. This means wearing clothes that reveal your curves to a man -- but not your medical history: "I don't know her name yet, dude, but I can tell you that she had her gallbladder removed."








Came here for the drama, stayed for the puns.
"Areola 51" You owe me about half a cup of coffee, Amy. And some paper towels. I had to clean my computer screen.
Minos at March 6, 2019 9:44 AM
Minos, like you, I love Amy's wordplay too. I don't think I've ever seen anyone as clever as she is.
She and I would never be a good match -- I'm not taller than she is and she's very traditional when it comes to male/female roles (at least in dating) whereas I'm not -- but, when it comes to wordplay, she's my dream woman.
JD at March 6, 2019 10:19 AM
"men found women displaying cues to sexual exploitability to be attractive as short-term mates, but, importantly, not attractive as long-term mates."
For the most part, men very quickly sort women into two categories - "come home with me, don't stop until my ears bleed, then get the heck out" or "marry me, have my children, let me die in your arms." They don't mix the two. Women don't realize this because they perpetually believe they can turn the bad boy into prince charming.
Amy's advice about classysexy is right. You don't need to undress to get our attention; our imaginations are quite capable of doing it for you.
bw1 at March 7, 2019 6:33 PM
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